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Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by KennyG6(m): 4:10pm On Sep 16, 2009
In the heat of the moment, Edward promises to treat his girlfriend, Bella, to a trip to Paris for her birthday, knowing she’s always dreamt of going. Bella gets really excited and can’t stop going on and on about it. Then Edward goes to book Eurostar tickets for that weekend, assuming he’d be able to get them for £59, but there are no cheap trains or flights left; it would cost £300 return for two. Edward has the money, but it was much more than he was banking on.
Should Edward take Bella to Paris?[b][/b]
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by sesman(m): 4:13pm On Sep 16, 2009
yeah why not, he promised her and he has the money, so what's the issue here
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by Nobody: 4:15pm On Sep 16, 2009
Hmmm well if he has the money then he should splurge out. If its going to hurt him financially then he should tell her.
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by yme1(f): 4:19pm On Sep 16, 2009
if he gat the cash to spend, i see no reason why ,
but if not let him explain to the chik
NOTE---promise and fail is a sin undecided
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by izeek(m): 4:23pm On Sep 16, 2009
y me:

if he gat the cash to spend, i see no reason why ,
but if not let him explain to the chik
NOTE---promise and fail is a sin undecided


actually its promise and bail, and its not a sin.

tell him to go ahead if his pocket will not be afflicted seriously, otherwise, promise and bail will do just fine.
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by yme1(f): 4:27pm On Sep 16, 2009
izeek:

actually its promise and bail, and its not a sin.
never knew it was bail-thanks for the correction cheesy
and yes in my part it is a sin
i hate people who promise and fail to keep to it
it is better not to make one at all than to make an unfulfilled one
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by izeek(m): 4:37pm On Sep 16, 2009
y me,
was just kidding , never nice to say a thing and not do it.
am almost in the same shoes, only this time its not money related but time.

promised to travel somewhere south with some1 in november and am not even sure can get that time of work.
but am working towards it though.

so maybe he needs to explain it to her, or just pay the price and forget it.
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by yme1(f): 4:41pm On Sep 16, 2009
izeek:

y me,
was just kidding , never nice to say a thing and not do it.
am almost in the same shoes, only this time its not money related but time.

promised to travel somewhere south with some1 in november and am not even sure can get that time of work.
but am working towards it though.

so maybe he needs to explain it to her, or just pay the price and forget it.
LOL, no probs
try and keep to your promise dear
because it can affect your relationship
almost had a break up bacause he forgot my birthday
not cause of the gifts but he forgot to call and being the romantic type(lol),i took it hard
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by iice(f): 4:42pm On Sep 16, 2009
A remix of the twilight saga? undecided

And no. He can explain to her what happened at the station.
He can carry her somewhere else cheaper.
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by Secretz(f): 4:47pm On Sep 16, 2009
Na waa oo, that's not even triple the original price. . . . . but if it isn't gonna seriously burn his pocket then no problem. Only advise is next time, book it before telling her anything (obviously being aware that she would be available during that time to travel). grin
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by TheSeeker(m): 4:51pm On Sep 16, 2009
y me:

never knew it was bail-thanks for the correction cheesy
and yes in my part it is a sin
i hate people who promise and fail to keep to it
it is better not to make one at all than to make an unfulfilled one
So if he doesn't have the money he should rob a bank? I know you said he'd explain to the girl but in your case you're making it seem like if he promises regardless of the reason he fails, it's a sin. Pathetic!
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by yme1(f): 4:56pm On Sep 16, 2009
TheSeeker:

So if he doesn't have the money he should rob a bank? I know you said he'd explain to the girl but in your case you're making it seem like if he promises regardless of the reason he fails, it's a sin. Pathetic!
why on earth should he make the promise if he knows he is not gonna fulfill it
am not making it seem like a sin but never make an unfulfilled promise
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by iice(f): 5:18pm On Sep 16, 2009
y me:

why on earth should he make the promise if he knows he is not gonna fulfill it
am not making it seem like a sin but never make an unfulfilled promise

I understand you. I have a thing for promises too, but sometimes, one has to be practical/realistic and compromise.
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by TheSeeker(m): 5:37pm On Sep 16, 2009
y me:

why on earth should he make the promise if he knows he is not gonna fulfill it
am not making it seem like a sin but never make an unfulfilled promise
Making this a case study, how did he know the price was going to ricochet? Maybe you think people like to make promise just so not to fulfill it. If I make a promise to my girlfriend, and conditions I don't have control over overturns my intention, I'll let her understand why it's not going to work. But if she puts it on me like it was my fault or some resentment ensues afterward, I know where and how to fix her - and it's needless to say it's an unfair criticism.

