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Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by JonTal: 10:53pm On Jun 09, 2016 |
@Olarewajub, the recommended books are popular classics which you can get from any good christian bookshop around. I hope these help. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by Olarewajub: 11:39pm On Jun 09, 2016 |
JonTal: Thanks |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 3:14am On Jun 10, 2016 |
treasuredkids:thanks lady I appreciate. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 3:46am On Jun 10, 2016 |
Israel43:my friend I read what you wrote very well, you see the first step in personality development is to love yourself, you see, nobody will love you, more than you love yourself and nobody will value you, more than the value you give to yourself, hellloooooo when you look at the mirror what do you see? Because it is what you see that you will become, that is you can only become what you see, so start seeing greatness from today, start seeing a man that is ready to contribute positively to this world, a man with great dreams, a man that can bring positive changes to his world, make your world a better place. Everyday of your life before you sleep at night, take time to ponder on the activities of the day, asking yourself how many lives did I affect positively today, how many people did I put smiles on thier faces today, In matt 5:16, it says and I quote "LET YOUR LIGHT SO SHINE BEFORE MEN, THAT THEY MAY SEE YOUR GOOD WORKS AND GLORIFY YOUR FATHER WHICH IS ON HEAVEN". My dear never, never and never see yourself as a failure, because you are not, your are a great man, the world is not complete without you that is why you are still alive, the world needs the potential that you carry, and nobody has it, that is why you are unique. I am going to make sure I complete the write up of the other three temperaments, just because of you, to give you a pool of accessment of yourself. GOD BLESS YOU 1 Like |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by Nobody: 6:41am On Jun 10, 2016 |
I love phlegmatic people, I pray my future hussy will be one. I find talkatives unattractive. Am a kind of person that get irritated easily, a phlegmatic hussy will do just find. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 6:53am On Jun 10, 2016 |
Vickyydera:you will lady, just position yourself rightly and pray to God for one. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by Israel43: 12:29pm On Jun 10, 2016 |
chriskosherbal:wow! thank you very much,God bless you for your care,it has put a smile on my face. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 1:09pm On Jun 10, 2016 |
Israel43:Thank you too, you are welcome anyday and anytime. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by ifisco(f): 2:20pm On Jun 10, 2016 |
great advice,
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Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 3:07pm On Jun 10, 2016 |
ifisco:Gorgeous lady, thanks. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by Sarang(f): 3:35pm On Jun 10, 2016 |
I'm phlegmatic I know it well. Sometimes it seem stupid to people that I can't come out immediately they want me to.. but the truth is I cant really step out if I have not planned ahead in my mind to. They don't get it but am happy that there are others like me out there. But then am a woman. What about a phleg woman? |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by prettyangel10(f): 3:39pm On Jun 10, 2016 |
Op, thanks for this piece. But my question is how can you help/encourage a phlegmatic friend/sibling, especially, when he or she is not married, considering this harsh economic situation where nobody sees anybody?. Thanks. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 3:27am On Jun 11, 2016 |
Sarang:hello I got your msg, it doesn't matter if you are a phleg man or phleg woman, you have passed the first step, and that is knowing who you are (A phlegmatic person), so it takes other people to understand your temperament and flow well with you that way, the truth is that you can force people to understand your personality, that is why everybody cannot be your closed friends, so those that will understand you for who you are, will definitely understand you and flow with you that way. And the reason I emphasised in my post more on the husband very well, am saying this if you are married, is because when it comes to the issue of marriage, it is the woman that manages the home, the bible says "a wise woman buildeth her home and the foolish plucketh it down with her own hands" , so as a phleg woman, you will be able to understand your husband temperament and flow with him in that manner, and he continues to love you more and he has no choice but to reciprocate in actions too, because he is happy and this leads to stability in that marriage. So lady be proud of who you are and don't allow anybody to make you feel otherwise. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by Sarang(f): 5:04am On Jun 11, 2016 |
prettyangel10: haha |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by UIA04(f): 7:12am On Jun 11, 2016 |
greatgod2012:Woooow A melancholic and phlegmatic You try o I'm melancholic sanguine, and I don't think I can stand being married to a phlegmatics though I have friends like that. But to me they can be too slow to everything ( no offense) and their I don't care attitude pisses me of. You try o, how do you cope when both of you are shy outside, especially a place it's your first time out . I am sure people might have mentioned it, how did you get over people's opinions. Phlegmel is the calmest of all the temperament combinations. I used to have a Phlegmel bunky in school who was a 'yes ma madam' to all her choleric friends. She'll cook, fetch water and let them sleep on her bed anyhow without complaining. If she was my sister I could have slapped sense into her. She was such a pretty girl that would laugh even if your joke wasn't funny. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by UIA04(f): 7:21am On Jun 11, 2016 |
