mizzbouqui:
I think the relationship is dead and you might be tempted to cheat since your love for her is not that strong again, you should break up with her before its too late at least you are not breaking her heart, she is definitely still seeing the one who took her virginity, ladies doesn't forget the person they loss their viginity to like that

Itzurboi:
Karryn, is ur location 4 real, i wouldnt mind chattin u up as ma 1st female frnd on nairaland

lagosflexcamp:
That's what you wanted, the *no sex thingy* until both of you tie the knots. But she(your gf) doesn't want that even though she hasn't told you. Look when a girl agrees to date you and do all that bf/gf stuff with you, she has already given you access to her body, to spend on her and to flirt with her. Your failure not to do two outta that three things I mentioned will definitely see your relationship hit a big rock.

If u still have her phone number, put a call tru her now, tell her to come see u tonight that u wanna discuss something very important(emphasize on the importance) with her. When she eventually shows up later, make sure you make some good love to her that she will scream your name. And if she don't change her demeaning attitude towards you the next day when you guys meet or when you talk to her via phone, then I guess am a fool.

Your girl *likes* you, is just that you are ignoring her sexual urge and that's why she is cold with you.

My 2cents

nnamdiokere45:
collect ur share n disembark

henrylowe:
What sahre are you talking about sir?

henrylowe:
I started dating this girl in 2013 when she was still seeking admission. I was already done with school managing a little business for survival when she got admitted into the university. My plan was to get married to her if things went as planned.

A year after she gained admission,, she started exhibiting some questionable characters which seemed hard to cope with. She started acting like she was too busy for me, she started replying cold tgo my chat, she no longer cared and a few to mention. Well, I wasn't surprised because ladies often turn a new leaf the moment they get into the university and start having various toasters. Though, I could read these were signs of possible break up due to the pressure from various suitors and perhaps, better offers. I tried to rekindle the fire of our love by having a heart to heart talk with her but all my effort seemed to be a waste.

Her strange attitude, which I could no longer cope with, persisted until I told her I needed a break hoping she would beg me and make things right. To my greatest surprise, she said was cool with it if that was what I wanted . We went separate ways for about 7 months after which we reconciled in April, this year. After a lengthy discussion blaming each other for our unseriousness and childishness, I inquired if she was still intact the way I left her and she told me she was. (Though, I would have confirmed that during cuddling but she was on her period that day)

She went home that day and later gave me a call back telling me she needed to see me the next day in order to make a confession. The moment she said it, I already knew she had lost it but I wanted to hear it from her mouth. She came the next day telling me she carelessly lost to a dude whom she wasn't dating it barely a month after we parted ways. . I was so disappointed and sad that, how could someone I dated for one and half year without touching just throw herself to a man whom met just a month after to defile her.

She cried and pleaded for mercy and since forgiveness is from God, I forgave her even though I found it hard to get it off my chest. Now, I can still see some components of infidelity in her despite trying my best not to reminisce on the past. Though, I still love her but not as before and I no longer trust her like I used to do

Nairalander, don't you think it's too risky to continue with a relationship considering the fact that the TRUST is gone already? Please am I wasting my time with this lady or I should let her go just to save myself from worry and nightmare?

Please your advice is highly needed

henrylowe:
I'm trying hard to

rosalieene:
same question I wanted to ask! NLanders didn't notice.

Laveda:
Eiyaa

Please forgive her if she's really sincere about the whole thing, shít happens, that's if you really love her as you claim..

why woun't u plead on her behalf?



Moreove she is ur fellow woman

nnamdiokere45:
collect ur share n disembark

Laveda:
Eiyaa

Please forgive her if she's really sincere about the whole thing, shít happens, that's if you really love her as you claim..

sben2308:





Bro av once been in ur shoe and I will ask u these questions

1. Do u love her ?

2. Y do u love her ?

3. R u dating her because is a virgin or cuz u love her ?

If u can answer these questions wit all honesty and u now discover u love her. I assure u that she will forever love u cuz am a living testimony.

Date woman cuz u love her not cuz she is a virgin .There is a difference

Manueleee:

BrainnewsNg:


Good

andyanders:
Don't marry out of SYMPATHY because you cannot and will NEVER have any trust as her past MUST continue to hurt and hunt you.


What you don't know cannot kill you. If you get married to her in future, every of her move, you will keep suspecting her even if she is not guilty.

Op, for coming hear to voice it out, from what you stated herein, you cannot love her no matter what. Take a walk and allow her be.

It takes the grace of God Almighty to forget and forgive an issue like this. A white man can let go an issue like this, but a black man has the heart of a lion when relationship is involved and tend to be more over possessive of their women.

Adasun:
why woun't u plead on her behalf?



Moreove she is ur fellow woman

nnamdiokere45:
collect ur share n disembark