There are guys, who seem to be scared of commitment. Once their girlfriend start talking or pestering them about marriage, they get so uncomfortable. Some guys are even ready to dump such a girl and move on to another girl, just to avoid being pressurized into getting marriage by any girl. They tend to run away from it, as if getting marriage would take away a lot from them...

marvelck:
There are guys, who seem to be scared of commitment. Once their girlfriend start talking or pestering them about marriage, they get so uncomfortable. Some guys are even ready to dump such a girl and move on to another girl, just to avoid being pressurized into getting marriage by any girl. They tend to run away from it, as if getting marriage would take away a lot from them...

And your point is?

Cos we want to be sure we arrived on that decision by ourselves.. What if he hasnt established a solid means of income? When we think of marriage we first think of the extra people we have to carry along and if we will be able.. For myself..i wont just wake up one day and decide to get married if i know theres a potential for my unborn kids to go hungry ...there are things you prepare yourself for..

So a guy should allow himself be forced into marriage when he's not ready? Especially when he's almost 100% sure the lady will have no contribution whatsoever?

Bluehawk:
Cos we want to be sure we arrived on that decision by ourselves.. What if he hasnt established a solid means of income? When we think of marriage we first think of the extra people we have to carry along and if we will be able.. For myself..i wont just wake up one day and decide to get married if i know theres a potential for my unborn kids to go hungry ...there are things you prepare yourself for..

No mind am...na small pikin mentality dey worry am

as for me. I would never think of marrying a lady if she isn't gonna be a plus. Not that I'll be depending on her to performs special duties but just to know she'll come in handy when help is needed... Emotionally, financially (hardly) and spiritually. Some ladies are so dead emotionally that they can't even uplift a sad mad except using their bodies. Spiritually, most are not reliable... Financially, that's another case completely.

marvelck:
There are guys, who seem to be scared of commitment. Once their girlfriend start talking or pestering them about marriage, they get so uncomfortable. Some guys are even ready to dump such a girl and move on to another girl, just to avoid being pressurized into getting marriage by any girl. They tend to run away from it, as if getting marriage would take away a lot from them...

How do you come to conclude on your findings. I believe there are plentiful reasons why a guy will not want to be committed to a lady of marriageable age.
1. They may not be financially ready or buoyant to get married
2. They may not be confidently sure the bae's got those motherly qualities required of her
3. Ethnic/Tribal difference: Some families frowns at it when the bae aint from their region per se
4. If bae aint a career lady or probably still fresh in school and the guy cannot wait for her to graduate
5. Her physique may be an ish, her non-communicative skills, could be an introvert, etc...


My 2cents sha....