When I came to the knowledge of this truth way back in the secondary school, I made up my mind to marry before the age of 30 against all odds.

My Dad died at a retirement age of 64 when I was 7 and my younger brother was 4. The dead man left no plans or economic arrangements to train both the younger and far younger children in school or in trade.

This mistake is being repeated today by even far more educated and exposed people. We do this and claim a non-existent covenant with God when we should have applied the common sense He gave us. Don't say u didn't read it from here.

I decided that I would not repeat the same mistake my father made hence my determination to marry at 30 which I later found out was even late.

HARD FACTS FOR GUYS

Assuming u get married at 30 and your wife conceives and delivers your first child when you are 31.

Because the average age of graduation in the universities these days is 23 then you shall be 54 at the graduation ceremony of your first child.

Assuming you have 3 kids with an average spacing age of 2 years then your last child would be 6 years younger than the first. Therefore, you shall be 63 at the graduation ceremony of ur last child. Provided non of them experience delayed admission

ISSUES: Look around you and u shall notice the increasing rate of delayed conception and child mortality which is 1/400 (that is one new born baby out of 400 babies born to Nigerian parents dies in the hospitals) and if you factor in the possibility that there might be delays and assign a number of years e.g 4years to that, then a man may be 68 years at the graduation of his last child.

INFORMATION TO CONSIDER
1. All civil servants must retire at 65 or 70 for professors and judges.
2. Average live expectancy in Nigeria now is 47 years for men and 48 for women. That's most Nigerian men now die before the age of 48.

The above implies that you would be retired and may not be able to earn enough money to pay the school fees of your last child in the higher institution starting from his/her third year.

It's worse for bankers because the CBN has capped the age of retirement of bankers at 60. Most banks find reasons to retrench their staff once they clock 55.

HARD FACTS FOR LADIES

Hardships in the extended families and need to work to augment income, pursuits of professionalism, feminism, long stay in school, sheer greed, materialism, choosiness and other factors have singularly or combined to make women delay in committing to marriage much earlier.

INFORMATION TO CONSIDER :
1. Science says that the best age for a woman to have less complications during child birth is from 18-25 more importantly when girl now attain puberty as early as 12/13 years old.

2. Most professional females now marry beyond 30 and have difficulties either in conception or post delivery sicknesses. This has posed a great gynecological challenge for non-circumspective couples. They spend so much of their resources to get pregnant and sometimes the women suffer ill-health after delivery.

3. In most cases, fibroids occur when the womb lays fallow for so long without conception. There are other causes.

ISSUES: Imagine both parents being retired and cannot provide for their undergraduate children.
This has help fuel student prostitution around university campuses.

AGE LONG ADVICE TO AN ONLY SON

If you are an only son or if your desire in marriage is to beget children, ensure that you marry a lady in her early twenties and never beyond 26 so that even if you have fertility challenges and it takes up to 10 years to be resolved, you still have a fertile wife.

GENERAL ADVICE

If you intend to have children in marriage please marry early enough to avoid birth complications and be capable of shouldering your responsibility before you port to the netherworld .

You can still achieve all you want with careful planning. Many women who married early are MD of coys and are doing well.

When you marry early and rush child bearing, you have time later to pursue your career, children and career grow simultaneously, rather than first pursue career and delay child bearing which have detrimental health implication for mother and child.

Very many beautiful ladies with flourishing careers today are still single and may remain single forever because age isn't on their side, population of female out-numbers that of male and male prefer younger girls

I know that some readers would start telling me about Abraham and Sarah, Hannah, the mother of Samuel and other isolated cases.

However, a visit to fertility clinics and gynecological section of a teaching hospital shall speak common sense to a young girl and boy.

If you have problems with the facts I adduced, please consult a medical personnel for clarifications.

SCARY TRUTH

1. There is a disturbing likelihood that a child conceived at a later age would be born with Down Syndrome or Mongolia Disease.

2. Some women now approach menopause as early as 35.

Why opt for treatment when it could be avoided?

3. Men's sexual libido reduces with age. You are at your best when you are below 40. There is an extent Viagra and other performance-enhancing drugs can go.

4. There is every likelihood that if you marry late to a sexually active woman and fail to satisfy her you may lose her to intimacy gadgets or gigolos.

5. Reminiscence of old couple of their early life great sex is sometimes enough for them to reach orgasm. You have great sex when your engines are new or fairly new.

NB
Medicine records that female sexual libido increases with age while the males' reduces with age. But age does not affect a man's ability to impregnate a woman but the act would be a mere inoculation for old men.

Take note of these facts and encourage someone to act fast.

And you have successfully convinced guys to do away with ladies....in their late 20s and early 30s.....adding more salt to their injury. So , who would now marry them.

