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[advice] Over 1 Year I Trained Myself To Go From 2 Minutes To 20+ During Sex. by frankg1(m): 2:31pm On May 25, 2016 |
This is a copied and pasted post from reddit. The advice worked for me. Backstory: I had a huge problem lasting longer in bed and it was causing major insecurity issues. I started reading everything on how to fix it, and this is what worked best. Let me know if you have other ideas / thoughts / etc Lasting Longer Step One: Improving Your Sex Psychology If you go into sex thinking that you won’t last very long, you won’t . Sliding in with any sort of insecurities about your sexual abilities will make you cum much, much faster than you want to. And if you think about it biologically, it makes sense. The insecurity makes you stressed. Your body can tell that you’re stressed. The stress suggests that this isn’t a very safe environment for you to be naked with your eyes closed and not particularly ready to defend against one of these. So what does your body do when you’re stressed during sex? It reduces the amount of time you’re in a vulnerable state, either by making you cum quickly or not being able to get it up at all. Which means that you need to go into sex with a confident, positive outlook on how you’re going to perform. The best way to do that? Talk to your partner about it . If you bring up your concerns about how long you’re lasting and that you want to work on it with them, they’re not going to think less of you. Rather, they’ll think higher of you for wanting to improve this part of your relationship, and want to work on it with you. It’s nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about, and you’ll find that just being open about it will solve half the problem on its own. Better, when you open up in this way and start to work on it, there are positive spillovers to other areas of life. It doesn’t just improve your communication and trust with your partner, it improves your confidence in yourself. No partner? No worries. You can easily do the exercises without one. |
Re: [advice] Over 1 Year I Trained Myself To Go From 2 Minutes To 20+ During Sex. by frankg1(m): 2:32pm On May 25, 2016 |
Lasting Longer Step Two: Daily Exercises for
Lasting Longer
Good news, there are only two things you need
to do regularly to significantly increase your
sexual longevity.
It’s just kegels, and masturbation practice. And
it’s an even 50% kegels, and 50% practice, so
take the time for both.
Exercise 1: Kegels (< 10 mins / day)
If you do nothing else in this article, do this.
The best way to improve your ejaculatory
control is the strengthen the muscles that
control ejaculation. Makes sense, right?
Here’s what I want you to do (assuming you’re
not in a public place):
1. Get naked
2. Put a finger or two on the skin between
your legs behind your balls, but before
your anus
3. Now imagine you’re trying to stop
yourself from peeing. Flex that muscle.
(This is also the muscle you flex to make
your penis “dance” when it’s hard. Don’t
give me that look, I know you’ve done it).
4. You should feel some movement where
you put your fingers, and you might feel
a bit of movement in your penis and
balls.
5. Don’t flex your ass like you’re trying to
show off your glutes, don’t flex your
legs, and don’t flex your abs. Focus just
on flexing that muscle.
6. If you’re really having trouble finding it,
then drink a bunch of water, go pee, and
try to stop yourself. There it is.
This is called your Pubococcygeus muscle, or
PC muscle, and while it can control the flow
of urine it also controls your ejaculation .
Strengthening it will make you last longer, and
eventually even allow you to stop yourself
from reaching the “point of no return” and
quickly bring yourself down from near orgasm.
To train it, we’re going to tie small weights to
your penis, then you’re going to get hard and
flex it to lift the weights.
Okay just kidding, it’s a little easier than that.
All you have to do to strengthen your PC
muscle is an exercise called “kegels,” which
involves flexing it over and over again.
But, like any muscle, you can’t do the same
thing over and over again and expect it to get
much stronger. You need to keep increasing
the difficulty.
Thankfully, Emily Morse ( Sex with Emily) has a
fantastic app called “Kegel Camp” that gives
you specific directions on how long to clench
for, and the different speeds to do it at. (If
you’re on Android, you can use Kegel Trainer)
As you do more of it, you “level up” in the app
and start holding it longer and for more
repetitions. You’ll start seeing serious
improvements in your sexual longevity around
level 8+.
caption: I assume this would have a really high
conversion rate
I set an IFTTT reminder to ping me 3 times a
day to make sure I didn’t forget. You don’t
have to do it that frequently, once a day is
fine, but doing it 2 to 3 times a day will get
you there faster.
