How Sex Isn't The Only Form Of Infidelity In
Relationships These Days

It’s 5:30 am, and your alarm goes off. You open
your eyes, and your mind starts racing.
Meetings, conference calls and project
deadlines all loom.
Why is there always so much to do and never
enough time to get it done?
You grab your phone and scroll through your
notifications as you walk into the shower, half
awake.
Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text
message: “Good morning, baby. I hope you
have a wonderful day.”
This text serves as two reminders: You want her
to know she’s the first thing on your mind. And,
more importantly, she needs to realize that,
regardless of how stressful or busy your days
are, she’s the priority.

It sounds so perfect, but that’s not reality.
Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook,
nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just
maybe, you’ll send that text to your woman on
the way to work.

Relationships these days lack direction. People
“date,” but what the hell does that even mean
anymore? Is it hanging out twice a
month? Texting all day? Kissing here and there?

Something is missing. What’s causing
relationships to falter at the rate they are?
Relationships thrive on communication. Our
most intimate emotions are reserved for the
person we love, so how is it acceptable to never
show them?

We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things:
sitting at the dinner table with our phones out,
arguing over text, publishing every minute of
our lives on social media.
Do you know what trumps all that? That society
has accepted relationships in which we are
being cheated on every day.
When you think of cheating in the traditional
sense, having sex with another person comes to
mind.
It’s an intimate situation in which the person
you love is connecting with another while you
are going about your life, loving and caring for
said person.
Once you find out, all trust is lost. But think
about the concept for a minute.

Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the
deprivation of “something valuable by the use
of deceit or fraud.”
Sure, sex is cheating and may be the most
hurtful case, but have you ever stopped to think
you’re being cheated out of your relationship
every day?

We experience a lack of communication,
attention, passion, intimacy and even lack of
love. Why are we okay with this and all the
communication shortcuts that have become so
common?
This type of cheating causes much more
damage than that of any sexual affair.

You’ve given your heart to someone and love
him or her with every bone in your body, but
you have to beg for his or her attention.
You sit back and watch this person post status
updates about useless things, or post pictures
just so people can comment.

You need to take a minute to tell her she’s
beautiful. Call her after work to say, “Get
dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and
taking you somewhere special.”
Make an effort. Old-fashioned love needs to
make another round.
The days of holding hands, opening the car
door, taking her out “just because,” sending her
flowers just to get a smile and leaving her notes
on her car should never be gone.
We have to be children when it comes to love.
We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t
happen when we’re preoccupied with the
details of everyone else’s lives.
Focus on each other. When it’s all said and
done, that’s all you really have.

Appreciate her, and show her how much she
means to you. But, most importantly, put your
phone down, and dial into what’s in front of
you.

Your the menh