Let's Discuss Marriage... Please share your views.
Was on a diatribes over this with a friend which went on for hours.
He said..."Dare I call it an interruption or a junction on ur road 2 de goal"
I was like..."U talk like u scared of marriage"
He said... Yep..am scared. Scared of making a lifetime mistake cos its a lifetime institution.
Don't really get it. More reason I brought it here.
My questions are:
1. Why do most men marry late even with their affluence? Are they scared or not just ready?

2. At what age do you think is good enough for a man to get married?
With or without income.

3. At what monthly income do you think as a man...you'll be assured that you can confidently run a home?

4. What's your opinion about getting married to a lady with Msc but not working. Do you think it's better to marry her unemployed or wait till she's employed or underemployed or better still have something doin'.
Maybe fear of becoming a house wife...I guess.

I know we have mature men and ladies on NL. Please, would kindly appreciate your opinions.
#peace

cc: mods

1. Men marry late because they just want to enjoy the single life

2. Why would a man get married without income? Ha

3. A man's income must be able to satisfy himself and extra 2 people (at least) conveniently before getting married.

4. Why would a woman with an Msc not have a job? However her employment status doesn't mean anything in marriage it's that of the man that matters

a man with N50,000 monthly salary can run a home if he makes use of it well

Vinshu:
1. Men marry late because they just want to enjoy the single life

2. Why would a man get married without income? Ha

3. A man's income must be able to satisfy himself and extra 2 people (at least) conveniently before getting married.

4. Why would a woman with an Msc not have a job? However her employment status doesn't mean anything in marriage it's that of the man that matters

seconded

cruzita:
a man with N50,000 monthly salary can run a home if he makes use of it well

I disagree. That will result in poverty in the long run.

Let's analyse.

Transport Mon - Fri to work: N8,000(per month)

Good Feeding (Family of 2 - wife and one child): N40k a month

Total: 48k it remain 2k.

Let's talk about Expenses:

- Nepa Bill
- TV Subscription(Dstv example)
- Telephone and Internet bills
- Fuel - Dis one light no dey
- Child little expenses
- School fees (every 3 months)

And other misc.

My sister, N50k cannot run a home. We are not even talking about house rent if house is rented.

Look as far as i'm concerned this topic brings in different sub-topics.

i personally believe that being rich is a mentality & planning in one's life should be utmost!. There is no amount of salary u collect, if u've not got what is binding enough to sustain ur marriage it will still collapse. If not, why is it dat some people u know that have enough money or u know their income is awesomely large still have finance problems or other problems at that. Even if u earn 500k per month, once u don't have the other things that makes a marriage tick, it will still head for the rocks. Why are we children of nowadays so money conscious. We know very well that our parents of then barely had enough funds yet managed resources together & sent us to school, even to their own detriment, yet they are content & happy.

I personally believe that no matter where u are, u are always in a position of envy to another person. Some people earn very low income yet u wonder how they managed resources to purchase somethings. (PLANNING & A GOOD WIFE)

I think the question here is greed. Even if we start earning that money we are aspiring to get, our taste moves up. we hear "i need to get that house in V.G.C" why? will u die if u don't have the house? i think being content is another solid factor.

Pardon me to say to the guys that some of u want to impress the ladies u intend marrying or u hope to meet that's why u are hoping to get to a particular class. What ever happened to those ladies u met while at school ready to be there for u thru thick & thin. Moreover when the money comes don't some of u later feel the girl u once had no more fits in? Dat's why we see lots of "made guys" still looking for a wiffy..

sometimes feel being single

just have baby mamas

Oohh aristotle96 was been asking abt this marriage thingy...now, big boy u have a chance to answers all these questions



Time starts ----now

Yes if only u marry d wrong person ooo

Vinshu:
1. Men marry late because they just want to enjoy the single life

2. Why would a man get married without income? Ha

3. A man's income must be able to satisfy himself and extra 2 people (at least) conveniently before getting married.

4. Why would a woman with an Msc not have a job? However her employment status doesn't mean anything in marriage it's that of the man that matters

Can you shed a little more light on the emboldened please?

cruzita:
a man with N50,000 monthly salary can run a home if he makes use of it well

If he marries a home keeper.

coolsix:


I disagree. That will result in poverty in the long run.