Why spread foreign lies here when even your own parents didn't marry early. See it is God that gives life and protects.... Marrying early can make you poor quickly... And also a divorcee early... Your lies tho scientific are also epic and untrue. Yes you got the age thing right but look around you.... This is naija where jamb jambs you for a year or two.... Time delay is never an issue because in naija it becomes a testimony when you eventually give birth... Enemies from village don't care if you marry at 18 if they wanna delay you they will do it without checking Google map.... Its all about life n God o. Lastly it is not the time you marry that matters but the season that matters... If you are broke and marry there is high chance to remain broke cos of the demands.... But if you are not poor then growth is sure. My bro it's the quality of life that matters...

Life is when you're about to cross the road. You look left...you look right...you look left again...you look right. All seems clear. You cross. But you still get hit..............BY AN AIRPLANE.

Life isn't mathematical my dear. Things don't always go as planned. So how about you encourage people who are past 30 and yet to marry to remain positive and make the most out of their lives instead of making them look like failures.

Mind you...your post was very informative. All you said is true. But someone past 30 will see this and start feeling bad...or worse still get desperate.

op u don't av sense, ur fada born u in his late 40's means ur mom is probably a second wife, how is dat my biz? marry early or late, who ur poor mentality epp?

I think being mature is the most important attribute in marriage

You have made sense.

I won't hold back from commending what you've wrote, Op. But, yet, issue of marriage shouldn't be channeled only on early child bearing. There are other several factors one has to consider. Note: Marriage is meant to be forever. It'll be unreasonable to settle down with just anybody for the sake of givin' birth at early stage.

I do rather be single than to marry being poor...igboman no they marri sake of say he see wife they marri sake of say dey are confortable & capable(except abakiliki pple)...ur post is gibberish

Ok

Adikam:
I do rather be single than to marry being poor...igboman no they marri sake of say he see wife they marri sake of say dey are confortable & capable(except abakiliki pple)...ur post is gibberish

except abakaliki?
you are the most confused being on this topic.
people marry because they know they can handle issues/situations of marriage...... average comfortability.
quoting abakaliki is a very big fallacy!
think before u write.

ekwuemendinso:

except abakaliki?
you are the most confused being on this topic.
people marry because they know they can handle issues/situations of marriage...... average comfortability.
quoting abakaliki is a very big fallacy!
think before u write.

dis 1 pain u die...no be abakaliki wey i kno dat will rather push barrow,hawk or cari goods for head like tiwa & tbilz mata than to serve person? Guy go sidon joor me & u who's confuse i have live in igboland for long so relax if u quote me again i drop another bomb comment abt una.

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tripplephi:
Why spread foreign lies here when even your own parents didn't marry early. See it is God that gives life and protects.... Marrying early can make you poor quickly... And also a divorcee early... Your lies tho scientific are also epic and untrue. Yes you got the age thing right but look around you.... This is naija where jamb jambs you for a year or two.... Time delay is never an issue because in naija it becomes a testimony when you eventually give birth... Enemies from village don't care if you marry at 18 if they wanna delay you they will do it without checking Google map.... Its all about life n God o. Lastly it is not the time you marry that matters but the season that matters... If you are broke and marry there is high chance to remain broke cos of the demands.... But if you are not poor then growth is sure. My bro it's the quality of life that matters...

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tripplephi:
Why spread foreign lies here when even your own parents didn't marry early. See it is God that gives life and protects.... Marrying early can make you poor quickly... And also a divorcee early... Your lies tho scientific are also epic and untrue. Yes you got the age thing right but look around you.... This is naija where jamb jambs you for a year or two.... Time delay is never an issue because in naija it becomes a testimony when you eventually give birth... Enemies from village don't care if you marry at 18 if they wanna delay you they will do it without checking Google map.... Its all about life n God o. Lastly it is not the time you marry that matters but the season that matters... If you are broke and marry there is high chance to remain broke cos of the demands.... But if you are not poor then growth is sure. My bro it's the quality of life that matters...

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tripplephi:
Why spread foreign lies here when even your own parents didn't marry early. See it is God that gives life and protects.... Marrying early can make you poor quickly... And also a divorcee early... Your lies tho scientific are also epic and untrue. Yes you got the age thing right but look around you.... This is naija where jamb jambs you for a year or two.... Time delay is never an issue because in naija it becomes a testimony when you eventually give birth... Enemies from village don't care if you marry at 18 if they wanna delay you they will do it without checking Google map.... Its all about life n God o. Lastly it is not the time you marry that matters but the season that matters... If you are broke and marry there is high chance to remain broke cos of the demands.... But if you are not poor then growth is sure. My bro it's the quality of life that matters...

We Nigerians one thing is common to us... We don't accept truth, we love to twist issues to suite our in abilities. If u are d one put up this intelligent write u will never criticize it. U need to open your to accept your failures and make amend on it, don't always criticize people ideas.