Pls house I need constructive suggestions on how to handle or deal with a gf who will never make the first call to reconcile after an argument.

Pls suggest house

What's usually the bone of contention between you both?

christinie:
What's usually the bone of contention between you both?

I mean anytime there's any issue whatsoever, unless I call her she won't call.

Next time, don't make the call for reconciliation.
Wait and note her reaction after sometime in which you know she will expect you to make the call.

If she shows concern, then it means she is taking you for granted because you take the relationship more seriously.
If she still doesn't care, you know you are not in her league and for her, you can go to hell for all she cares.



But don't make the mistake of approaching her based on the issue, you will end up aggravating her pride.

I think you should learn to let her be too. It seems u r d only one doing the dating. Speaking from experience

Bluezy13:
Next time, don't make the call for reconciliation.
Wait and note her reaction after sometime in which you know she will expect you to make the call.

If she shows concern, then it means she is taking you for granted because you take the relationship more seriously.
If she still doesn't care, you know you are not in her league and for her, you can go to hell for all she cares.



But don't make the mistake of approaching her based on the issue, you will end up aggravating her pride.

God bless you for this comment bro. It's a bitter pill to swallow due to the love. But I do appreciate your comments and others too.

bord:
Pls house I need constructive suggestions on how to handle or deal with a gf who will never make the first call to reconcile after an argument.

Pls suggest house

She knows you need her more than she needs you. So if you don't call after an argument, she simply puts you in the recycle bin and deletes you after you clutter her bin!!!!

Matters concerning gfs? Put it in prayers!

A successful relationship should have balance... Both parties shld b invested equally and be willing to make it work. Forget the fact that u chased her and asked her out etc... U are DATING now, there's no more chasing... So if she is not willing to swallow her pride sometimes and see reconciliation nd u are always on d PLEADING side... My brother abeg switch go another girl lane, this current lane don get pothole

Girls bin the cause of their own problem

bord:


I mean anytime there's any issue whatsoever, unless I call her she won't call.

What are the issues mostly all about?

Bro... u hav been taken for granted!

christinie:


What are the issues mostly all about?

Haba, miss. He said issues na.

I act matured and show her I love her by apologising,I will do it twice,den I wont do it d next tym we hv problems..if she still doesn't call to make up,I will chat her up and tell her how immature she is..I will advise her to grow up..

My friend always had issues with her ex boyfriend because she usually caught him chatting/webcaming with another girl abroad. Do you expect her to always beg him after such fights?

If you are always the one provoking her, it is not unusual for her to wait for you to make ammends but if she causes the fights sometimes and still refuses to apologise, then she must be a very proud and arrogant being.

adepeter26:

Haba, miss. He said issues na.

I feel what matters is the reconciliation and the series of events that follows it.

U still asking of how to handle. Question shud be how do I dump.

christinie:
My friend always had issues with her ex boyfriend because she usually caught him chatting/webcaming with another girl abroad. Do you expect her to always beg him after such fights?

If you are always the one provoking her, it is not unusual for her to wait for you to make ammends but if she causes the fights sometimes and still refuses to apologise, then she must be a very proud and arrogant being.

Then it means that about 80percent of ladies are proud and arrogant beings.

christinie:
My friend always had issues with her ex boyfriend because she usually caught him chatting/webcaming with another girl abroad. Do you expect her to always beg him after such fights?

If you are always the one provoking her, it is not unusual for her to wait for you to make ammends but if she causes the fights sometimes and still refuses to apologise, then she must be a very proud and arrogant being.

But i think in the case of this op, the girl is d one at fault

Cutezt:
I act matured and show her I love her by apologising,I will do it twice,den I wont do it d next tym we hv problems..if she still doesn't call to make up,I will chat her up and tell her how immature she is..I will advise her to grow up..

I think i will apply this your idea in my case

LaurelP:


Then it means that about 80percent of ladies are proud and arrogant beings.

I also do agree with you.

He hasn't said so yet though I asked him twice.

adepeter26:

But i think in the case of this op, the girl is d one at fault

This deserve FP oo

christinie:


What are the issues mostly all about?

OP answer this question first.

christinie:
He hasn't said so yet though I asked him twice.

Dhen, lets see if he will

Fighting spirit detected.

adepeter26:

Dhen, lets see if he will

adepeter26:

I think i will apply this your idea in my case

lol...hav 1 thin/ in mind wen applying the last step,b ready to loose the relationship..but in most cases,a thoughtful lady will think it wise to apologize.

Cutezt:
lol...hav 1 thin/ in mind wen applying the last step,b ready to loose the relationship..but in most cases,a thoughtful lady will think it wise to apologize.

@bold, very correct. But this particular girl will still be forming Queen Elizabeth II
Seriously, am damn tired of apologising. Trying to yreat her like a queen but she's taking me 4 granted

At this junction, i wont mind loosing the relationship.

bord:



God bless you for this comment bro. It's a bitter pill to swallow due to the love. But I do appreciate your comments and others too.

don't make the mistake of loving any lady, they don't worth it at the end, I hope you won't regret it anyway, I wish you good luck.

What a man, are you really a Man?

Different people have different attitudes they bring into a relationship. I once had a girl who told me plainly that she would never work on fixing any relationship she's in, except it's her marriage. Well...that's a whole diffnt level.

As 4u...I'd advise you try communicating your views to her, & her response should tell you what you need to do. Let her understand that it takes two to make things work, else u find urself struggling in the relationship & trying to please her...& that is a one-sided relationship.

If it leads to a breakup, always remember...before her you had friends of the opposite sex, & after her u'ld still have friends.