Once you get to level 20 you can cut back and
just do it for maintenance. But like any muscle,
when you stop using it you’ll get weaker. So
keep training. |
Re: [advice] Over 1 Year I Trained Myself To Go From 2 Minutes To 20+ During Sex. by frankg1(m): 2:34pm On May 25, 2016 |
Exercise 2: Masturbation & Edging (10-30
mins / day)
If you want to last longer, you have to start
masturbating differently.
Many guys who have trouble lasting a long
time have gotten themselves into bad habits
from how they masturbate.
If you typically open the spank bank, go full
jackhammer on your dick and finish up in a
minute or two then yeah, you’re not going to
have much staying power with the real deal.
Here’s your new rule for masturbating:
nothing less than 10 minutes. I don’t care if
you have to spend 8 of those minutes just
staring at it, you can’t let yourself cum in less
than 10 minutes. Once that’s comfortable, up
it to 15, then 20. |
Re: [advice] Over 1 Year I Trained Myself To Go From 2 Minutes To 20+ During Sex. by frankg1(m): 2:36pm On May 25, 2016 |
A quick escalation straight to cumming. To last
much longer, you’re going to train yourself to
have your “pleasure graph” look more like this:
(link to pic )
This is done through “edging,” which you’ll do
during sex later but also need to incorporate
into your masturbation.
Here’s how it works:
1. Start masturbating, and get yourself up
to a 7 out of 10 on the arousal scale.
(You’ll just have to subjectively decide
what this is for you, it’ll be easier to
identify with practice).
2. Stop, and let yourself simmer down to a
5.
3. Now work up to an 8, and then stop
again and let yourself slide down to a 6
4. Up to 9, down to 7
5. Up to 9.5, down to 7 again. A 9.5 is just
before the point of no return when you
know there’s nothing you can do.
6. Repeat the 9.5 to 7 cycle over and over
again until you get past 10 minutes. Then
you can let yourself go, and you’ll notice
this makes your orgasms WAY stronger.
As you’re getting more aroused, remember the
STAB technique (yeah that’s right, I invented a
new sex acronym) to slow yourself down:
Squeeze : Squeeze your PC muscles HARD
like you’re doing a really intense kegel. Hold
them for at least 10 seconds, but the longer
you can hold the more you’ll come down.
(You might also have success doing a couple
shorter ~5 second holds, or a bunch of
really short 1 second holds)
Think : Think about something else
Avoid : Change your stroke (avoid the head)
instead of stopping entirely
Breathe : Take deep, diaphragmatic (with
your stomach) breaths
Ideally, you should combine all of them, but
start with one and then add others in until it
becomes second nature.
If you’re serious, then set aside 30 minutes a
night for this. The more you practice the
better.
If you have a partner you’d rather do this
with, tell them what you’re working on, and
ask them to help you either with manual /
mouth stimulation or by having slow sex with
a lot of stopping and starting. My guess is that
he/she’ll be more than enthusiastic to help you
improve this part of your sex life.
This will get easier as you practice and as you
strengthen your PC muscles.
It will be very tempting to just let yourself go
when you’re hitting those 9.5 peaks, but trust
me, exercising like this will be worth it.
Plus it’s a lot of fun. |
Re: [advice] Over 1 Year I Trained Myself To Go From 2 Minutes To 20+ During Sex. by frankg1(m): 2:37pm On May 25, 2016 |
Lasting Longer Step Three: Techniques
During Sex
Time for the actual deed.
If you’ve been doing your training, then you’re
already going to last much longer in bed.
But wait, there’s more! These next four
strategies will significantly improve your
staying power, just by strategically applying
the same principles we’ve already been using.
Strategic pre-intimacy Ordering
pre-intimacy frequently goes in this order, because
women typically expect men to initiate the
next stage of sex:
Kissing / touching -> Cunnilingus -> Felatio
-> Sex
There’s an obvious problem though: you’re
going straight from intense oral stimulation to
sex.
That’s no bueno. You want to be going into sex
at a 4 or 5, not at an 8.
