Is It Right To Test Someone When In An Ambiguous Relationship?

The Bearer(The Lady)
I fell in love with a guy and told my feelings to him,he wasn't sure about his feeling for me but he gave it a try.
So we were in an ambiguous relationship where made me a little bit uncomfortable. But in fear of losing him,I didn't quit.
I am that type of person who would become less caring when being in a relationship. He was mad for that because he thought my action went against words, he wanted me to show him how much "I love him"through my behaviour. He tested me in various ways to saw how far I could go. And in the end,I "failed"his test. Like I have said above I am that type of person who would become less caring when being in a relationship. He thought I not that much "love him" so he left me.


*A Comment From A viewer*

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It is always wrong to test someone in a relationship. There is never a good reason to deliberately strain a relationship to find out whether or not it breaks. At best, it won't break and the whole testing process will be deemed unnecessary. At worst, people can really get hurt. Yours sounds like a case in point.
I'm so sorry this happened. No, it is not right to test someone. It's not your fault.


Please,state your comments as this would help to reshape the minds of others in a RELATIONSHIPS........

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Even God puts us to the test whch we can handle.

It's insecurity that causes one to test a partner.

I love to be in a relationship with that girl because I seem to know her relationship and strengths from what you just said above...

the real issue here is that as some relationship progresses it becomes boring and uncomfortable if both partners know that there is a hole in the relationship which may be from the man's end or the woman's end...

Like your own..

but tests in a relationship are still good as they show just how far you would go to keep that relationship .... assuring you of your partners loyalty and trust...

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@Phasesone,sincerely speaking,you have cave a niche to this topic as indicated in the subject. Relationship is a requisite atmosphere between two important persons as the case may be. I understand that testing in a relationship is okay,but in the nut shell,it is very dangerous. I will reserve my comments,as I would awaits other viewers to comment. Then will finalise the whole statements.

Please,keep your comments coming...

Aotoidee123:
@Phasesone,sincerely speaking,you have cave a niche to this topic as indicated in the subject. Relationship is a requisite atmosphere between two important persons as the case may be. I understand that testing in a relationship is okay,but in the nut shell,it is very dangerous. I will reserve my comments,as I would awaits other viewers to comment. Then will finalise the whole statements.

Please,keep your comments coming...

The spark of danger is the essence of beautiful living.... did you know that tests in relationship work in different ways....
1. It exposes your weakness... which the right partner would want to strengthen
2. It builds trust, loyalty and confidence

Testing a relationship makes you to believe your lover with experience.... Its like when someone says your lover cheats and then you said it can never happen and the person asks you how you know it can never happen and all you can say is that She will never cheat on me...

Think of it, if you have tested her in the past, and she stood strong wouldn't that recreate the whole scenario and build your trust completely....

Same goes for ladies testing men..

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

It is right!!..you are not serious with him,he was serious ,you failed his test .biko ,let him be,he deserves someone else..if you don't want to be tested , get married to a JW