JonTal:Why you act the way you do Tim LaHaye. That book is powerful |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 7:25am On Jun 11, 2016 |
UIA04:my friend don't ever blame anybody for the things they can't control or change,being a phlegmatic is never thier choice, it was nature's choice for them, it is endogenous, it is taken as given, so that lady you frown at because of her behaviour to other people, is never her making, and it may suffice you to know that, she is just enjoying her time and what she is doing, and it just makes her happy. So people, a word of advice, always do those things that.sorry will give you genuine happiness, irrespective of what people think. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by UIA04(f): 7:51am On Jun 11, 2016 |
Israel43: Aww I feel for you, this was me in ss2, I was very depressed it stems, from our perfectionistic tendencies, we feel no friend can really understand our deepest thoughts . But giving my life to Christ and having the Holy Spirit, changed me and my self esteem, when I prayed to God about my deepest problems, I discovered I could tell him anything and he won't judge me I even prayed severally that I wanted to be light skinned lol . Later, prayer became like talking to a friend rather than to a God far away. It made me feel better that there was someone PERFECT I could talk to and the amazing thing is that he was everything (a father a brother a friend, my gossip partner, the one I'll report people to, sometimes hell even make me laugh through my thoughts) I still feel a little bit uninteresting at some points in time but I can encourage myself from within unlike before that if my mom said I was beautiful I'll be mad at her thinking she was just trying the proverbial ' monkey no fine but him mama like am' I think you should look for intelligent sanguines to befriend. It can be very difficult for us to reach out and try to make friends and not seem needy but you need to because sanguines are naturally self motivated to achieving things, you don't have to share your problem with them ( because of their running mouth) you can share with your closet parent or a trustworthy elder, you'lld be surprised that despite our tendency to be able to easily solve our (melancholics) problems ourselves we need people close to us to lean on sometimes and their encouragements. Also what I realized that changes me was that we all have flaws we are insecure about, you'll discover the sanguine you are envious of that has a lot of friends is also envious of your ability to stay by yourself. Also sanguines have problems of not being taking seriously even when they are serious, people still think they are joking, but an average melancholic gets respect when he demands it. Also a sanguine too many friends can be his strength nd his waterloo. Because they easily trust people, people pretend easily around them, just by singing their praises you can get a sanguine to sign his life off but those friends can easily dissappear when things get, or betray him. But you look extremely well before you leap, so less friends less troubles. Love Yourself and others will adore you. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by UIA04(f): 7:57am On Jun 11, 2016 |
chriskosherbal:You are right though. But at a time too she started complaining to us her roommates about the most demanding one meaning she was getting tired. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 10:17am On Jun 11, 2016 |
UIA04:nice one |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by ifisco(f): 10:57am On Jun 11, 2016 |
still on it, today is the set day bombarding social media through this kindly share mothers share fathers share sisters share brothers share
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Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by Israel43: 12:07pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
UIA04:woooow,God bless you so much,you taking time to type this wonderdul piece shows you care and it has made me very happy.im a born again christian and God has been a friend and father but iv been going through series of trials lately and it has made my life a painful one.its a long story dear but thank you very much and God richly bless you for your care. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 12:09pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
ifisco:hmmmm I see |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by UIA04(f): 1:10pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
Israel43:You are welcome. Just know that someone somewhere out there cares and is definitely thinking about your wellbeing. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 1:16pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
UIA04:I am so glad that this post has been and is still going to be a blessing to many people as well as marriages, o lord take all the glory. |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 1:17pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
UIA04:yea |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by UIA04(f): 1:36pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
chriskosherbal:Thanks |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by UIA04(f): 1:36pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
chriskosherbal:Amen |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by 5minsmadness: 2:11pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
Op when will you write on melancholics |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by chriskosherbal(m): 3:17pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
5minsmadness:soon, I have already written on sanguine. Just click on chriskosherbal and you will see all my write up. Thanks |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by Israel43: 4:47pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
UIA04:woow!!!! u've brought tears to my eyes with your kind words dear,u've made my day today and im really grateful!!God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: What To Do If You Are Married To A Phlegmatic Husband Or Wife. by tbabs10166(m): 5:26pm On Jun 11, 2016 |
nice thread |
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