LIFE MUST GO ON let her go she don show re true colour so just leave her behinde and move on but na wa o tank ur stars that she didnt say u re responsible

since the person that owns the pregnacy is making plan
to terminate it, it shows that he dont even love the girl in question
@poster just tell the girl not to kill the innocent child and u urself if it pleases u to stay with her fine
but if u cant cope the situation u can cut the relationship for ur own good
as long as am consined she can never be trusted again

Errr,what are u waiting for U need to run away as far as u can from her!

mikesleek:

take her back and come back to nl to create a new thread on how she killed you.

U bad!

Anabel:

terminating it is very risky, but if it goes well no probs, but allow her go for an HIV test, that is if you want her back, but what did you do to her that will make her go for another man, even to the extent of unprotected sex,

what a aquestion. what do you do to millions of fornicators that cheat without conscience?

Druss:

bye bye baby!!

that is another fresh blood crying against the land as if the country is not dark and backward enough.

@poster , may be you're real bad in bed and she had to play field to make up in advance for what She'll be missing in your house.
Just kidding, but honestly you're really a nice guy for you to be contemplating what to do. I hope i develop to a fair mind like yours.
And as for all these advice of people telling you to hang her, let me ask you this . Do you know exactly how many girls have done or are doing the same ? Plenty o.
The difference between she and them is that she's not a pro so she couldn't hide it as well as many do.
Many guys cheat on girls and girls too cheat in return. She could have done it thinking that you're doing same to her, afterall you have a 'nice job' in port, with a flat. Come on we all know what most guys in your position'd be doing engaged or not- stacking mileage .
So yes, you caught her doing something many girls have done, aborted and wiped the oil from their mouths. While i most probably will do the same thing every one's saying you have to ask your self how different the next person'll be.

@poster,

Be wise!!! if she delete why trying aborting the pregnancy you go enter jail oh becos na from your place she go see the doctor.

@Edoyad, very intelligent response.

I'm proud of Nairaland this moment.
I thank u all for your concern/advice/suggestions/questions and comments.

^^^ what are u thanking us for? wetin u wan do now na the question?

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just leave her quietly
wat a shame!

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just leave her quietly
wat a shame!

So sorry she broke ur heart.

Now thank God you found out, otherwise she may have tried to pass this pregnancy off as urs. Take this as a gift from God.
DON'T THINK TWICE, LET HER GO ASAP. The moment she got pregnant for another man, she ceased to qualify as ur fiancee. You are too good for left overs, "you can do bad all by urself". In time, God will heal ur heart and give u a befitting partner and not a low down woman like her.

Show her the door! she's unfaithful!!!!

my brother,u are not the first person it had happened to.i just want you to think well before you take decision.let me ask you this question,do you really love her ? can you forgive her ?is she really in love with you ? if your answer is yes.pls take her. back,even if you have not cheated on her ever since you started the relationship.love forgives,lust pays back.finally,here in europe.i do not trust my girl friend and i use to tell her not to trust me,because we are still on earth where any thing can happen.in case you decide to say goodbye to her,pls be man enough.do not allow any man to clean your thing for u

to everybody.if you know from your heart of heart,you have never cheated on your partner, tell this guy to say good bye.any good thing that belongs to you must be kept safe if not,

@Kasmano
But the pregnancy isn't mine. Besides, I'm reluctant
to support her abortion plans.

my advise is think twice before you take any decision ok.the world is not what we think.take care

she wnts 2 eat er cake and stil keep it

I think you should send her packing without batting an eye lid because she either doesn't love you[for which u shld find someone who does] or you don't satisfy her enough[when she finds someone who does she would ALWAYS cheat on you]

Its hard. But don't take the life of that innocent child support her in every way u can, and try to find what led to that, that she cheated on u. then u can proceed with a descision.

Dont walk away, RUN!!!! As fast as you can in the opposite direction. There is no excuse for what she has done. Leave her to her lover. You will find a women who deserves you better!!

Wow these marriage will be based on Hate and malice it's hard not to forget better to bounce nicely and have no grudges against her

I am feeling this guy, somehow I am shading tears for him; This is why some men took a position.

sexyLeamon:

Wow what a situation, I am truly sorry. Ok first you need to find out:

1) Who's baby is it. Regardless if you stay with her, or not,

2) Do you still love her and have you truly forgiven her? Its not that easy.

3) Does she still love you or is she scared because she's pregnant and she's just looking for support?

4) Can you find it in your heart to raise this child as your own?

now think about all these question carefully, and answer it truly to yourself and make your decision good luck.

this is incredible rubbish! it has already been established that the baby is not his. if the lady confessed then forgiveness could be an option but he had to catch her red handed so there is only one option.flee from this appearance of evil.

What is happening really? Some people are still asking if the poster loves the girl or not. The moment she got pregnant for another man, love is lost.

From your first premise i know you loved her deeply. The step you have taken to address the issue is an A grade, very mature. Yes, it is important to follow your heart in the right sense of communication. But do not foce things to happen. Granted we all make mistakes for foolish reasons and sometime play smart and not been clever. You weren't smart to sneak out with her phone and eventually know what's happening, it is just that God has a different plan for you. Two things stands, it either she has a good conscience and appreciate you forgiveness and be your wife forever or you will be librated through this incident as such she you get out of your life.

In life you can't know all, and many things happens for different reasons. Which is the right reason and step to take only God knows but the ball is in your court. My advise is: Pls don't tell anyone close to you both cause you wouldn't get the be advise. What you will hear will astorn you and bring another you to play forcefully.

However, ask yourself the QUESTION whats in life? Nothing!!!!! Just take it as it comes and for your heart. My only fear is whether you will accept her with the pregancy and father the child. But, "PLEASE DON'T ABORT THE BABY".

Best wishes. (oceancharlices@yahoo.com)