Bearing children is not as important as bringing them up.
This is because kids tend to rely on what they learned from
their parents as basis for formulating their own lifestyle.
That being said, things could get complicated when
parents forsake their parental responsibilities.
Aside forsaking parental responsibilities,, your children
could also go wayward if you don't know what to teach
them at the right moment
This post tries to highlight some of the ways parents corrupt or mislead their own children without having a clue about it. We will also examine some things you should do or teach your children before they grow up.
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1. Being too busy :
I have mentioned that children tend to rely on the ways of
their parents as basis for formulating their own lifestyle. By
implication , too busy parents will most definitely leave
their children with no option but to form their own lifestyle
either by themselves or based on what they copy from
other children as well as people in general.
Being too busy for the kids is mostly the case in a family
where both parents are working full time in a corporate
organisation. Some families tend to fill the vacuum by
employing babysitters and nannies but the fact is : this will
not resolve the issue as you may not be able to detect
what traits the kids will copy from such employees.
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2. Beating a child as major punishment.
Yes, spanking your kids is sometimes necessary because it
makes them fear to repeat whatever wrong they did that
warranted such. But on the flip side of it , beating your
children often as the only punishment measure you
administer may cause them to be stubborn in the long run.
That's where you hear children say things like 'if I do this
the highest thing my dad or mom will do is to flog me.'
This is because their body may become used to the cane
and then you know you have more trouble to deal with.
A common resolve for this is to be creative. Try to use what
they love most against them when they do wrong. For
instance, if your child enjoys playing TV game after school
then you should sometimes seize the game or stop the
child from playing the game. But don't forget to tell him/her
the reason(s) for your actions.
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3. Always Keeping your children indoors :
If you have a female child, for example, you may be
tempted to think that locking her up in the room and not
letting her go out is one cool way to keep her away from
bad friends.
While the above may sound like the truth, it is actually a
false believe. This is so in the sense that : aside denying
your child the opportunity to mingle with their peer group,
the day they eventually get out of your 'prison' They will do
worst than what you can imagine.
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4. Feeling uncomfortable with discussing love matters :
I personally grew up to find that my parents were the shy
ones. They never felt okay with discussing love or
relationship matters with us even though we were grown up
enough to know these things then.
Well I'm not saying you should push your kids into early
relationships but you need to talk about it, tell them how to
know a good partner, tell them what sex is and the dangers
of early sex before marriage, help them understand
everything they need to know. If you fail to do this, just be
sure they will still learn these from somewhere else. So
what if they learn it the wrong way?
My suggestion is that from age 14 you should start
teaching them and as time goes on, start asking about who
their boyfriend or girlfriend is. Don't assume they don't
have any especially from age 18.
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5. Quarrelling with your spouse while the kids are around :
Well this Is a common trend these days. I have mentioned
that your kids will copy whatever you do as parents. So
fighting or quarrelling in their presence will automatically
mean you are teaching them how to do same.
My recommendation is that you settle every issue in your
private bedroom and be sure both of you don't raise your
voice or resort to fighting so as to avoid drawing the
attention of the children. Do you understand?

SOURCE http://www.romanceclinic.com/2016/07/5-ways-parents-corrupt-their-children.html

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