Pls i need your advise

My friend is dating this guy, The guy is nice, caring( at least he cooks for her once in a while), humble, Very religious and intelligent, but the only bad part is that the guy is verrrrrrrrrry stingy, he works in a bank but the lady has never receive a dime from him before.

He even escort her to the salon but he will never pay for the hair. hes always saying he does not have money. When the friend celeberated her birthday, the guy ignored her but now hes celebrating and has been disturbing the girl about taking him out and buying things for him, though the lady likes spending but she kind of skeptical about spending for him. Even his cousins confirmed that the guy is very stingy.
Another thing is that he likes receiving calls in private(like run to the bedroom to receive some calls)

The lady wants to leave him but am like theres no perfect man on earth but dont no what to advise her cos i cant stand a stingy guy too.

kem4lyfe:

Pls i need your advise

My friend is dating this guy, The guy is nice, caring( at least he cooks for her once in a while), humble, Very religious and intelligent, but the only bad part is that the guy is verrrrrrrrrry stingy, he works in a bank but the lady has never receive a dime from him before.

He even escort her to the salon but he will never pay for the hair. hes always saying he does not have money. When the friend celeberated her birthday, the guy ignored her but now hes celebrating and has been disturbing the girl about taking him out and buying things for him, though the lady likes spending but she kind of skeptical about spending for him. Even his cousins confirmed that the guy is very stingy.
Another thing is that he likes receiving calls in private(like run to the bedroom to receive some calls)

The lady wants to leave him but am like theres no perfect man on earth but dont no what to advise her cos i cant stand a stingy guy too.

He runs to the bedroom to recieve calls ? Thats another story but as for money, doesn't she have her own ?

If he doesn't give her money, tell your friend, or maybe its you pretending to be your friend to KILL HIM, that should teach him a good enough lesson.

kem4lyfe:

Pls i need your advise

My friend is dating this guy, The guy is nice, caring( at least he cooks for her once in a while), humble, Very religious and intelligent, but the only bad part is that the guy is verrrrrrrrrry stingy, he works in a bank but the lady has never receive a dime from him before.

He even escort her to the salon but he will never pay for the hair. hes always saying he does not have money. When the friend celeberated her birthday, the guy ignored her but now hes celebrating and has been disturbing the girl about taking him out and buying things for him, though the lady likes spending but she kind of skeptical about spending for him. Even his cousins confirmed that the guy is very stingy.
Another thing is that he likes receiving calls in private(like run to the bedroom to receive some calls)

The lady wants to leave him but am like theres no perfect man on earth but dont no what to advise her cos i cant stand a stingy guy too.

There may not be perfect men, but there are better men out there. Let her cut loose and find someone better for her.

On a side note, if he's running of making calls and she feels offended that he should ask her to take him out when he didn't do the same, why doesn't she address it with him? Communicate and stop second guessing someone! Someone once old me, there a lot of people who just don't see anything wrong with some of the absurd things they do, and it's probably because no one drummed into them just how absurd their actions are. Communicate!

ezinne1212:


There may not be perfect men, but there are better men out there. Let her cut loose and find someone better for her.

On a side note, if he's running of making calls and she feels offended that he should ask her to take him out when he didn't do the same, why doesn't she address it with him? Communicate and stop second guessing someone! Someone once old me, there a lot of people who just don't see anything wrong with some of the absurd things they do, and it's probably because no one drummed into them just how absurd their actions are. Communicate!

I agree with u, pple should learn to communicate, she shld sit him down, tell him how she feel abt him runing to bedroom or wherever to recieve calls.
For the money thing, don't spend on him during his B-day if he tighten up during urs, or show him how to do it, buy him things and shame him then dump him

posakosa:


He runs to the bedroom to recieve calls ? Thats another story but as for money, doesn't she have her own ?

If he doesn't give her money, tell your friend, or [size=18pt]maybe its you pretending to be your friend to[/size] KILL HIM, that should teach him a good enough lesson.

bad belle. why you dey expose our sister like this?

