Do you automatically think if you marry her she will not respect you and you won't have much authority over her?

For very obvious reasons, I won't blame guys that do.

Most wealthy and powerful families (Nigerians especially) are very arrogant and domineering. This is worse when the guy is from a lower social strata . Right from the planing of the wedding through the wedding proper, you must notice their hand and decision in every area.

This also follows the couple to their matrimonial homes. Some parents would want to make every decision for them. I have a friend who got married to this influential family. On the wedding day, my friend's family and well wishers were given a canopy outside the compound of the main event. His family was barely recognized .

Till date my friend regrets tying himself here because his father in law always wants intrude in his home. This is especially this way because the wife relates everything happening in the house to her father, making him the COMPTROLLER GENERAL of the house. His only reason for remaining in the marriage is his kids !

This is just to mention a few reasons most guys would rather thread on this path lightly !

a2personal2013:
For very obvious reasons, I won't blame guys that do

Would you care to further explain?

always Hanging my coat at my reach.

Things like this happen often.
But, some guys are so samrt that they are able to reconfigure the girl/woman to their taste.

Have you heard of postponing and changing wedding date few weeks to the wedding ceremony by the brides folks, such is life when you marry into powerful family

I think is dependent on the individual involved.

In Nigeria I have never heard of a case of rich marrying the humble.
Naija rich girls are lazy and more about keeping their social status quo.
Atiku's daughter can never marry an humble man
Neither can Zahra marry an humble man
Otedola's daughter will marry an Adenuga

That's how that shit work over here

One brother above me have summarized everything.

@Op nah their papa we dey fear oh I can't even greet my babe wen her dad is around