Decker:
@rahymat, why doesn't your cousin want to have sex with him yet? What's her primary reason? Is she still a virgin?

rahymat:
i asked her bt she doesnt want to tell me maybe shes embarassed

Decker:


Well, no can offer her advice when her reason for not wanting to engage in sexual intercourse with her BF isn't known.

Is she scared? Does she want to keep her virginity till marriage probably due to religious inclinations or personal reasons? If it's for personal reasons, then what are those reasons? Is she traumatized by a memory or sexual encounter she had in the past ? Does she not trust him well enough to offer her body to him? These questions must be answered first.

sapiosexual1:
Una sure say no be rahymat be the 'cousin'?
Anyways, some questions are pertinent : What's her inhibition to sex?
How deep have they gone in the relationship?
Have they gotten to the stage of smooching in the relationship?
How much does she love and trust the guy?
Is she a virgin?
The answers to these questions would give her introspection on what her decision should be.
Then I must say this : when a guy begins to talk about wanting sex so that he wouldn't need to go out and do it, watch it.......give him that sex or not, he would still go out if he wants to.

sapiosexual1:
Una sure say no be rahymat be the 'cousin'?
Anyways, some questions are pertinent : What's her inhibition to sex?
How deep have they gone in the relationship?
Have they gotten to the stage of smooching in the relationship?
How much does she love and trust the guy?
Is she a virgin?
The answers to these questions would give her introspection on what her decision should be.
Then I must say this : when a guy begins to talk about wanting sex so that he wouldn't need to go out and do it, watch it.......give him that sex or not, he would still go out if he wants to.

rahymat:
she said shes scared whether hes going to break up wit her after having sex wit her.she said she scared because she once asked him y he broke up wit his ex nd he said she likes sex too much.

cruzita:
let the guy look elsewhere .what nonsense!!! is he the only hot person?

Decker:


Now we are heading somewhere.

The fact that she is breeding such fears means that she doesn't trust him, and that's not helpful to the growth of their relationship. I am certain that this lack of trust also spans not just their sex life, but also other vital areas of their relationship.
Now, first and foremost, she has to check what's behind her lack of trust in him. Does she feel he doesn't love her, enough, probably cause he doesn't show it well enough or does she harbour a general deep-seated distrust in men?

Obviously, she isn't ready to have sex with him. It's her body and if she doesn't feel she is ready to offer it to him, she has the right not to. There is no point submitting to her BF's high sexual drive when she isn't doing it wholeheartedly. I think she needs to first develop that trust in him. She needs to know his level of commitment to her and see evidence of that commitment. When she is able to completely trust him and is sure of his love and commitment towards her, then she can allow him have sex with her.

AccaPack:
Rahymat, omo Alhaji, omo Alhaja, omo musulumi .

You should av told her to abstain from a sexual relationship instead of bringing d issue here.


If she allows, u will still come here to ask : "My cousin is pregnant but her bf said he isn't ready to be a dad, what should she do "

Iamsynord:
Iru ibeere ofo wo tun leleyi jesu olugbala :/

rahymat:
Can you guys demand for sex from a lady you truly love?.

rahymat:
lol ure quite funny dats y i said i need advice from u guys since i dnt want to advice her wrongly

AccaPack:

Even if you are not a devoted Muslim , I believe your parents are, for u to use that moniker.

Any advice u give, u will surely share from the results of actions taken as a result of d advice given.

Sex can't stop a guy from leaving, if he wanna leave or not meant to be hers, he will surely leave someday.

Tell her to abstain from sexual relationship.

Decker:


The thing is, if a guy loves a lady, definitely, he'd want to be intimate with her. And sex is the greatest form of intimacy. But loves isn't just about physical and sexual attraction, love also embodies, respect and sacrifice. And the willingness to wait till your partner is ready for sex, especially when she isn't officially your wife, is a form of sacrifice and an expression of respect for her.

rahymat:
why did u say im nt a devoted muslim i cnt advice a person based on my preference.d fact dat i talk abt sex doesnt mean i have sex.

AccaPack:


Politician : Hello Efcc operative, my party chairman asked me for huge amount of money, should I embezzle government funds?
EFCC operative : Oga, let me ask Nigerians, I will get back to you.

I hope u decipher that.