The reason why a lot of relationships are not working today is because most couples are not paying attention to their relationships. Every couple desires a healthy relationship and most are not happy if it’s not working. Being sad about it not working will change nothing, as we know anything we don’t change will not change. You are getting the same result in your relationship because you have been doing the same thing or things. Of cause you will get different result(s) if you start doing different thing(s).

If couples pay attention to their relationship, then, they can vividly point out those things that are not making it work.Though, there are lot of ingredients that spice up relationships, A research carried out on relationship and marriage effectiveness showed that communication is one critical ingredient for a healthy relationship.

What is communication?
Communication is an act of information exchange between two or more people. The essence of communication is to form a communication intent and to pass a message.

The above research carried out found out that most unhealthy relationship are not healthy because the couples don’t understand themselves. They don’t understand themselves because they cannot effectively communicate with one another.

Some communication components are:
– Message Composition: it has to do with how the message is composed, some people don’t really think or compose the message they want to pass. They don’t care how it will make the other person feel, they just say it the way it is.

– Message Encoding: This is also in a way filtering and preparing a message. Our words will do less harm, if we can quickly and consciously filter them, before we say them.

– Message Transmission: This has to do with the time and manner the message is being passed. People don’t care about other peoples’ mood or condition, if they are in the right mood to receive the message.

– Message Reception: People have different perception or intent different from the intent of the message sent to them. They react instead of acting on the message.Read More.http://relationshiptalks.com.ng/most-couples-dont-pay-attention-to-their-relationships/