How much has your friend given him? When will women learn to work?

posakosa:


He runs to the bedroom to recieve calls ? Thats another story but as for money, doesn't she have her own ?

Exactly.

To be quite honest I don't really see why he should feel obligated to pay for her hair at the salon. I won't choose to go to the salon without knowing I can pay for it. Also, I don't really believe in guys giving girls money just like that all the time just because they're going out (occasional gifts are fine or help if she needs it and he's able) because it makes the relationship about money (as if he's paying for her affections) and that always causes problems.

On the other hand the guy IS acting shady. I don't care how little money you have, I think you can do something no matter how tiny on your partners birthday like get them a small gift or something. And it's also very "off" that he's asking her to take him out for his birthday. He sounds like a bit of a user or someone who likes to take advantage of others' generosity (in addition to possibly being miserly).

Lastly, the sneaking around with the phone, to me that's the icing on his shady cake. You/Your friend should definitely question where the relationship is going. Don't take action yet, just be watchful and see how it goes. The warning signs are there sha.

@Gew nd Pakasa , whatever
Why sud i pretend if its me as if theres a penalty for that, Please we are not kids on this forum what i need is sincere advise.

@1212 and justwise:

Thanks for the advise but what if she has been talking to him and each time she brings up the issue, hes comes up with stuff lik y dont u trust me i no wat am doing or sometimes he just keep quiet try to makes her feel she nags a lot.

@ezinne12

Communicate and stop second guessing someone! Someone once old me, there a lot of people who just don't see anything wrong with some of the absurd things they do, and it's probably because no one drummed into them just how absurd their actions are.

Gal, i feel ya.

Dont jst assume dat he knows the right thing 2 do. he probably havent dated b4 or all the babes he dated have been the ones spending money on him!!! so ask him and ask him again.

If he runs to d b/r to ans calls ask him casually who called. dont make it look like a big deal.ask like som1 dats concerned about his well being.

And for her to tek him out to dinner, well she shuld do it and told him hw she wished he'd thought of bringing her to same joint during her own bday
Above all communicate! communicate!! communicate!!! just know d appropriate time 2 bring up the issue like when u're buying him dinner.

well, some guys are stingy. since his cousins confirmed that, he might be a stingy person anyway.

sometime back, i was dating a lady that was constantly asking for money; i kept giving her until i was almost run down. when my account was almost in red, i had to end the abusive relationship. ( the girl was still insisting she loves me). i tried to be caring but she turned me to a "mugu"

needless to say that i didnt spend a dime my next gf.

kem4lyfe:

@Gew nd Pakasa , whatever
Why sud i pretend if its me as if theres a penalty for that, Please we are not kids on this forum what i need is sincere advise.

Its not Pakasa, its POSAKOSA. Sometimes you know, people often feel embarrassed that its them, Nothing to do with penalty but more of shame.

no answer @ poster

kem4lyfe:

@Gew nd Pakasa , whatever
Why sud i pretend if its me as if theres a penalty for that, Please we are not kids on this forum what i need is sincere advise.

@1212 and justwise:

Thanks for the advise but what if she has been talking to him and each time she brings up the issue, hes comes up with stuff lik y dont u trust me i no wat am doing or sometimes he just keep quiet try to makes her feel she nags a lot.  

lol, then it means the guy is a pro and she should split. I knew this dude for ten years and every year he forgot my birthday and i'd let it slide (stupidity). I'd finally had enuff and called it quits after a heavy fall out over another personal matter. After the quits, he popped up a week before my b-day claiming that it was my b-day and thats what i told him ( i was mad as hell!!) with a scratched rw disc that he claimed had music on it but was blank . Some people would think it was  supposed to be a sweet gesture but the guy was a cheap fool. I never onced asked this baboon for a dime, and continued to dodge emotional blows from him because of his insecurity. Everytime i think of the time wasted on that fool i cringe!!! Well, such is life, some people are disgusting and if you've wasted your time trying to figure them out and it's not working, let go and run!!!!!!!!!!!!