sokar:
I have been dating a girl for 2 years. Everything is great, we love each other, want to get married when we graduate etc etc... However, she has outright expressed that she would not marry me if I wasn’t a Christian (I’m atheist). We have had some tough talks and we both aren’t willing to compromise on the issue. She wants to wait it out and see if God will talk to me or if I will change my outlook. I tell her it is probably not going to happen as I have wrestled with religion growing up and have come to my terms with it. Like I said, everything else is fantastic in our relationship, but I have been feeling like it will all be for naught. We truly believe that we want to marry each other. I try to explain to her that I think it could work with us not believing in the same thing but she does not. What should I do in this situation?

TL;DR Christian girl wants me to be a Christian before marriage, I probably won’t be. We both love each other dearly. Should we continue on?

nubian999:



Sacrifice yourself or believe that you are worthy of more... I find it's harder when a person who believes in God rejects and tries to dominate someone who has made choices for THEIR own soul. I mean the whole idea of God is a personal thing so why violate free will? Another way to look at it would be... if you Love this woman with all her rituals and that you wouldn't mind sending your children to church once a week or more then what's the problem? I guess you have a choice to make.

If you hate God and she hates knowledge then what's Love got to do with it?

SillyeRabbit:
Sorry but this is a dumb advice. Just can't stop myself from saying this.

nubian999:


Sorry... are you the op?

Modified: Ok. That's fine hun thanks for the feed back.

SillyeRabbit:
You are welcome But next time, no thanks needed, cuz i hardly care

nobilis:
Well, she doesn't love you if her reason for marrying you is that you abandon ur beliefs or their absence thereof.

Love transcends all forms of religions, creed, tribal, ethnic and racial divides. True love actually recognises no boundaries whatsoever.

But u can't really blame her because their bible advised them not to be unevenly yoked to unbelievers.

So obviously, you're gonna lose ur girlfriend to her bible. And if that happens, I pray her bible gets to marry her.

When Love is pure and true, nothing else, I repeat, nothing else matters.

na by force

100Cents:
YOU NEED JESUS

Cutehector:
Sokar, God loves you.. more that you could ever imagine.

nobilis:
Well, she doesn't love you if her reason for marrying you is that you abandon ur beliefs or their absence thereof.

Love transcends all forms of religions, creed, tribal, ethnic and racial divides. True love actually recognises no boundaries whatsoever.

But u can't really blame her because their bible advised them not to be unevenly yoked to unbelievers.

So obviously, you're gonna lose ur girlfriend to her bible. And if that happens, I pray her bible gets to marry her.

When Love is pure and true, nothing else, I repeat, nothing else matters.

sokar:


Ok, but it still doesn't change anything especially the matter at hand.

nubian999:



Sacrifice yourself or believe that you are worthy of more... I find it's harder when a person who believes in God rejects and tries to dominate someone who has made choices for THEIR own soul. I mean the whole idea of God is a personal thing so why violate free will? Another way to look at it would be... if you Love this woman with all her rituals and that you wouldn't mind sending your children to church once a week or more then what's the problem? I guess you have a choice to make.

If you hate God and she hates knowledge then what's Love got to do with it?

Cutehector:
of course it does.. u see, to be very honest with u, u will have a lot of difficulties in try to get a wife who doesn't share your views abt the supernatural.. especially one that doesn't even believe in the existence of God. It will always be a topic of discussion before you two get married.


If u say you love her den u have to do what she demands, even Solomon ditched God because of the love he had for his concubines who were unbelievers, God cursed him and banished him entirely.. well I dnt Wana delve into that.


All i'm tryn to say if u really love someone, there are certain parts of your life u need to sacrifice or merge with that of the oda partner... if u feel u just can't do it den u should marry an unbeliever too, I just dnt need to sugarcoat anything.


Cheers. It's all your choice. Not mine.

Pheals:

SillyeRabbit:
OP, What advice do you need again. You've concluded that you won't ever change your belief then find an atheist like you and vice versa.

sokar:


That's the problem isn't it, I've never tried to change her belief in God, I'm a live and let live kind of person, but she's completely adamant about this.

sokar:


Don't think i've not considered it, but doing so would mean pretending, praying in the morning when I feel I should be getting more sleep or going to church on Sunday when I should be at home enjoying my weekend, how long would I be able to live like that before I get tired of it?
Remember saying the words is easy especially for an atheist but I wouldn't actually believe.

sokar:


Don't think i've not considered it, but doing so would mean pretending, praying in the morning when I feel I should be getting more sleep or going to church on Sunday when I should be at home enjoying my weekend, how long would I be able to live like that before I get tired of it?
Remember saying the words is easy especially for an atheist but I wouldn't actually believe.

manee2:


Her BIBLE_

Sorry u advice like a hypocrite
Wot's ur belief?