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Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by stuffs4me(m): 5:45am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Amelian: You are psychologically disturbed. Just because you have a bad experience does not mean you should infect other happy people with your own personal misfortune. Finally, I can see that you hate men so much, just remember that your father is also a man and that makes him selfish and all he thinks about is his dí*ck alone. |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by hisMrs(f): 6:49am On Sep 14, 2016 |
i don't see anything wrong with a girl getting married @ 20 so long she's independent. but in this case, I won't advice her to get married at that age, reason being that she's yet to gain admission and If anything goes wrong in the marriage it would b difficult for her to pick up her life, besides she'll bcome a liability to the man. The man should wait for her to get her degree and have a stable income before she gets married, if he can't wait he should go. The man shouldn't b allowed to pay for the girl's education at all, because in future he will say 'I mad u who u are today, if not for me u are nobody' . 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Barigaboy(m): 6:56am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Mosesbutez:I wud have advice u but I m single n requested advice from d married. But let me over look that. Well d best age for a girl to get married is 20, 25 is medium while 30 is d highest. But y 20 might not work is that at 20 a girl might not be mature enough n when she grow up she might see her decision wrong. But there is only 1 reason or criteria. If d girl is living with her mom n Dad allow her d relationship wud grow strong but if she is living with d 2 parent please don't allow that until d girl is grown enough to make decision. Also find out if d family of those guy is in support of his decision. |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by CaroLyner(f): 7:31am On Sep 14, 2016 |
jokerphilics:Yessss 4 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Pastev1(m): 10:03am On Sep 14, 2016 |
NOTHING WRONG AT ALL. BUT LET THAT GIRL BE MENTALLY AND NATURALLY MATURED HAVING UNDERSTANDING OF WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT. YOU AS HER SISTER, SPELL OUT TO THAT MARRIAGE IS AN INSTITUTION WITH NO SEX TIME TABLE NOR DENIERS. |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Onyiridike(f): 10:29am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Amelian: And you have generalized. Everybody is not like that man. Moreover, are you saying that girls who didn't go to the university cannot get married? What nonsense! |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Onyiridike(f): 10:31am On Sep 14, 2016 |
CaroLyner:BIG LIE Nobody marries anybody simply because she has a career. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Nobody: 10:32am On Sep 14, 2016 |
stuffs4me: wat a myopic thinking. psychologicaly disturb indeed..smhh. definitely in yur dreams. if u like conclude, i hate men, i dont fcking care. am in a good place, so think watever u like..and also my cousin misfortune is not my misfortune. i hope simple english is not so hard 4 u 2understand |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Onyiridike(f): 10:42am On Sep 14, 2016 |
hisMrs: I beg to differ ma! You see, it is the duty of the parent to groom their daughter for marriage before she turns 18 years. Also, degree is not a guarantee of success neither is it a yard stick to measure maturity. I have ladies in my M. Sc class who lack the cognitive ability to profer solutions to problems. Some of them lack the sought-after qualities in woman. Maturity does not come with age but with acceptance of responsibilities. I've seen 18-year old girl who is more mature than another 38-year old girl. |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Nobody: 10:45am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Onyiridike: wats this one saying?? is it so hard to read and understand? no need wasting my time on u..*sighs * |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by stuffs4me(m): 11:03am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Amelian: Like I said before, your problem is personal. Just because you hate men does not mean other healthy and happy ladies should hate men. Your problem is your problem, don't use it to disturb the life of another happy lady that wants to get married to her suitor. |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by ireneidiva(f): 11:07am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Bishops10:lol.she gave birth. so? anybody can give birth. she married that man because she was pregnant. stop supporting rubbish. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by dollarboi11(m): 1:14pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
My own opinion... 1. being light skinned is a very lame excuse in this present world esp. when ure trying to plead to marry a 20 yr old, there v to be something aside being light skinned. 2. Exposure is a very important factor, she hasnt gained admission yet... if he really has good intentions e can at least wait till she gains admission or probably when shez in 200l( this case is very common in universities) i bet she needs that university experience as it is very important. 3.+ d girl in question might not really know what she wants... 'All that glitters is not gold' she might be blinded or enticed by d guys personality. tho if u v to get married at 20 ur spouse to b must be very mature to balance the equation. 4. The guy has waited 2 yrs... if e really have her best interest at heart e should wait at least a yr more. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Nobody: 1:42pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
