I will return the slap with 100% interest!

ivanoj:

What if the woman is fun of doing that when there is a minor atgumrnt . we you keep ignoring even she been reported like twice for her to take caution?

Biko leave that relationship. That is abuse and it qualifies as domestic violence. If you fight back, you'll look guilty. Better still, snap pictures and keep strong evidences to protect yourself.

Izen:
First of all, why would you slap a man? A naija man for that matter? Are you dumb? Can you defend yourself if he decides to pounce on you or is there even a legal system to defend you? Ladies please, let us advise ourselves, it is never a good idea no matter how angry you are.
That said, guys be honest with yourselves please. You are no match for a woman strength-wise. When a woman hits you, she is most likely upset and not necessarily angry. (Check the dictionary for the difference, it is in the context.) She is not necessarily trying to hurt you and there is usually no power play involved. She is just trying to let go of steam. On the other hand, when a man hits, it is usually due to bruised ego and trying to put a woman in her place. Motive is what we should note here. Just like rape is more about power than sex so is domestic abuse when coming from a man in particular. There is not much harm a slap from a woman can do to you than a bruised ego and it is not life-threatening.
Now don't get me wrong, there are women that can be abusive especially when they start caring pestle, knife, hot water, etc. For all it's worth, disarm her with a punch if necessary, run and sue the hell out of her. I will back you up on that. This is only applicable if she hits first. If she is defending herself with any of this, it is still on you.
However, retaliating when a woman slaps you just because your ego is bruised is a no in my book. You'd have lost all moral justification by then.
Just my two cents.

Madam, calm down.
I'm not an apostle of violence but don't come here and tell us that a slap from a woman isn't meant to harm but only a way to let out steam and that from a man was meant to maim!

Slap na slap, no matter how you see am! Whether from man or woman,both are meant to let out steam.

Don't downplay the crime of violence because you want to side females.

if a girl slap me na die ooo...dia was dis particular slap i got frm a gal jst ova a small arguement choi dat gal no get hrt oo nd ha hand dey lyk 2 by 2 plank i for live am oo bt she do am in frnt of my guys omor i gve ha double portion of beating eh.....

If I slap my boyfriend then he must have done something really fuxked up....

if my gf is a feminist, I would return the SLAP In self defence. If she is not a feminist, and its her first time, i'll just let it slide and be the bigger person.

Rilwayne001:


Nope, I will rather turn the other cheek

Hahahaha...Boss, I love the way you lie

DrObum:

Madam, calm down.
I'm not an apostle of violence but don't come here and tell us that a slap from a woman isn't meant to harm but only a way to let out steam and that from a man was meant to maim!

Slap na slap, no matter how you see am! Whether from man or woman,both are meant to let out steam.

Don't downplay the crime of violence because you want to side females.

You need to calm down if you know nothing about psychology. I do not side any gender when it comes to violence. I always look to see the reason for any human action and until I get an otherwise statistic, I maintain my claim. I am a woman and though I have never and will never, I am certain that if at all I'm going to raise my hand to my significant other (not some random idiot), it'll be out of pain and hurt for what he did to me (and that thing won't be something shallow) and not because I feel insulted/disrespected and want to put him in his place. I'll probably be crying and saying why did you do this? E.g. I find out he infected me with an std (worst case scenario). Get it? For women, its not a power play and you better understand that. There's something called crime of passion so trust me, it's difficult to press charges because of a "slap" from a woman. And that's because the law is not stupid, they know it, you know it, I know it. If a two year old hits you, you know he can't harm you yet you hit him back harder to show him that you're not his mate, how dare he? It's the same with most men in this situation. Your woman hits you and instead of restricting her so she can't a anymore (that's what i do to kids), you'd rather beat her to a pulp to show her who's boss. We all know when someone means real harm. Stop deceiving yourself. The truth is you know when someone is really trying to harm you.
That aside, all I'm saying is from a psychology point of view. Go to the first part of my initial comment, I will be the first to frown at a woman guilty of this. I don't condone violence so don't try to change my narrative. Thanks.

Empiree:
This Happened in NYC


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Czb4rImsph0

THIS VIDEO JUST HIGHLIGHTED THE EXTENT TO WHICH A GUY CAN TAKE SHIIT FROM A GIRL.

IF YOU NOTICE SHE KEPT INSULTING HIM AND HE KEPT QUIET AND WHEN HE INSULTED HER BACK SHE HIT HIM, THAT'S WHERE SHE CROSSED THE LINE AND GOT WHAT SE DESERVED.

YOU SEE LADIES POSTING PICS OF HOW THEIR MAN SLAP THEM, BUT IF THERE IA A VIDEO LIKE THIS FOR ONE TO WATCH, YOU WILL FIND OUT THE LADY HIT HIM FIRST. IN THIA CASE I SUPPORT THE GUY CUS THE LADY HIT HIM, EVEN WHEN HE WAA ON HIS OWN.

vizkiz:
That is the day she will realise those moves jet li does in his movies are not all film tricks

You got me laughing so hard bro. Real funny

Rilwayne001:


Nope, I will rather turn the other cheek

Can I call you that word that rymes with "wussy" and starts with "P". Lol.

Just kidding. No beef

tintingz:
Question for guys : If your girlfriend slaps you, will you slap back?

Nope, I will never hit a woman. But... What I will do is sic my sister on her.

Genius.

NO!