Here’s what you do. You’re already talking to
your partner about lasting longer (unless you
skipped down here, shame on you), so tell her
that it’d be better if you got her off once
manually (to get her warmed up more), then
she went down on you, then you went down on
her after.
Kissing / touching -> Get her off once
manually -> Felatio -> Cunnilingus -> Sex
When you’re receiving oral, after you get to
9.5 a couple times (same edging technique as
before, just this time you yell “stop” at the
peaks), switch it up so you can cool down
while you go down on her and get her off a
few times.
Also, tell her to push against your PC muscle
(using two or three fingers, or a fist, works
well) while she’s going down on you. It makes
you last longer and feels great, but it’s pretty
hard to do during actual sex.
Getting a cooldown period with no stimulation
like you get while going down on her will
increase how long you last significantly, and
make your orgasm more intense.
Alternatively, depending on how long your
refractory periods are, you could get off when
she’s going down on you then recover for
round two (which lasts longer) while going
down on her. Up to you.
Using Positions for Edging
Now getting your partner to edge you during
pre-intimacy is easy, but during sex it’s a little
different. You don’t want to keep stopping and
starting thrusting since that’s going to be
frustrating for her, and it’ll make you feel self
conscious and start worrying about cumming
too soon.
Instead, you can edge yourself just by
switching up positions.
Some positions will move you up arousal stages
faster. Others, less so. It’s a combination of:
1. Friction (more = faster)
2. Direction of motion (thrusting = faster,
back and forth = slower)
3. Control (you moving = faster, her moving
= slower)
4. Your position (standing = slowest,
supporting with your arms (e.g.
missionary) = fastest)
A position with her legs more closed (more
friction) plus you doing the thrusting while
lying down (e.g. missionary) will be high
stimulation and get you off faster.
But a position with her legs spread and you
standing or kneeling will be much lower
stimulation. Same story if she’s on top of you
moving back and forth instead of up and down.
If you’re not sure what I mean by “back and
forth” (vs “thrusting”) well… this is the only
way to explain it (SUPER NSFW).
You need to find your “low stim” and “high
stim” positions. Get in the high stim positions
when you’re at a 5 or 6, then switch to low
stim positions when you’re at an 8 or 9 to
bring it back down.
Most importantly, while you’re switching, take
a few seconds to squeeze your PC muscles!
Breathing
This is a short one, but important: the way you
breathe affects how quickly you cum.
You’ve heard about how you can trick yourself
into being happier by making yourself smile,
right? Well you can also make yourself more or
less aroused by changing your breathing.
If you want to bring yourself down, slow your
breathing and make sure they’re deep belly
breaths. Taking quick breaths in your shoulders
and chest is what you do when you’re about to
cum, so if you’re doing that, your body thinks
you’re close.
Breathe like you’re fine and you’ll become fine.
MOST IMPORTANT: Clamp When You Get
Too Close
Those first three tips will help you stay in the
5-9 range. But what happens when you get to
9.9 and you don’t think there’s any way to stop
yourself from cumming?
Here’s what training those PC muscles has led
to. Assuming you’ve gotten them strong
enough, all you need to do to bring yourself
back from that “point of no return” is stop
thrusting and clamp down HARD like a long
kegel hold (or a combination of shorter ones if
you found that worked better for you).
The longer you squeeze for, the more you’ll
come down. With practice you can take
yourself from a 9.9 to a 6 or 7 in a few
seconds, and add another ~5 minutes to your
sex.
Here’s the catch though: it works better the
closer you are to cumming when you do it, so
you’re going to have some misfires. But with
practice, you’ll start noticing when is the right
time to squeeze, and you’ll get better and
better at pulling yourself back from the edge.
Go Forth...
And that’s it. One psychological change, two
exercises to keep you in good sexual shape,
three techniques to manage how quickly you
heat up, and then the last second squeeze to
bring you back. That’s all you need.
It’s just a matter of execution. Do the
exercises, be open with your partner about
what you’re working on, and you’ll see results
in less than a month.
And if there was anything in the article you
want more info on, let me know in the
comments! |
Re: [advice] Over 1 Year I Trained Myself To Go From 2 Minutes To 20+ During Sex. by Nobody: 3:34pm On May 25, 2016 |
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