dharay99:

I don't read long crap, Neeeeeeeexxxxxxxt...

Vinshu:
Too long but let me take my time to read since I have secured the FTC Spot. Would modify after reading and summarise for others.

Summary:-

Alright guys. Here is the summary. He found a first time potential Slut on the street on his usual street time outs. And fell in love with the little girl because she was young and he was her first client. She fell in love first and they have had a wonderful relationship thus far. He changed her life from a drug addicted hoe to a responsible woman. And he felt his days on the streets looking for sluts for a night stand are over.

Suddenly she leaves for Lagos to see her father without packing anything along with hope of coming back to him and she never comes back! He is heartbroken. That's the summary.

My Opinion:-

I feel your pain. what you mentioned you didn't provide full details. When she rejected your offer to take her back, did she give a reason? If she did, can you share? Who knows she may still love you but family stuff you know.

I'm a woman and I know women more than you do. If she intended to leave for good, she won't go without her things. She would take all. For her to leave without them means she actually intended to return.

The dad talking to you means the dad was involved. Maybe he brainwashed her or told her something or did something that made her stay. If he didn't, he won't talk to you. It's not his concern. I suspect the dad either held her down for one reason she may or may not have told you because you didn't care to ask maybe out of anger. I get it. Try to hear her out and give her time. If she is yours she would come back. And believe me, for a woman to fall in love with you FIRST, and have unprotected sex with you the first time meeting you. it's genuine. That's too much even for a player at that age. The love is real.

But I would say "move on"!. Because I can imagine what you would have done at her place when you delivered her things. Whatever you did if out of anger would have spoiled things. So no hope. Unless you stayed cool which I doubt you did. Coz if you're cool, you wont post this yet.

BoiledHead:
Thanks.

You are right it's too late. I was so angry I and the dad ended in a fight and I left with anger and heartbreak.

So its over.

BoiledHead:



I have been going to so many clubs and brothels carrying different girls. Then one fateful night, I picked a certain girl. This girl was very young(19 years). We had unprotected sex and she told me it was her first time and I was her first customer that even her bill (10k) it's a friend that ask her to say the 10k that she doesn't know anything in that field. And she let me have unprotected sex because she was drawn to me.

UNPROTECTED SEX WITH A PEDDLER? AND EVEN WENT ON TO PLAN MARRIAGE WITHOUT CONFIRMATION OF HER HEALTH STATUS?
NOW YOU'RE CRYING FOUL AND CALLING WOMEN ALL SORT OF NAMES, WHEN YOU'RE THE ONE WHO TOOK CHARGE AND CAUSED YOUR OWN MISFORTUNE...



BOILEDHEAD, YOU DULL.

tellwisdom:
Nicca, u failed me...Rule no1 in a relationship- "Do not love". It's a sin.
Give her a good treat and that's it. Don't go beyond, man

The only woman permitted to be loved is your mom. She's the only one who will stand by you, no matter the circumstances. Even ur wife will get tired of you someday but your mom?? Mbanu . Don't repeat that mistake again

BoiledHead:
Good day nairalanders.

Where do I start from? I swear I weep as I type this. My father told me that it's only a woman that can bring a strong man to his knees. The last time I shed tears was when I lost a good friend/mentor. Over 8 years ago.

I cried on Sunday like a small kid. That tells how heartbroken I am. Nairaland hear me.

Let me go back to memory lane... I deliberately made use of my real nairaland account and not some anonymous account as most people do so you can see my profile. Take your time to go through it you would notice I patronise prostitutes alot. It's not as if I am too rich or I can't keep a woman.. the problem is/was

I COULDN'T GET A WOMAN IN THE FIRST PLACE!

My attributes:
- I live a coded life.
- Even my neighbors don't know my name. Yes
- I don't go out except when I go to my office.
- I don't club. But I go to club to pick sex workers.
- I don't even have male friends let alone female

So tell me, how would a person like me get a woman? Just tell me. It's impossible.

I have been going to so many clubs and brothels carrying different girls. Then one fateful night, I picked a certain girl. This girl was very young(19 years). We had unprotected sex and she told me it was her first time and I was her first customer that even her bill (10k) it's a friend that ask her to say the 10k that she doesn't know anything in that field. And she let me have unprotected sex because she was drawn to me.

Let me cuT the story short.. I got very close emotionally with this girl. Even my friend who was with me told me he noticed the girl likes me that I should use the opportunity to settle down that how would I continue patronising prostitutes.. that let it end with her. That at most I change her life and make her my own.

So we started seeing each other. . Many times she calls me to check on me.. I do the same then one day my friend and I took her to a place where she then openly admitted she loved me I did not really reply.. I just told her to "maintain and let's see". I fell in love with her too.

Nairaland, I took her off the streets.. changed her life completely. She looked like gutter now she looks like a queen. She was a drug addict, a smoker, a wasted teenager. She quit those things. I made her a better person. She even became proud of herself. I spent money. Because I cannot look like dollar and my girlfriend looks like naira. I hope you understand. I made her like me.

She celebrated her 20 years birthday last thursday. I celebrated it for her. Her family isn't so straight like that. Sometimes she misbehave it's my friend that would plead on her behalf. Even my friend took her like a sister. Spent his own resources just to make her somebody.

Many times I quit business trips just to be with her. So she doesn't take me as one player. I even took her to Abuja with me one time on a trip of mine. I did everything a responsible man would do for a woman he loves. And she made me know she loved me.

She did something really bad so I broke the phone I bought for her out of anger. My friend as usual begged for her after she cried for my forgiveness. So I told her to move in with me so I can monitor her well before she does something even worse. So we have been living together like a couple. I was so happy that finally my days on the streets at night are over. And she assured me with her actions that indeed they were over with her by my side. Even her family noticed how she became a new person so they got interest in her again. They were communicating with her through me since she had no phone. The mum the dad and even the grandma. I was even happy that it would be easier to marry her since the family knows me and with all I have done for their daughter.

