NOTE: This piece is not for those who are not interested in getting married at all. The ones who think marriage is a scam and not necessary to them. It is also not for those who in any way are not ready for marriage at all because they are not mentally ready. This piece is solely directed to the single men out there who are looking to get married one day and have a family of their own, but are putting it on hold because of one "hustle" or the other.

For a very long time now I've been hearing my fellow men talk about this issue. Whenever it's been discussed many of them will say they can't get married until they've made it. They say women are distractions to their life's goals.

But I stand contrary to that belief. You don't need to be financially buoyant before you can decide that you want to get married. By buoyant I mean you don't have to be raking in millions into your account before you can now say you want to tie the knot. It is a very sad thing that this is what majority of single guys think today. We men have put ourselves in a box that has no escape route. If you have a job and a steady income or you're in business and you earn enough that can take care of you, your wife and maybe a child or two why not get married? Especially if you're already engaged to a lady.

Many of us guys give so many excuses why we don't want to get married now and the new one is the recent economic recession affecting the country. Everybody knows things are hard right now, but it doesn't mean you'll stop living your life because you claim you don't have money. Every Saturday people get married and i'm 100% sure 95% of those people don't have their names on Forbes list yet. But they've decided to damn all the odds and get married to the woman they want to spend the rest of their lives with.

It is also an irony that these same guys who said they are hustling and don't want to get distracted by a woman will still spend so much money on drinks and prostitutes. If you're the kind of guy that claims women are distractions but you waste your money on the same women randomly and on drinks then you're your own problem. That money you're wasting you could have saved it up in earnest preparation for your family life. We should stop blaming the women for everything. The truth is that some guys are just not responsible enough.

In my opinion, a person who really doesn't want to be distracted wouldn't even indulge in all those vain activities. You will be totally focused and won't let anything try to obstruct you from achieving those goals. You don't want to get married but you have a child out of wedlock and you're still claiming "hustle" when you've already started a family albeit the wrong way. Who is deceiving who?

I believe that you can have a woman by your side and still pursue your goals. Nothing stops you from getting married and continue your hustle. Besides, the hustle never ends. It's something which you will keep doing till you return back to the soil. I don't think Dangote was a bachelor when he became the richest black man. Good luck jonathan was still a lecturer when he married his woman. And so many other examples. Women are only distractions to men when they are too much around you or when the one you have doesn't support you enough. If you have a good woman by your side and you're earning income through any means why not start your family?

For those who believe in luck and destiny we should have it in mind that everyone's destiny is not the same. That your friend became successful at a young age doesn't mean that's when your own success will come. We all have our stories. There are people that began to experience a new twist in their life the moment they tied the knots. That woman could just be the good luck charm you needed or the one that will give you that very brilliant advise that will help you land that contract or promotion in the office which will turn things around for you.

Finally, it seems that many of us guys don't think of our future but only for the present. In any way we live our lives we should have it in mind that there are people it will definitely affect. You are saying you don't want to marry now until you "hammer" but you spend thousands flexing oloshos and drinking stupïdly, then when you're 40 you get married finally to a young girl who will give you kids and then before you hit 60 kidney problem starts. Your first child is not even up to 20 and your wife will become a very young widow. Is that the kind of future you want to have? To be driving your 10 year old son to primary school while you're already old and weak.

Even if you don't flex and all that, it's just always better to have your children at a young age. They'll grow up with you and become your best friends. At a reasonable age you'll even have grand kids while you're still very much alive and young. When you marry late and die early your wealth may die with you and all the hustle and sweat will go to waste.

So my fellow men out there who are confused to take the next step. Don't be confused anymore. If you're earning something and you have a woman who has ticked all your boxes please go ahead and put the ring on her finger. Stop wasting her time!!!

If you never get, go find your own ASAP!!!

Lalasticlala if this is worthy of front page please help me take it there. Thanks.

charijee:
Is someone planning on getting married?



Another someone needs to see this

Lemme goan call him.

naijaboiy:

Lemme goan call him.

Amebo! ....call who?

charijee:
Amebo! ....call who?

"Him" na!

naijaboiy:

"Him" na!

I didn't mention "him" in my post

So, are we gathering soon for Owambe?

iykekelvins:
Nice one.

All I know is as long as you can take care of your family, you can get married.

joseph1832:
Doesn't taking care of ones family mean one is 'financially buoyant?'.

iykekelvins:
Yeah, it is.

But from the write-up; he said buoyant doesn't mean you have to be ranking in millions.

You could have a business that earns you at least enough to cater for the family.

joseph1832:
Nigeria, is a money centred society where people worship money.

joseph1832:
Then from the write-up you should know the OP isn't abreast of what is happening in today's Nigeria.

Having enough to carter for ones family isn't even enough nowadays, especially as nothing is even stable.

Then again, when one see glaringly that what he earns isn't enough to carter for his family immediate needs, then one will know 'finance' play a major role in not just marriage or family matters, but every facet of nigerian existence, because Nigeria, is a money centred society where people worship money.

ayusco85:


True Story

iykekelvins:
So, men should remain bachelors because they don't have enough yet?

joseph1832:
Nope! Men should do according to what their heart desire, any man who wants to get married should know the onus fall on him to do whatever he it takes, as if he hasn't come to know that money solves almost 80% of a man's problem (Nigerian man) then I'm afraid he's going to find himself answering questions from his kids, and if care is not taken, his wife.

Laveda:
Be like Dee don dey prep

You've said well, but nowadays not every girl is ready to settle with guys earning little
They'll always want their wedding and trad. Marriage to be the talk of the town, this can only work when you find that woman who's meant for you, else nothing would come outta it..

Only a good woman and a responsible well thinking man can make this work afterall.

That's why I stated that if you're with a good woman then go ahead.

I thought you girls say we still have good girls who don't care about money that much. Abi na joke?

iykekelvins:
Ok, I get you now.

naijaboiy:

That's why I stated that if you're with a good woman then go ahead.

I thought you girls say we still have good girls who don't care about money that much. Abi na joke?