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Dealing With Changes In New Relationships by Beemhan(m): 10:27am On Aug 04, 2016 |
When someone is in a new relationship, there is
usually a lot of ‘ first times’ . Some of them can
be so weird that it takes some time to adjust
while others leave you saying ‘I didn’t see that
coming!’ I will try to state some of them and
let’s see if one or two people here can relate.
So the first girl you dated was extremely light;
possibly even a Caucasian but now you have
fallen for a dark girl. There is nothing wrong
with that but I want to take it from the body
shock aspect. My friend had schooled abroad
and the first encounter she had with a penis
was with her white boyfriend but fast forward 5
years later, she is back is Nigeria and dating a
black boy. She is actually one of these really
light skinned people herself so the contrast was
a shock at first and she literally turned his
penis to a tourist site as she kept staring at. I
just imagined a guy in this position looking
down at black nipples and vagina. It does not
matter how many videos you may have seen,
the physical thing in front of you can still jolt
you.
Then on lips, people have thin/thick lips, so
making that transition from having a mouthful
when you kiss someone to someone with thin
lips may take some adjusting to (only reason I
can explain why some people kiss like they are
eating ponmo). While on the subject of lips, let
us take it further by talking about the lips that
really don’t speak; vulvas. Let us say the first
vulva you saw was thin and barely there, then,
you end up with someone with the extra-large
lips that just hang there (there is nothing wrong
with any size by the way). It will take some 10
secs for you to adjust but I am sure the
difference in sizes/look came as a shock to
you. Let’s even go further to talk about a
woman’s smell; the variation is so much that
the change can make you dizzy I think….seeing
as I have never gone as far as smelling any
other besides mine but I am sure guys find
themselves in this position more and can tell us
out here?
Then you date a guy with an average joe only
to meet another with the very big joe. That
adjustment may take a while but that initial
shock never goes away. Well, first you are
excited about all the hype on big joes until sex
hurts and you start wondering if it is worth it.
What if it was the other way around? You left
the big brother for the small or average
brother. First you think maybe there was some
partiality applied during this person’s creation
but you love this person so you just manage or
leave? Let’s just say, going from big to small is
harder in this instance because you fear the
balls of smallie might follow the penis when
going in considering the damage the biggy has
done.
What of when you have always had an active
sex life with all your partners then you meet
someone you really love who is celibate? I know
you will accept it if you love the person but I
have to ask how you made the adjustment and
were able to cope at the beginning. Please if
you accept this position from a partner but
were having it outside while staying away from
your partner, you will not be able to relate.
How about going from a B cup to a double DD?
Let’s say you got used to handling the small
breasts and can even consider yourself a pro on
how to handle breast until you encountered that
HUGE one that was spilling over. Did you find
yourself struggling to handle them? What if it
was the other way around? Did you go from big
to small and found yourself handling the small
ones with disrespect (you know… that one-palm
cupping). Which did you prefer?. Well, if you are
hopping between the two and handling it well,
what is it? Are you trying out for some kind of
Olympics?
What if you went from a tall fella where you had
to tippy toe to kiss him to a short one where
you now go down low to kiss them? Or you
went from a guy with six packs to a pot belly
and now have to lean back to accommodate
the belly. Or did you leave a pot belly for six
packs and now found out that you can actually
have sex facing each other?. Was your last
girlfriend slim and you could lift her against a
wall, spin her and all that but now you tried it
with your new love who happens to be orobo
and you almost had pile when you lifted her
and are learning new ways to go about it?.
There are so many instances and I am hoping
you can share some wake up moments when
you moved from one relationship to the other. I
know people can adjust to these things over
time; I am more interested in your first
experience/thought when you were intimate
with a new partner.
Please do tell, you may just help someone build
shock absorbers when they are transitioning
into a new relationship.
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