FAITHFULNESS IN SEXUAL MATTERS – CHRISTIAN VIEWS OF GOD ORDAINED SEX IN MARRIAGE
Text: I Corinthians 7:2-5

Introduction
The issue of sex has been one very strong tool the devil has used to attack Christians when he cannot get them in other areas. In a marriage where sexual intimacy is lacking, the devil is at work. He has made the church to be silent about it, the church says little or nothing about it and a lot of marriages are breaking down due to lack of intimacy. If couples must be connected to each other, they must not trivialize the importance of their sexual life.

Why is sex important?
A. Sex in marriage is created by God Himself: (Genesis 2:18, 24-25, Prov. 5:18-19, Malachi 2:15)
When God created them, He created them male and female, man and woman. For the purpose that two different sexes will come together to produce offspring.
B. Sex in Marriage is a covenant: (Mal. 2:14)
When you took your marriage vows, you stood before God and His people as a witness to say “my body, I yield to you” not having intimacy means not yielding your bodies to each other. That shows a lot of us have broken the marriage vow of which God was a witness over and over again. Covenant breakers cannot enjoy the promise and blessing of God.
C. Sexual intimacy is a command (I Cor. 7:5) Do not deprive each other of your bodies.
D. Sex in Marriage is holy (Heb. 13:4)
Since God created it and everything He created was good. A holy God created what is holy. The marriage bed is your holy altar that is why it should not be defiled by having sex with someone who is not your covenant partner.
E. Sex in Marriage is worship (I Cor. 10:31)
When having sex with your marital partner do it to the glory of God. Sex outside marriage is an abomination to God and even in our society, but sex in marriage glorifies God.
F. Sex promotes good health
Sex is a healer and prevents many diseases, it reduces high blood pressure, it improves cholesterol, it increases blood circulation in the body, it burn calories (30 minutes of sex will burn about 200 calories), it boosts immune system, it is an anti-depressant, it is a natural pain killer, it lowers the risk of heart attack and stroke, it reduces stress, and it increases digestion.
A lot of very spirited people still think that when they have sex with their spouse, they are sinning, God created it for the pleasure of husband and wife.

How to Experience Sexual Intimacy with your Spouse
1. You must understand that sexual intimacy is a process of love making: you must distinguish between sexual and lovemaking. Sex is only a part of lovemaking while sexual intimacy involves mutual and total commitment to each other, sex is a biological action. Lovemaking is a relational experience, where the focus is the happiness of the other partner.
2. The importance of good communication (Prov. 7:58): In this scripture, the man communicates his admiration of his love to her. How often do you tell your spouse how beautiful he or she is? While having sex, you need to communicate your enjoyment of the process and how you are feeling at the moment of the action. The man should sometimes ask his wife whether she has reached her orgasm (the point of sexual pleasure or fulfillment)? Communication is key in bringing satisfaction of your spouse because it removes assumptions from the relationship and the act of sex. It helps to know what your spouse wants in bed so that your sex life will not be mechanical.
3. Make room for each other’s sexual desire: Spouses also need to be sensitive to each other’s needs and conditions like period of illness, pain, fasting e.t.c. But you must not abstain from sex too long. For the man to meet the desire of his wife sexually he must know her desires, that’s where communications comes in. you must know that women’s sexual desire start from the brain or heart. Give her more emotional attention. Give her more gestures of love during the day e.g. kissing her, touching her sensitive parts, speaking powerful word of love or singing, buy her gifts, send her love texts messages from the office and help her with some house chores.
4. Sequel intimacy will not be achieved when the husband and wife are in conflict. To experience sexual intimacy, couples must deal with the issues of beliefs, core values, and mutual perspective and shared goals about lovemaking in their relationship.
5. Time and frequency: how often do you get intimate with your spouse? How long do you spend in the act of sex itself? The average recommendation in terms of frequency in sex is at least twice a week. In relation to timing, that is how long in a particular act of sex, you must know that for the man, it takes only two minutes to reach orgasm but your wife takes about 7 to 14 minutes to reach her orgasm so the man must spend enough time in pre-intimacy and communicating to her feelings or speak love languages to her to turn her on, before the intercourse.
6. The man must understand the part(s) of his wife body that turn her on sexually: one major organ of a woman that is very important in bringing her to the point of sexual satisfaction is the clitoris.

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