Let's analyse.

Transport Mon - Fri to work: N8,000(per month)

What if his place of work is trekable?

coolsix:
Good Feeding (Family of 2 - wife and one child): N40k a month

How did you arrive at this amount? Rough estimate I guess

coolsix:
Total: 48k it remain 2k.

Let's talk about Expenses:

- Nepa Bill
- TV Subscription(Dstv example)
- Telephone and Internet bills
- Fuel - Dis one light no dey
- Child little expenses
- School fees (every 3 months)

And other misc.

My sister, N50k cannot run a home. We are not even talking about house rent if house is rented.

I have a married friend that earns 55k monthly and they're cool.

He married a manager

Tallesty1:
Can you shed a little more light on the emboldened please?

A man's duty is to provide for his family isn't it? So how does the woman's employment have a part to play? The woman may* decide* to get a job and share her income with her husband but it's the man's duty whether she has a job or not.

So I repeat, her employment doesn't matter. A man s to provide for his family whether or not the wife is employed.

Thesonofmark turn up!


Cc: kramfonos

Vinshu:


A man's duty is to provide for his family isn't it? So how does the woman's employment have a part to play? The woman may* decide* to get a job and share her income with her husband but it's the man's duty whether she has a job or not.

So I repeat, her employment doesn't matter. A man s to provide for his family whether or not the wife is employed.

You're a feminist right?

Tallesty1:
You're a feminist right?

You want a woman to share in the job of a man but don't want to share in the job of a woman? And all you can say is that I'm a feminist?

coolsix:


I disagree. That will result in poverty in the long run.

Let's analyse.

Transport Mon - Fri to work: N8,000(per month)

Good Feeding (Family of 2 - wife and one child): N40k a month

Total: 48k it remain 2k.

Let's talk about Expenses:

- Nepa Bill
- TV Subscription(Dstv example)
- Telephone and Internet bills
- Fuel - Dis one light no dey
- Child little expenses
- School fees (every 3 months)

And other misc.

My sister, N50k cannot run a home. We are not even talking about house rent if house is rented.

Numerous households comprising at least 6 persons are surviving on far lesser amount in the slums and rural areas

Vinshu:


You want a woman to share in the job of a man but don't want to share in the job of a woman? And all you can say is that I'm a feminist?

Just answer my question if you can. You don't why I asked or what I want my woman to do so you don't know enough to form an opinion.


Are you a feminist?

Verbalist:

Numerous household comprising at least 6 persons are surviving on far lesser amount in the slums and rural areas

In slums. Do you they are happy in slums? Do you think they don't wish they can turn the hands of time? So you are encouraging people to live in slums?

Tallesty1:
Just answer my question if you can. You don't why I asked or what I want my woman to do so you don't know enough to form an opinion.


Are you a feminist?

I am a feminist.

Vinshu:


I am a feminist.

Alright.

coolsix:


In slums. Do you they are happy in slums? Do you think they don't wish they can turn the hands of time? So you are encouraging people to live in slums?

I surmise we're talking realism here. I don't know what their "ideal lifestyle" is but the fact is they're surviving... on lesser than N50k monthly.


It matters not where I encourage people to live in. The Poor will always live. Moreso, when we're talking about Nigeria. I hope you know the Per Capita income of Nigerians and our ranking on the global poverty scale

Verbalist:

I surmise we're talking realism here. I don't know what their "ideal lifestyle" is but the fact is they're surviving... on lesser than N50k monthly.


It matters not where I encourage people to live in. The Poor will always live. Moreso, when we're talking about Nigeria. I hope you know the Per Capita income of Nigerians and our ranking on the global poverty scale

That is why someone with 50k income should not get married. If those in slums didn't get married I'm sure those children will not be born the poverty scale rank will be reduced.

My point is anyone with 50k salary should not get married. Why subject a woman and her child to harsh condition because some people are living like that must we increase the number?