stuffs4me: if u like keep ranting like a mad dog.. its yur choice.. |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Nobody: 2:51pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Mosesbutez:There is nothing wrong with a 20 year old female getting married. What is important is the level of understanding she has of what is involved in marriage. Is your sister mentally and physically ready for marriage? Also this man and your sister have not dated in order to know each other well. Compatibility is very important. Lets say your sister wants a career or wants to become somebody in life, is he the type that will support her? will he help her to fulfill her dreams just as omotola's husband is doing? Remember, we are in an era where women are meant to have a purpose in life and contribute financially and meaningfully. Life isnt just about getting married and being a baby factory. There is going to be a time your sister will reason like this which is why marriage is not to be rushed. what you thought was good for you when you were 20 will not be what you will like at 25. Your sister developing likeness for this man is not a strong reason for her to say yes to him. How can you ask her if she loves the man when they have not gotten to know each other well? Allow these two to court themselves properly like a normal man and woman relationship should be. Your sister needs to know this man veeeerrrrry well before deciding to take such a big step as marriage. A red flag in this man is that he has A flimsy reason for wanting to marry your sister. It does not speak well of his intentions. In fact i wouldnt want to give out my daughter to a man who wants her just for her skin color. He just wants a young trophy wife. it shows he doesnt even know her enough to want to marry her. The way he is going about begging people to force that girl to marry him is suspicious. Even men who are goldiggers or abusive or with questionable characters do that so that is not a new thing my dear. Any man can beg. That proves nothing. Where is he rushing to? Why is he in a hurry? Horrible stories are everywhere of certain advanced men who like to prey on young girls and then destroy their future. There is a reason why such men go for very young girls that are not exposed. When domestic violence is involved, the girls are helpless because their husbands refused to complete their education and no income of their own to survive. Then divorce happens and they are back to square one, All the good years they would have used to have a better future were wasted on a horrible marriage. If you dnt want these for your sister, please dnt rush her like this kpa kpa kpa into marriage with that man. Let her get to know this man veerrrrry well. Insist that this man wait until he has proven to be a good choice for her. Even when she has gotten into school, let him continue to wait while they keep dating. You and your people dnt know this man yet. Marriage no be beans. Nobody should force that girl to marry that man. I am using almighty God to beg you oooooooo. 8 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by cococandy(f): 5:28pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
You've said it all. Sophyrocks: 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by JoyChinwe22(f): 5:35pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Thosinhaknow:THE ISSUE OF RAPE, WITHIN THE CONFINES OF MARRIAGE (how wives are being raped by husbands) Rape occurs when sexual intercourse or any other sexual activity is forced upon an individual without his/her consent. In marriage however, it is a form of domestic violence and sexual abuse, wherein sex is forced on one spouse by the other. As strange as it sounds, rape also occurs in marriage. Any sexual activity not consented by both parties, is rape. The prominent kind of rape in marriage however is wife rape. Rape generally is perceived not to be present in marriage, being that a woman is supposed to consensually engage in sex with her husband, making rape unnecessary. This is why despite the fact that rape in marriage has become quite rampant, it is given little or no attention from Human right activists', Criminal Justice System and even the society at large. Infact, wife rape remains one of the prevalent, yet under-reported crimes in Nigeria. Two of the best studies so far which have investigated the general existence of wife rape in representative samples of women ( Finkelhor & Yllo, 1985; Russell, 1990) have found that between 10-14% of women who have ever been married have been raped at least once by their partner. For the purpose of this article, we shall examine some of the intriguing issues and questions surrounding wife rape which include : Reasons men rape their wives, Why Victims refuse to report such incidents, The characteristics of wife rapists, The effects of wife rape on the victim( physically and psychologically) & on the home; and finally, What to do in case you experience such. WHY DO MEN RAPE THEIR WIVES? This is one of the nagging questions concerning wife rape which has been given several conflicting answers. However some of the prominent reasons given for wife rape include: To see more, visit: HOW WIFE’S ARE BEING RAPED BY HUSBANDS. http://www.familyflex.net/2016/09/how-wifes-are-being-raped-by-husbands.html |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by iwatch: 6:12pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
rosalieene:I am really worried they will eventually hand th girl over to that guy because he wants to "train" he in school. Like WTF? If a family is well to do, I don see how he would have the audacity and temerity as his USP. If I were the parents, that alone is an insult! I wish I could have my way to see the parents and advice them well. If anything happens to her in that marriage, she will never forgive her parents and brother. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by jokerphilics(m): 6:46pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
CaroLyner:How many? Use d celeb as example, how many is married. The way dem dey luk for husband ehn u go dey surprised but they are no showing it physically.
