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Girls today are more likely than Guys to be Non-heterosexual. Why?


Psychologist John Buss estimates that for most of human history, perhaps 2% of women have been lesbian or bisexual, Not any more. Recent surveys of teenage girls and young women find that roughly 15% of young females today self-identify as lesbian or bisexual, compared with about 5% of young males who identify as gay or bisexual.

As a physician and a psychologist, what I found missing in the noise surrounding the Constance McMillen story was any serious discussion of why a growing number of girls self-identify as lesbian or bisexual. Not that there's anything wrong with that, as Seinfeld might say. But why are young women today at least three times more likely than their brothers to identify as bisexual or homosexual? "I kissed a girl and I liked it," Katy Perry told us in her #1 hit single. Megan Fox, Lindsay Lohan, Lady Gaga, Anna Paquin, Angelina Jolie, Drew Barrymore - they all want us to know that they are bisexual. There is no comparable crowd of young male celebrities rushing to assure us that they go both ways. Imagine a young man singing "I kissed a boy and I liked it." Would that song reach #1 on the charts? Why not?



Why is it OK for girls to be bisexual or homosexual, but not boys?

Over the past seven years, I've posed this question to hundreds of teenagers and young adults across the United States. The most common answer I get isn't really an answer. "Girls kiss other girls at parties because guys like it," one teenage girl told me. "It makes the guys hoot and holler, so the girls do it again. They're just doing it for attention. It's not for real."

I point out, as gently as I can, that that response doesn't answer my question. Pretending to be lesbian or bisexual doesn't explain why a growing proportion of young women are lesbian or bisexual.

Or does it?

Female sexuality is different from male sexuality. If a straight boy kissed another boy, perhaps to amuse some girls who might be watching, he would be unlikely to undergo a change in sexual orientation as a result. But, as Professor Roy Baumeister at Florida State University and others have shown, sexual attraction in many women seems to be more malleable If a teenage girl kisses another teenage girl, for whatever reason, and she finds that she likes it - then things can happen, and things can change. If a young woman finds her soulmate, and her soulmate happens to be female, then she may begin to experience feelings she's never felt before.

Especially if all the guys she knows are losers.

Which brings me to the second point I've encountered in my interviews with young people. Twenty years ago, when I opened my practice in a suburb of Washington DC, it was rare to find 14-year-old boys who were looking at pornography every day. Today it's common, in fact it's becoming the norm. When I meet with a group of 14-year-old boys and I ask them, "how many of you guys subscribe to a porn site?", all hands go up. I don't believe them. But today, no boy wants to admit that he's the weirdo who doesn't look at online porn. Twenty years ago, hardcore pornography was tucked away in adult bookstores. Today any 14-year-old can access such photos online in seconds.



Is there any connection between these two trends - between the rise in the number of young women who self-identify as lesbian or bisexual, and the increasing normalization and acceptance of pornography in the lives of young men? Maybe there is. A young woman told me how her boyfriend several years ago suggested that she shave her pubic hair, so that she might more closely resemble the porn stars who were this young man's most consistent source of sexual arousal. She now identifies herself as bisexual. "It was just such a welcome change, to snuggle under a blanket on the couch with my girlfriend, watch a movie, and talk about God and death and growing old, to be intimate emotionally and spiritually as well as physically. I don't know a guy who could even comprehend the conversations we have.




. But I have to wonder: Are there so many girl-girl couples out there because that's truly who they are? - or because the guys are such losers?

Lets have matured opinions on this apart from the writer's view. And what do you think causes d female being to become lesbian/bisexual?




Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/sax-sex/201004/why-are-so-many-girls-lesbian-or-bisexual

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Seun

What can I say,OP u are right to some extent

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Hmmmmm

This is serious. Waiting for comments, though.

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I think that's a very nice question..


Let's face facts. So many guys get turned on while watching two ladies making out..

It's societally acceptable for a girl to refer to her female friend as "girlfriend"




Most of today's porn contain lesbian scenes more dan gay scenes.


For me, i"d say a lot contributes to the fact that a lot of females are becoming more bisexual than straight.


Choice


Exposition


Heartbreaks from guys.



Childhood friendships

Eh


I don't knw hw i got here sef

juniorportland:
end time world.....end time post

it's very pathetic that the nigerian masses aren't open minded to certain issues.. nothing stops u from chipping in a matured comment with respect to the op's post.


Phew

i am gonna talk about lesbians in Africa, as there are ALWAYS been lesbians (and gays) in the west. let us be honest here, there are many reasons why there is sudden surge in lesbianism in Africa...

1) there was always lesbians (and gays) in Nigeria, anyone believing otherwise is a damn fool... but back in the days it was "taboo" and viewed as evil practices so these people had to suppress their homosexual impulses and pretend to be straight, while daydream about lesbian/gay sex. today its a bit more "acceptable" in Nigeria and therefore many are openly flaunting it... but its only with the younger generation. ask yourself, why you dont hear about OLDER gay/lesbian Nigerians? do you really believe there are NONE? or is it that the way they were brought up in Nigeria makes it impossible for them to come out the closet?

2) many African men FOOLISHLY dont suck coochie while we all know that the act makes some women lose their damn minds (sometimes it is the difference between good and bad sex)... so guess what? if men dont want to suck coochies, then these women will turn to each other and thus find fantastic pleasures. pleasures that it is OUR duty to give them. so lesbianism will bring pleasure to these women that the good part of African men are UNABLE UNWILLING to provide.

3) the African mindset is AGAINST women, they arent treated as equal, and no matter how successful a woman is, she must remain under a man (and married to one) in order to be respected in the community. so again, who can treat these women as EQUAL, if not other women?

4) we all know what women desire (aka care/affection/kindness etc) but African men see such practices as showing weakness in a union, and therefore you RARELY see African men being affectionate to their partner. women will show such affection/kindness towards other women naturally (because they know themselves and their desires).