If my girlfriend makes me a promise and an unforeseeable incidents faults her plan, I will NOT hold it on her head like she's committed some grievous crime
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by MissyB1(m): 5:56pm On Sep 16, 2009
Yes . . .If he can afford it.
Not only because he promised her but because it would delight her.

T's suppose to be a TREAT . . . . and what makes it golden is; knowing
that You crossed the bridge of inconveniences just to make her happy.
If Edward thinks she deserves to be happy . . . . .He should take her.

Now . . . .T's a different case if he can't afford it.


TheSeeker:

Making this a case study, how did he know the price was going to ricochet? Maybe you think people like to make promise just so not to fulfill it. If I make a promise to my girlfriend, and conditions I don't have control over overturns my intention, I'll let her understand why it's not going to work. But if she puts it on me like it was my fault or some resentment ensues afterward, I know where and how to fix her - and it's needless to say it's an unfair criticism.

If my girlfriend makes me a promise and an unforeseeable incidents faults her plan, I will NOT hold it on her head like she's committed some grievous crime 
There are people (Like me) who would prefer You don't make a promise
rather than raising up hopes and later burst bubbles.
Assuming she was very cheery and had to share it with her friends . . . .
How does she explain the ''comma'' to them lerra?

Even if she doesn't hold it against You . . . . In Your own eyes,
doesn't it make You look like a man who cannot put his words into practice
considering the fact that if You wanted to do it, You could have. Only that it meant a step further?
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by Nobody: 5:58pm On Sep 16, 2009
Well he didnt envisage the hike in price. If thats he's real reason for having a double mind den I think he should tell her. No need straining your budget for a trip!!

Theseeker's right: People break promises for the right reasons, she cant hold it against him. If he's too chicken to tell her the make e close eye pay for the trip na!
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by spoilt(f): 6:20pm On Sep 16, 2009
hell Yeah!
you dont break romantic promises to your girl. grin
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by tkb417(m): 6:26pm On Sep 16, 2009
we ca always go to another exotic place for the 59 GBP

i'll use the same mouth i used in promising her to tell her about the new pricing, the impending waste if we go ahead with the old plans and tell her also of the new place called *** tht will be as good as the old place

no be woman, she go gree grin
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by TheSeeker(m): 10:32pm On Sep 16, 2009
[Quote author=Missy B]There are people (Like me) who would prefer You don't make a promise
rather than raising up hopes and later burst bubbles.
Assuming she was very cheery and had to share it with her friends . . . .
How does she explain the ''comma'' to them lerra?

Even if she doesn't hold it against You . . . . In Your own eyes,
doesn't it make You look like a man who cannot put his words into practice
considering the fact that if You wanted to do it, You could have. Only that it meant a step further?[/Quote]

I'm making the guy's case as an example. Of course, if I was in his shoes, I'd have pulled a surprise by having the tickets already rather than make a promise. The kind of promises I make are such that, even if I'm dying, I'll fulfill them otherwise, I can't and will never.

But in this case, no one - not a prophet - will have had an inkling that the tickets will hike more than four times the first price and how is it supposed to be his fault that there was an increase? So he made a promise and something happens that he has no iota of control over, and he's supposed to feel like a man who doesn't live up to his word?

My friend, re-think that. He's not morally guilty but he can feel bad it didn't happen as he speculated but that was in no way his fault and he's not supposed to feel bad about it. And if a woman holds it on his head, she's unreasonable.
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by 190: 11:17pm On Sep 16, 2009
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he should Jump 4rm a bridge! undecided
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by Nobody: 12:26am On Sep 17, 2009
These show off dudes. He got what he deserved.
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by KennyG6(m): 9:09am On Sep 17, 2009
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Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do?

he should Jump 4rm a bridge! undecided
Really? shocked
Re: Moral Dilemma-what Should He Do? by r231(m): 9:53am On Sep 17, 2009
michelin89:

These show off dudes. He got what he deserved.


grin

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