Izen:


You need to calm down if you know nothing about psychology. I do not side any gender when it comes to violence. I always look to see the reason for any human action and until I get an otherwise statistic, I maintain my claim. I am a woman and though I have never and will never, I am certain that if at all I'm going to raise my hand to my significant other (not some random idiot), it'll be out of pain and hurt for what he did to me (and that thing won't be something shallow) and not because I feel insulted/disrespected and want to put him in his place. I'll probably be crying and saying why did you do this? E.g. I find out he infected me with an std (worst case scenario). Get it? For women, its not a power play and you better understand that. There's something called crime of passion so trust me, it's difficult to press charges because of a "slap" from a woman. And that's because the law is not stupid, they know it, you know it, I know it. If a two year old hits you, you know he can't harm you yet you hit him back harder to show him that you're not his mate, how dare he? It's the same with most men in this situation. Your woman hits you and instead of restricting her so she can't a anymore (that's what i do to kids), you'd rather beat her to a pulp to show her who's boss. We all know when someone means real harm. Stop deceiving yourself. The truth is you know when someone is really trying to harm you.
That aside, all I'm saying is from a psychology point of view. Go to the first part of my initial comment, I will be the first to frown at a woman guilty of this. I don't condone violence so don't try to change my narrative. Thanks.

DrObum's point are very valid.
@Izen, first of all you are basing your views on the fact that All women are weak and that a slap from a women won't cause physical pain to a man. This a very lie and WRONG. unless the slap is a light tap on the cheek, it would cause physical pain to both male and female, regardless of who is dishing out the slap.
You are also saying that MEN don't slap because they feel emotionally hurt, that we only slap because of ego.
And indirectly you're saying it's okay for a woman to slap a man if she feels emotionally hurt. If you agree with this, then I can say it is okay for a man to slap a lady if he feels emotionally hurt (like heart break and all). There are alot of "not quite right" things in your statement above.

In all what I am trying to say is
1) that it is not right to slap anybody (unless it's in self defence).
2) All slaps are painful, there is no painless slap (unless its a light tap on the cheek or that of a baby, and please don't compare the slap of a babe to that of a full grown woman).

TheBatman:

DrObum's point are very valid.
@Izen, first of all you are basing your views on the fact that All women are weak and that a slap from a women won't cause physical pain to a man. This a very lie and WRONG. unless the slap is a light tap on the cheek, it would cause physical pain to both male and female, regardless of who is dishing out the slap.
You are also saying that MEN don't slap because they feel emotionally hurt, that we only slap because of ego.
And indirectly you're saying it's okay for a woman to slap a man if she feels emotionally hurt. If you agree with this, then I can say it is okay for a man to slap a lady if he feels emotionally hurt (like heart break and all). There are alot of "not quite right" things in your statement above.

In all what I am trying to say is
1) that it is not right to slap anybody (unless it's in self defence).
2) All slaps are painful, there is no painless slap (unless its a light tap on the cheek or that of a baby, and please don't compare the slap of a babe to that of a full grown woman).

You lost me there.

Izen:


You lost me there.

i really don't know how to use the quote button very well, but the following are your words.
.................
When a woman hits you, she is most likely upset and not necessarily angry. She is not necessarily trying to hurt you and there is usually no power play involved. She is just trying to let go of steam.

" There is not much harm a slap from a woman can do to you".
...................
A woman's slap would not cause much harm according to you, infact from the way you wrote it, it seemed a woman's slap would cause little or no (physical) harm to a guy.
Now if a lady's slap won't cause any harm, then one can say it's okay for a lady to slap a guy. Hey it won't cause any harm (or it would cause very little harm) anyways. Now that was why I said your statement INDIRECTLY meant it's okay for a lady to slap a guy.

If you're still lost, then let's just agree to disagree. I no too get power to dey argue and i'm sure you don't have that luxury of strength and time too.

TheBatman:

i really don't know how to use the quote button very well, but the following are your words.
.................
When a woman hits you, she is most likely upset and not necessarily angry. She is not necessarily trying to hurt you and there is usually no power play involved. She is just trying to let go of steam.

" There is not much harm a slap from a woman can do to you".
...................
A woman's slap would not cause much harm according to you, infact from the way you wrote it, it seemed a woman's slap would cause little or no (physical) harm to a guy.
Now if a lady's slap won't cause any harm, then one can say it's okay for a lady to slap a guy. Hey it won't cause any harm (or it would cause very little harm) anyways. Now that was why I said your statement INDIRECTLY meant it's okay for a lady to slap a guy.

If you're still lost, then let's just agree to disagree. I no too get power to dey argue and i'm sure you don't have that luxury of strength and time too.

Alright fine fine. I was done replying you too but let's just say I get your point. My comment was in line with the mindset that men should go all out just because a woman slaps them. Read the previous comments from guys. Statements like this are very common when arguments like this arise, "If a woman slaps me ehn, I will so deal with her that her mother will see her and cry". In law, this is no longer self defense, it is now premeditated. It's like men really want to just put a woman in "her place" but since they know that'll be frowned upon, they look for the tiniest justification. In my initial analogy, I made mention of how you won't punch a 2 year old in the stomach for slapping your face. And why is that? Because the punishment wouldn't fit the crime. What would fit the crime is either to use two of your fingers to spank the back of his palm or for you to restrict both his hands by holding them firmly together. If you go all out on that child, you take the blame eventually. So a woman slaps you first, restrain her hands or slap your own back and let it end there. What the guys up there are saying is that they would beat her to a comma and feel justified doing it. And that's where my argument is stemming from. Just watch this link and ask yourself if this would still be justified even if the woman hit him first:
https://video-amt2-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t42.1790-2/18541062_256239664782466_4830522345984622592_n.mp4?efg=eyJybHIiOjMwMCwicmxhIjo1MTIsInZlbmNvZGVfdGFnIjoic3ZlX3NkIn0%3D&oh=a950ae2450aa0873040a6d13235d28ef&oe=5920EC12
That's all I have to say. And for the umpteenth time, I am not an advocate of violence from any gender. I don't condone it.