Dear Bunmi,

I got married less than 2 years ago. My wife got pregnant before our wedding day. 3 weeks after the wedding I was told by her sister that my wife was HIV positive. I was so angry because she didn’t tell me before or when we started dating, even now I realize they all (her family) knew this before the wedding and wanted to get me infected to hold me down.

I am negative and have held on for my child over a year now. Her 1st result came out negative and the last test is in about 6 months. After the last test for my child I have decided to get a divorce because I feel cheated and I don’t want to live a life with restrictions especially sexually, and even if, that should have been my decision, not to be deceived into it.

Clive.
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Hmmmm

-Mistake was that you should both have gone together to take the HIV test in a reputable Lab before marriage or before having unprotected sexual intercourse so that your status is made known to both couples. That's the trend nowadays.

-Well, let by-gones be by-gones. The love you had For her before you married her is greater than HIV. I guess you should FORGIVE her and stand by her side now that she needs you most.

Remember, ''TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE AND TO ERR IS HUMAN".