A break up rarely happens in one day without any premonition. it usually takes time and often exhausts all avenue for doubt , suspicion, reconciliation and tolerance of a partner 's character.

Basically, a thoughtful appraisal of a partner in question and the relationship usually begins the process of a break up. Ending this series of evaluation and contemplation, Is a point of no return where the break-up is formally announced and received like a death sentence. The heart-breaker finally heaves a sigh of relief for the tough and execution of his long-conceived plan.

Currently, I believe some partners are already in the stage of contemplation and doubt about a partner or relationship. The fear of the aftermath of break up or sympathy is preventing them from making the final decision.
For me, the reason I'm contemplating a break up is because of her short temper, inability to understand jokes/sarcasm making us quarrel over little things, and a very serious abusive attitude. When angry she abuses and spits hot brimstones whereas I do not know how to argue or abuse even when I'm angry. She can even explode anywhere, even in public. I'm so worried about this though i love her. We've talked about this countless times, she just wouldn't change.

Kindly share with us those signs and premonitions you are getting from your current relationship, or reasons why you think a break up might be imminent and let us learn toward correcting our mistakes. thanks.

His policing nature.

Abusive

@OP are you a witch-doctor?

Or how do you what I'm contemplating to do or not do

@bros above me...pls read now.

She loves me with her whole life, yes am sure of that. But, the only reason why i don't want to marry her is that, I always loose appetite anytime she cooks, even if am starving. This is not about whether she knows how to cook or not.
we've been dating since 2012.
am scared to tell her that we should end our relationship.
I have shown her different bad attitudes, but she refused to let go. in fact, it was when I started treating her badly, that was when she started gluing the more.
My problem is that, I don't have the gut to tell her my mind of ending our affair.

herkeym001:
She loves me with her whole life, yes am sure of that. But, the only reason why i don't want to marry her is that, I always loose appetite anytime she cooks, even if am starving. This is not about whether she knows how to cook or not.
we've been dating since 2012.
am scared to tell her that we should end our relationship.
I have shown her different bad attitudes, but she refused to let go. in fact, it was when I started treating bad, that was when she started gluing the more.

Lol.. What came into my mind now is that part where Tekno says *YOU MUST MARRY ME* in that his duro track..

herkeym001:
She loves me with her whole life, yes am sure of that. But, the only reason why i don't want to marry her is that, I always loose appetite anytime she cooks, even if am starving. This is not about whether she knows how to cook or not.
we've been dating since 2012.
am scared to tell her that we should end our relationship.
I have shown her different bad attitudes, but she refused to let go. in fact, it was when I started treating bad, that was when she started gluing the more.

If you've convinced yourself, tell her no need to make her read through the lines.
She might continue to believe that its just in her head, sometimes love blocks our reasoning

herkeym001:
She loves me with her whole life, yes am sure of that. But, the only reason why i don't want to marry her is that, I always loose appetite anytime she cooks, even if am starving. This is not about whether she knows how to cook or not.
we've been dating since 2012.
am scared to tell her that we should end our relationship.
I have shown her different bad attitudes, but she refused to let go. in fact, it was when I started treating bad, that was when she started gluing the more.

unwilling to learn or change is the major problem......she probably thinks you can't do without her, that's why she thinks she can continue that way.

herkeym001:
She loves me with her whole life, yes am sure of that. But, the only reason why i don't want to marry her is that, I always loose appetite anytime she cooks, even if am starving. This is not about whether she knows how to cook or not.
we've been dating since 2012.
am scared to tell her that we should end our relationship.
I have shown her different bad attitudes, but she refused to let go. in fact, it was when I started treating bad, that was when she started gluing the more.

Tell her you are hiding under the shadows of attitude

funny enof u myt av exhibited some of d attitudes while still dating so she felt it was normal u

Open up to her it will hurt bt she will find love again

For every broken heart lies anoda heart ready to make it whole again.

