It is high time we stopped being sentimental in this part of the country and stopped blaming some family demon and ancestral spirits for certain ills that befall us. At this present age and time, we should be able to place the blame where it belongs and be objective when proffering solutions.

There are so many single ladies in the society who have attained that level of maturity we consider fit for marriage; yet they are wasting away in their parents’ houses or in some niche they have carved for themselves.

Nigerian ladies are using technological advancement to save face; the word equity is starting to make many of them lose focus as they pledge equality towards the opposite sex and miss the opportunity to be united in holy matrimony with eligible men.

In truth, many of these ladies crave matrimonial bliss and the satisfaction that comes with knowing they are well placed in some man’s house and heart. At this point, we may have to critically review the impact of technology and modernization in the lives of our unmarried single ladies; is it a blessing or a curse? In the olden days, ladies were married off as soon as they showed signs of maturity.

Time changed yesterday; so much is being preached about rights that it would be quite difficult to take those measures used then for now. Find below some of the reasons why some Nigerian ladies may never get married:

1. Lack of core values:
Men have had enough time playing and sampling ladies outside. When many of them want to settle down, they do so because they are tired of the kind of lives they have lived and want a burst of fresh air.

It is futile getting married to women who would not make them experience any significant change in status. These women cannot cook, keep the house or add values to their lives. They feel being wild and experienced in bed is the only thing that will keep the guys going. In addition to these, their physical appearance is far from being alluring.

2. Living fake lives:
Many Nigerian ladies that ought to have been settled in their matrimonial homes have lost the opportunity as a result of their fake lifestyles and their superficial way of doing things.

Sometimes, men just want something simple, decent and presentable; not the loud, wayward and modest-torn ladies that have plagued the cities and towns in the country. Some men get turned off when they see ladies like these; they may be good for the clubs and hotel beds, but never as graceful ornaments worthy of being placed in their houses.

Marriage is not for everyone

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3. Indecisiveness:
Many young ladies in the society live their lives based on influences; many of them cannot make up their minds and depend on envious friends to make important decisions for them. by the time the position of their friends dawn on them, it would have been too late and they would have missed getting connected to good and responsible men.

4. Bitterness from the past:
We know some of our Nigerian ladies have suffered various forms of abuse in relationships. Physical abuse, as well as verbal bashing, has made some women embittered towards the institution of marriage. Although this could be a traumatic experience for many of these women, they allow the pain to drag on for too long and refuse to get up from that point.

Hmmm

5. When they are wild:
Many Nigerian ladies are found wanting in this aspect; they present everything to a man as soon as they start dating. Come on, it is just a relationship, not a marriage, and you have already given him the cookie. Basically, he has nothing to look forward to again when it comes to living with you forever.

Some ladies do not just give out the cookie, they end up giving the men the cookie container too and are willing to allow the men bend and hit the container as much as possible while lustfully dazed.

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6. Living on pastors’ prophecies:
Welcome to Nigeria, a country where people heed the warning of the pastors and prophecies as compared to the things they see in their holy books. Some Nigerian ladies have fallen victims of this situation and have learnt the hard way.

Many of them would turn down the marriage proposals of responsible men because their pastors have seen the future which has doom in it. What union does not have dark clouds that give way to heavy rainstorm?

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7. When they intimidate men:
There is no doubt we have lots of intelligent women in the society; women are starting to climb the financial and economic ladder in the society and have gained recognition for the various roles they have been playing towards the development of the country.

But when a woman allows the fame and successes she has recorded in her name to get to her head, she is most likely to miss out on this important part of her life. Men do not like being intimidated; men who cannot handle success in their partners will never opt in for women like that.
https://www.naij.com/857847-7-top-reasons-nigerian-ladies-may-never-get-married.html

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@dollyjoy Lol Marriage is not for everyone is a statement by ladies used abroad, not naija with our culture thing. It would sting really bad when your over 30 and nobody is coming. Can be depressing.

Thst number 6 is the most effective

There was this girl didn't wanna initiate the break up ...had to store my friend's name as ..Pastor Ezekiel ...deleted all our previous messages and then told him that once I flash him he should send a text exactly 3 mins after I flash him ...I did just that and kept the phone by her side ...pretended to go and do something inside and then an sms came in ...I knew it was "pastor Ezekiel " and it read ..."Good Evening [insert my name here ] how's mum doing didn't see her in church on Wednesday hope all is well and I want to tell you that as I was praying for your family I saw that the lady you're currently courting isn't yours ..it is for another man ...don't let the wrath of the most High come before you and her ...don't let your lives be wretched ...the man I'm seeing for her isn't even in the country please brother [insert my name here ] this is all I have for you stay blessed.

I could sight her from upstairs reading it the next thing I knew she kept the phone quietly and as I came downstairs "em Arian I have to go home now I'm not feeling too good " "oh sorry about that " ...

Around 10 pm I received a lengthy whatsapp message about how she wants to focus more on her "studies " and that GOD has better plans for us ...

It sucks to be an asshole though

P.s don't try this with an edo girl ...your placenta would be used to fry egg.

k.. Erniesmallzz U dn hear?

OP is right... Those kinda attitude is a Big Turn off.

Ladies lets start getting married, lets make this world a better place tired of being single, guys you too should start proposing abi

You nailed it babe..but funny thing is most people who give advice are usually guilty too,I hope you are not wanting in any of the things you mentioned tho?

torqque7:
You nailed it babe..but funny thing is most people who give advice are usually guilty too,I hope you are not wanting in any of the things you mentioned tho?

I am, I cant lie but will not tell you which one it is

Wise words....

mizzbouqui:

I am, I cant lie but will not tell you which one it is

Oya come and whisper it into my ears so that others will not hear it,i promise I'll not tell anybody

Lol! @ "Beautiful Ornament to decorate his house"
8: Warning guys that sex is off the table but smooching is allowed (and by smooching you mean allowing him to strum your kitten like a guitar) In his mind he'll be like who this one dey form pious for??

Hmmmmm who go con marry?

Ashraf123:
Wise words....

Yeah, Happy Birthday

Marriage......would get married when it's time,right now there are millions of things I wanna priotise other than marriage.

[size=20pt]The biggest lie a lady can ever tell herself is that Marriage is not for anyone! The only category of women marriage isn't for are the reverend sisters! Any other woman basking in this pot of confusion will grow old and die a lonely death [/size]

dollyjoy:
Marriage is not for everyone

She U av not heard that male and female created he them ni? He created them in complements

Harbosede02:
Marriage......would get married when it's time,right now there are millions of things I wanna pirotized other than marriage.

things like? How old are u now?

torqque7:
Oya come and whisper it into my ears so that others will not hear it,i promise I'll not tell anybody

Nope

Cutehector:
things like? How old are u now?

old enough to know when it's time for marriage

Harbosede02:
old enough to know when it's time for marriage

dat means u are forty and u knw that u will marry at the age of 60 ryt?

Cutehector:
dat means u are forty and u knw that u will marry at the age of 60 ryt?

soo funny