Dear Bunmi,

About three years ago, I used most of my savings to pay for my daughter’s marriage. She’s the only girl though we have two other male children. Shortly after she got married, I lost a lot of money through the crash of the stock market. I’m trying to find my feet financially, though it’s not been easy. My wife has a bit of an income and that helps. You can then imagine how I felt when my daughter announced recently that the marriage was over. I couldn’t believe it. Neither could my wife. Understandably, she should leave a marriage she’s unhappy in, but I’m really angry that I’m left almost destitute, thanks to a wedding that means nothing now.

She doesn’t know how much I spent on the wedding and how much money I have lost, but sometimes I feel like telling her, so she’s aware. Thank goodness she has a son to show for the charade, but why let us spend that much money? Taiye, by e-mail.

Dear Taiye,


Maybe you shouldn’t have decided to spare no expense at your daughter’s wedding if it was going to cost you such despair, and so much finance. It was down to you and not your daughter’s fault. Her happiness had to come first. She needs all the support she can get especially from her parents.

Carry on struggling with your finances whilst you give her all the support she needs. She’s probably going through hell and laying the guilt of an expensive wedding on her will make it worse. It was your choice to splash out! Money is important, of course, but people should mean more.

Read more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2016/04/failed-lavish-wedding-left-broke/

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Why spend so much money on a wedding just to impress people?

I"l still reiterate this to my parents, at 30, whether they like it or not, I'm not throwing a lavish wedding ceremony... it may just even be a court wedding. Any body wey wan chop rice make dem come my house, food go dey..

This shouldn't be news at this point, cause these days many Nigerians spend stupidly and lavishly for their weddings then when its time to provide for their homes, they are now broke...


Then you hear things like "I spent my life savings on our wedding and now she's telling me she needs money for this and that"


Sooner or later you'll start regretting spending too much on a days ceremony and subconsciously start hating your spouse for it...

donbenedict:
Why spend so much money on a wedding just to impress people?

I"l still reiterate this to my parents, at 30, whether they like it or not, I'm not throwing a lavish wedding ceremony... it may just even be a court wedding. Any body wey wan chop rice make dem come my house, food go dey..

Gbam.


Exactly how I will want my future wedding to be. Court wedding, then a noble refreshment for few friends and relatives.

No time for all those razzmatazz of big wedding abeg.

I even kukuma no like stress, attention and crowd.


If future hubby agrees, we are good to go.

It's no fault of your daughter.She didn't set out to fail in her marriage.
It was your choice to have an expensive wedding.

missbronze:
Gbam.


Exactly how I will want my future wedding to be. Court wedding, then a noble refreshment for few friends and relatives.

No time for all those razzmatazz of big wedding abeg.

I even kukuma no like stress, attention and crowd.


If future hubby agrees, we are good to go.

Most ppl say ds atyms but u know hw pressure from d public cn b overwhelmingly pressing and you may decide 2 do somfn a bit bigger than planned. No one knows hw big a party is till it starts..lol

Hmmmmmmmmmmm


Ok oooooooooo.

But where is lalasticlala sef

missbronze:
Gbam.


Exactly how I will want my future wedding to be. Court wedding, then a noble refreshment for few friends and relatives.

No time for all those razzmatazz of big wedding abeg.

I even kukuma no like stress, attention and crowd.


If future hubby agrees, we are good to go.

omgosh, I want to court wedding na. Let us marry asap!

I don talk am b4, if @ all I will marry, if Ee pass traditional marriage, few family members and few friends for the white wedding(if it must hold) then I no de do again.




That man for sell him house join na.



Mumu people everywhere.

U spent the whole money, while the people getting married doesn't even know the value of money,
If they had spent the money themselves, @least if not for anything, once they remember how much they have wasted, they will cure themselves that craze by fire by force.

missbronze:
Gbam.

Exactly how I will want my future wedding to be. Court wedding, then a noble refreshment for few friends and relatives.

No time for all those razzmatazz of big wedding abeg.

I even kukuma no like stress, attention and crowd.

If future hubby agrees, we are good to go.

Sweerie I agree jare, I know you hate stress and crowd.
I'm thinking next month, what do you think?

stinggy:
Sweerie I agree jare, I know you hate stress and crowd. I'm thinking next month, what do you think?

Hehehehe.
My sweet, I know I haven't been a gd frnd, pls forgiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiive me.

Are you still in town?