Josephamstrong1:
Let's Discuss Marriage... Please share your views.
Was on a diatribes over this with a friend which went on for hours.
He said..."Dare I call it an interruption or a junction on ur road 2 de goal"
I was like..."U talk like u scared of marriage"
He said... Yep..am scared. Scared of making a lifetime mistake cos its a lifetime institution.
Don't really get it. More reason I brought it here.
My questions are:
1. Why do most men marry late even with their affluence? Are they scared or not just ready?

2. At what age do you think is good enough for a man to get married?
With or without income.

3. At what monthly income do you think as a man...you'll be assured that you can confidently run a home?

4. What's your opinion about getting married to a lady with Msc but not work. Do you think it's better to marry her unemployed or wait till she's employed or underemployed or better still have something doin'.
Maybe fear of becoming a house wife...I guess.

I know we have mature men and ladies on NL. Please, would kindly appreciate your opinions.
#peace

cc: mods

.1 I guess the reasons vary. Likely financial limitations, still searching for the ideal partner, disillusioned with the massive failure of the marriage institution as shown by the high number of divorces, infidelity and domestic violence, etc


.2 No age is good enough. You settle down when YOU ARE READY.


.3 Depends on you. If you earn enough to pay the basic bills, you can run a home


.4 If she ticks the other boxes, you can marry her. She's a potential golden goose and will surely start popping the golden eggs once she clinches a job

KashyBaby:
Oohh aristotle96 was been asking abt this marriage thingy...now, big boy u have a chance to answers all these questions



Time starts ----now

I don't see any question o

coolsix:


That is why someone with 50k income should not get married. If those in slums didn't get married I'm sure those children will not be born the poverty scale rank will be reduced.

My point is anyone with 50k salary should not get married. Why subject a woman and her child to harsh condition because some people are living like that must we increase the number?

The flaw inherent in your argument is the assumption that people's fortunes will remain the same.

Should one then kill off his heirs and divorce his spouse should his fortunes take a nosedive for the worse?

Should one come out of poverty-induced celibacy to marry should his lot better tomorrow?



The keyword is BASIC NEEDS. If a man earns enough to provide the basic needs, he can marry.


Comfort and luxury, though desirous, are still wants.

Because fortunes might not remain means someone should start a family that is prone to hardship?

I never said a man must be rich. I did not state any minimum amount of income. I still stand by it N50k is not enough to run a home conveniently without any atom of harsh condition.

There is power of choice. Why would any man choose to bring in children when he hasn't enough money? When school fees come in how does he do it? Feeding? N50k in present Nigeria is like 25k let's be honest. And yet we are claiming poverty rate is high why won't it be high?when more people are being born into hardship

Verbalist:

The flaw inherent in your argument is the assumption that people's fortunes will remain the same.

Should one then kill off his heirs and divorce his spouse should his fortunes take a nosedive for the worse?

Should one come out of poverty-induced celibacy to marry should his lot better tomorrow?



The keyword is BASIC NEEDS. If a man earns enough to provide the basic needs, he can marry.


Comfort and luxury, though desirous, are still wants.

Vinshu:


A man's duty is to provide for his family isn't it? So how does the woman's employment have a part to play? The woman may* decide* to get a job and share her income with her husband but it's the man's duty whether she has a job or not.

So I repeat, her employment doesn't matter. A man s to provide for his family whether or not the wife is employed.

if I see comments like this I wonder why women are fighting for equal right with men.

coolsix:
Because fortunes might not remain means someone should start a family that is prone to hardship?

I never said a man must be rich. I did not state any minimum amount of income. I still stand by it N50k is not enough to run a home conveniently without any atom of harsh condition.

There is power of choice. Why would any man choose to bring in children when he hasn't enough money? When school fees come in how does he do it? Feeding? N50k in present Nigeria is like 25k let's be honest. And yet we are claiming poverty rate is high why won't it be high?when more people are being born into hardship

By which analysis did you conclude say a family of 4 can't survive on 50k monthly please?

Beats me

Vinshu:
1. Men marry late because they just want to enjoy the single life

2. Why would a man get married without income? Ha

3. A man's income must be able to satisfy himself and extra 2 people (at least) conveniently before getting married.

4. Why would a woman with an Msc not have a job? However her employment status doesn't mean anything in marriage it's that of the man that matters

Ah see yuh