Open up to her don't let it get to the peak dat wid tear her apart

herkeym001:
She loves me with her whole life, yes am sure of that. But, the only reason why i don't want to marry her is that, I always loose appetite anytime she cooks, even if am starving. This is not about whether she knows how to cook or not.
we've been dating since 2012.
am scared to tell her that we should end our relationship.
I have shown her different bad attitudes, but she refused to let go. in fact, it was when I started treating bad, that was when she started gluing the more.

after u don dey chop kpekus since 2012,u wan con leave her
Bros na wa o

bardella1:
after u don dey chop kpekus since 2012,u wan con leave her
Bros na wa o

chopping kpekus na fundamental human right as long as we are alive and healthy. no be say e sweet me as i wan leave her, just that I no wan marry person wey her food no dey hungry me to chop.

halfricanadian:



Tell her you are hiding under the shadows of attitude

funny enof u myt av exhibited some of d attitudes while still dating so she felt it was normal u

Open up to her it will hurt bt she will find love again

For every broken heart lies anoda heart ready to make it whole again.

Open up to her don't let it get to the peak dat wid tear her apart

Thank you so much for your summation.
I think my problem is that I don't have the gut to tell her my feelings. Anyway shall, I will summon courage to tell her after she is through with her ongoing exam.
Once again, Thank You.

NiRfreak:
unwilling to learn or change is the major problem......she probably thinks you can't do without her, that's why she thinks she can continue that way.

she definitely know that I can do without her, her problem is "she is blindly in love with me"

favoured234:


If you've convinced yourself, tell her no need to make her read through the lines.
She might continue to believe that its just in her head, sometimes love blocks our reasoning

you're right "Love blocks reasoning"

herkeym001:
She loves me with her whole life, yes am sure of that. But, the only reason why i don't want to marry her is that, I always loose appetite anytime she cooks, even if am starving. This is not about whether she knows how to cook or not.
we've been dating since 2012.
am scared to tell her that we should end our relationship.
I have shown her different bad attitudes, but she refused to let go. in fact, it was when I started treating her badly, that was when she started gluing the more.
My problem is that, I don't have the gut to tell her my mind of ending our affair.

What is it about then

Luckygurl:


What is it about then

I always loose interest before she even start cooking. Though, I do eat it like that out of pity. so, there is no way to know if she is a good cook or a bad one.

he is too cute for my liking!

refiner:
he is too cute for my liking!

you are joking right??.... or is it that u dnt trust him cos of his looks.?

NiRfreak:
you are joking right??.... or is it that u dnt trust him cos of his looks.?

nop dear....I trust him so much,infact he can die for me Buh he is too cute....

very much look like cr7

refiner:



nop dear....I trust him so much,infact he can die for me Buh he is too cute....

very much look like cr7

your case ehn..i think you are oppressed by his looks....try to improve on your looks .you are a cute gal too.....when u get more compliment i think you will feel better.

refiner:



no NiRfreak:....I trust Mr Cork so much,infact he can **** me anyday allnightloong & he too cute....

he very much look like cr7

..awwwww...you woud?...thats so sweet of u!!

herkeym001:

chopping kpekus na fundamental human right as long as we are alive and healthy. no be say e sweet me as i wan leave her, just that I no wan marry person wey her food no dey hungry me to chop.

I hia go tell am na..

Too much holy mary

@Mrcork u dey enjoy o....ride her on....

MrCork:


..awwwww...you woud?...thats so sweet of u!!

kwantinue deceiving yourself!....idiat?

NiRfreak:
your case ehn..i think you are oppressed by his looks....try to improve on your looks .you are a cute gal too.....when u get more compliment i think you will feel better.

lol...*speechless*

refiner:


kwantinue deceiving yourself!....idiat?

...like you don't want me....seerrioouly....Refiner is a stubborn goat..serrriously!!

Anyway, most o' my relationships gets sh#tty not because they ain't good people. What I observe is that when we get close as in really close, we see enough reasons why we shouldn't continue wasting our times. Never ever been bitter, always concessional.

r:
mrcork and refiner are dating/corking? :O

you

She nags, she wants to plan my every schedule nd she av fite wit everybdy in da area