The OP is a blogger, so your answers are not going to whoever (if there was an actual person even) asked the question. So he can't give answers to your own questions.

Onegai:
The OP is a blogger, so your answers are not going to whoever (if there was an actual person even) asked the question. So he can't give answers to your own questions.

The writer has since been replied by my blog visitors and even on our Facebook fans page. He got more than he expected as advice.
I only brought the letter here, as a post to teach one another some morals.

Talk to your MIL who you said has been reasonable. Be willing to shift ground if she also request you do, provided there is no contrary medical advise. But name your child as tradition demands. You can arrange to do the naming quietly in the Ibadan (the wedding place?) and later do your owambe at your own residence.

My brother, this is a simple matter. Your wife and baby aren't fit to travel, chikena! A simple apology will suffice. You are the man of your own home. In as much as you and your wife want to attend the wedding, the situation now, will not permit it. Your wife's recovery and the health of the baby are paramount now.