Last week Friday, she told me she was going to see her dad out of town and she would be back same day. She didn't even pack anything she went empty because she would come back to me. She didn't return. Saturday no news.

Then Sunday, brothers and sisters she sent a text message to me telling me she is back to her town to stay and thanking me for all i have done.

FOR REAL? JUST LIKE THAT? She called me and even the dad spoke with me and told me some nonsense story beggining me in the name of God. Really? but in a nutshell the girl is gone. I was so sad I cried. So after all my labor.. this is what I get? After all the weeks and months we have been? The plans we had?

I went to see her today in Lagos to drop her stuff and bags with my friend. And I asked her if she wants to come back to town with me.. she looked me in the eye and said NO.

Nairaland, where do I start from? Would I go back to the street? Start my old boring life again? Something I graduated from? Wold I start cooking again? When someone prepared my meals? Would I start sleeping alone again when someone slept in my arms all the while?

Women are wicked.
Life is unfair.
I don't blame the players.. now I know what they went through. I swear who no go... no know... Many won't understand me. But those that have been there understands.

It is well.

CAPSLOCKED:

MY CONCLUSION BASED ON WHAT YOU JUST NARRATED IS THAT YOU'RE A REALLY F00LISH PERSON. I WONDER WHY YOU DIDN'T INCLUDE THAT IN YOUR ATTRIBUTES. IT SHOULD BE PRESENT EVEN IN YOUR CV.
THE WORD "F00LISH" CAME INTO EXISTENCE SPECIALLY BECAUSE OF YOU.

JUST LOOK AT THIS......



UNPROTECTED SEX WITH A PEDDLER? AND EVEN WENT ON TO PLAN MARRIAGE WITHOUT CONFIRMATION OF HER HEALTH STATUS?
NOW YOU'RE CRYING FOUL AND CALLING WOMEN ALL SORT OF NAMES, WHEN YOU'RE THE ONE WHO TOOK CHARGE AND CAUSED YOUR OWN MISFORTUNE...



BOILEDHEAD, YOU DULL.

ikp120:
I am glad to hear that she finally found a way out!

**Dancing happily on the thread**

First of all, you tried to cage her like one of your property, which she was not.

Secondly, you feel that your spending on her gives you a right of way; bro remember you changed her life from being a prostitute to a better lady... There are only 2 classes of people that spending on gives you a right of way on: Prostitutes and your wife.

Thirdly, you even fought with the dad over her. Na wa o; but I understand though.

My advice:
First, quit being possessive. When you possess a lady, and she feels trapped, when she sees a way of escape, she will be gone faster than you can blink an eye. Even if you do heaven and earth for her, give her enough liberty.

Secondly, do your homework and get her phone and social media contacts. She really loves you, but her dad did a neat job and you were really possessive.

Thirdly, send her recharge card without letting her know it is you.

Fourthly, call her and talk with her like a friend.

Fifthly, schedule a meeting with her and apologise for the way you treated her that pissed her off. Remind her of how she made you a better person. Tell her that you have learnt your lessons.

PS:
I know you will be like "but I deserve better than that ". Bro you don't deserve nothing because she has a will of her own. She is no longer within your beck and call, therefore if you still want her, you have to switch mood and get her back, else forget about her and move on.

GOODLUCK!

LadyB1195:

I pray u end up marrying someone worse than you.... EWU

BoiledHead:
You sound just like the father...

I tried to cage her? are you for real?

A girl who was begging me to take her to my place? If you were in my shoes would u just leave such a girl on her own so she can go back to those things behind your back?

A girl that even the grandma ask if I want to marry her. I did not tell her not to go to school. I did not tie her with rope.. everything she did was out of her own free will.

oh u wanted me to leave her to be free so that one night she would go to club I won't know?

Even her mum was ok with her staying with me.. so what are u saying? A girl with a past like her own needs close supervision. not to be left free like a normal girl until she has proven to change. Evan her friends who were cultists maltreated her.. she used my influence in then police to arrest them.. so I should leave her with cultists to live with?

don't b3 an ungrateful person. u sound like one

ikp120:


Bro cool down and take a bottle of chilled coke. I really hail you for being generous. You had her all these while because she needed your help and as you posted, her family were not in good terms with her. Now everything has changed, and she can now leave her normal life without depending on you. She now has a choice, which she never really had while she was with you because he that pays the bills pulls the strings. Bro money got her to you, but this time around you have to get her without money, because she doesn't need your money as she did before. You tried but it does not
work that way. She was desperate but now she is no longer that way. I have dated a girl like that in school. She had issues with her dad so he quit paying her bills, hence he started dating this guy who had the ability to pay bills. But I asked her out (she said she was single ) and we started dating. Then I dug into her phone and found out that she had a bf at home. I felt bad, but didn't burst out. I stopped calling her. She sensed the distance and confronted me. She told me that she had no one, that the guy I saw in her chat was a guy that was taking good care of her. He bought her an Infinix note phone of 40k+. She said she still loved him. So I advised her to stay with him. While we remained friends.

Bro you did well, but you have to know that things have changed. She can make her choice now.

Trudiee:
its really sad..

from all you typed, you showed love.. and made this girl a better person, inwardly and outwardly.

but eh, i smell a rat. that girl still loves you. she quit drugs and that life because of you, she asks for forgiveness when she offends you.

the first poster could be right. her dad would not have gotten involved if he didnt say something to her. or maybe he didn't say anything. maybe someone else said something.

so let me get this straigh.. she just up n left like that? no signs?

so sorry