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Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Talkingboy: 6:53pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
blesoh: Most reasonable comment since .... Weldone dear 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Bishops10(m): 9:16pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
ireneidiva:And stop talking rubbish......don't say what you don't know we've known the guy for close to two years now. |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by ireneidiva(f): 10:17pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Bishops10:you married your pregnant 19 year old sister off period. That is not an achievement. i wonder whi asked you how long you knew him. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by ireneidiva(f): 10:18pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Bishops10:you married your pregnant 19 year old sister off period. That is not an achievement. i wonder who asked you how long you knew him. |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by ubiR(f): 6:54am On Sep 15, 2016 |
Mosesbutez:Marriage isn't entirely about love. She is learning to love him means she didn't initially, his constant visits and chats are enough to make her develop love plus sweet talks and gifts. Her answer shows she is immature. Pls let her wait a little more, his presence is choking her to accept. Let her gain admission first, at least for the first two years to makeup her mind. That guy is pressurizing her to accept his proposal. 5 Likes |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Nobody: 9:25am On Sep 15, 2016 |
cococandy:Thanks dear. How you doing? |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Nobody: 9:47am On Sep 15, 2016 |
ubiR:Exactly! What kind of man goes about trying to win all her family's favor without necessarily getting to know the girl well to see if she will even be a good wife to him? what sort of desperation is that? The way he is going about it is fishy. I dnt think he is mentally balanced. This is how abusive men start. The man is the type that is forceful in his demands which makes me think he could be abusive. That girl has to be careful. There are women who can testify that such men were this all over them in the begining but after marriage they turned out to be something else. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Nobody: 1:09pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Mosesbutez:l The op himself do not want his sister to further her education, what a pity Cos he feels she might get impregnanted by boys... Op if your sister is given the right training and she won't end up getting pregnant in school by a random guy. But if cutting off her education is what everyone in the family is contemplating on, feeling it's the best choice for her? Then go ahead ... No need seeking advice from us again.. But remember if it backfires , and d man shows his true colors afterwards, your sister will never forgive everyone in her family for leading her astray.. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by cococandy(f): 2:29pm On Sep 15, 2016 |
Sophyrocks:I'm good. Thanks: |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by ChaChaKez(f): 11:50pm On Sep 18, 2016 |
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Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by hisMrs(f): 8:10am On Feb 21, 2017 |
Onyiridike: You probably did not get me right. like i earlier said that i do not see anything wrong with getting married at the age of 20. i have friends who got married earlier than that. i never said education is a base for success or age is a measure of maturity NO!!! What i am saying is that, with the present mindset that Nigerian men have, it is better to secure their child's future the best way they can and education is one of that. not every woman can manage education and marriage especially when kids are involved. I would only say she's young and she should be given opportunity to explore life, except the marriage is of her free will |
Re: Is It Okay For A 20-Year-Old Girl To Marry? by Biancah(f): 8:10pm On May 02, 2020 |
Mosesbutez:Did your sister finally get married to the guy ? |
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