PrettyClare7:
my mum used the only car in my own home for school run and her work + family errands. dad used the car once in a while till he got another 3 yrs later.

ChappyChase:
Na poverty mentality go make me deny my wife access to the only family car, but it must be for important ocasions.. No be sey she wan go toilet she go come carry car key

Rapmoney:
Lol!!! It's ChappyChase again!

Rapmoney:
You guys are getting it wrong. I'm not saying my friend has done badly. There are many men out there you wouldn't do such. I'm trying to make a comparison. Let's not be blinded here. The fact is that the number of men that wouldn't allow their wives access to the cars far outweighs those that would, but out of sentiments, we just pretend that it doesn't happen that way. Both of us know many Nigerian men don't give their wives access to the only car in the home. Good morning.

Rapmoney:
That was good of your dad Many men in our society hardly do that.

PrettyClare7:
my mum used the only car in my own home for school run and her work + family errands. dad used the car once in a while till he got another 3 yrs later.

PaperLace:
Why the aggressiveness and attack on the OP.
Calm down and read his post, this time without bias...he was/is obviously in support of the man's action.
Una no dey waste time to launch attack...
Nawa o

@OP, it's normal to some men_ it isn't normal to others.
I have a friend whose husband has refused to teach her how to drive because she would be dragging car with him (they have just 1 car), that was exactly how he put it.

tearoses:


You may be right, the number of men who dont give their wives access to their only car may be many, but that doesn't mean that its right

You also seem to under estimate the number of responsible people out there.
I know that nairaland is full of stories that paints both men and women as demons all the time, but there are many many decent level headed men and women out there, running happy and peaceful homes, just that you don't get to hear it.

Unfortunately When people praise their partners or talk about their homes, people say they are showing off or lying so lets keep on hearing the bad stories. At least it makes one appreciate the good things more.

A man who fully understands the responsibilities involved in leadership, will not have a problem with making sure that his wife and kids are comfortable even at his own expense. If he wont sacrifice for his families comfort who will? is it his neighbour?

Being the man is not just about swallowing huge morsels of eba washed down with stout. The responsibility is huge. Your colleague understands that.
A man prancing round town in his Prado giving chicks rides while is wife is standing at a bus stop somewhere in the sun with a child strapped to her back and another child being held on her hand is a disappointment of a man.

Your colleague probably only drives to the office and parks while his wife does school runs, market runs, work and other running around.
He knows what he is doing.
His wife has not washed her panties into his efo as some people like to believe when a man is putting his wife and family first.

Rapmoney:
A friend and colleague of mine at work bought a Toyota Camry early this year. Ever since he bought the car, he has only driven it to work twice.

I inquired recently, to know why he doesn't use the car to come to work, since his residence is far from the workplace. He told me that his wife is the one who uses the car; that he only drives on Sundays...probably, taking the family to church. He wanted sufficient comfort for his wife and kids. To him, he could sort his way out even if it means getting up early to wait at the bus stand.

How many men would do this if there's just one car?

Rapmoney:
It is good people remain silent when they don't comprehend issues. Where in the post did I say I'm against his decision? I'm just trying to use his decision to compare the attitude of some men I have seen who would never allow their wives to drive, even for once.

Rapmoney:
Thank you very much, my sister. I posted this because a lot of men in the part of the country I reside in find it difficult to do this. They would rather drive to work and allow their wives and children trek under the scorching sun! Some would never compromise the car key even if their office is located in the next street.

ifyalways:
How is this strange or new? This is actually the norm! , or at least in my own world.

The only car, best car( in terms of safety, operation and efficiency) is for the wife and children ;the considerate husband and best daddy manual 1800.

Rapmoney:
You guys are getting it wrong. I'm not saying my friend has done badly. There are many men out there you wouldn't do such. I'm trying to make a comparison. Let's not be blinded here. The fact is that the number of men that wouldn't allow their wives access to the cars far outweighs those that would, but out of sentiments, we just pretend that it doesn't happen that way. Both of us know many Nigerian men don't give their wives access to the only car in the home. Good morning.

5minsmadness:

It is the norm everywhere, from when i was little to when i grew up. Don't know what part of the country op grew up in.

missjo:

How you always manage to pass your opinions so effectively and objectively is refreshing to me

Rapmoney:
Thank God I have someone who understands my post. In fact, I even admire the love and care my colleague has for his wife. Though, I'm not married...I have one car now. When I get married and my wife doesn't have a car of her own, I see no reason why she shouldn't drive my car when she wants to. If she doesn't know how to drive, I will teach her personally.

Many of the people who have dropped comments are just pretending as if they don't know what happens in different homes where the man is the only one that drives. There are even homes with more than one car but the man drives all of them alone!

I guess you were misunderstood.
It isn't actually rare_ it should be the norm or is the norm, for that one friend who doesn't get to use the family car, I have another with two cars_ her husband has just one. I have others who drive the only family car too...I have the one that doesn't even wanna know how to drive (observing this one from afar, you'll think her innocent husband doesn't want to release the car).

It's the ideal and practical thing to do, considering the fact that she gets to run more errands.
In most cases where the man refuses to release the car, he will turn family driver be that...and na him go tire finally.

I just didn't wanna go on and on about all my comfortable friends_ make e no be like braggadocio.

lol @ missjo.
This one pass me o

luciouscookie:

I so much love that woman

missjo:

How you always manage to pass your opinions so effectively and objectively is refreshing to me

luciouscookie:

I so much love that woman

5minsmadness:


These men are few. And the arrangement hardly lasts as they find thier decision turns them into the family driver.

tearoses:


Does it change anything?
"Dads taxi" is the best anyday
You just hop in when he is going out and say you are going to one place when infact you have 5 places in mind

Timbuktou:


So, you're also invested in this scam as well? I hate that move like hell. Absolutely frustrating. . But this is wickedness. Why do you guys do this? Can't you just list all places you want to get to beforehand?

Timbuktou:


So, you're also invested in this scam? Grandma, I thought you were a saint. I hate that move like hell. Absolutely frustrating. . But this is wickedness. Why do you guys do this? Can't you just list all places you want to get to beforehand?

tearoses:


If she lists them all will you go?
of course not, you will just complain

Ah honey are you going past church? I need to quickly drop something off . .
And I wanted to cook jollof rice o! lemme quickly stop at the shop to buy that turkey that you like
(then I will come out with 20 items from the shop)
. . . . and like that like that till I run all my errands

tearoses:


For where?
Saint ko
mother Theresa ni
if I dabaru account for you, you will fear

Timbuktou:


I will go na, why not? I can be stupidly "caring", though I'm faaaarrr from romantic.

Here's what I mean. If she wanted to go to all these places, she would actually stand a better chance of listing them out before we leave the house o. I might go to all, or pick the ones that work for me and then some compromise. If you try this trick, madam you will keep a long face for as long as you like, because when I satisfy my conscience I will drive home or wherever I had planned. Pata pata, we will make up in a most mutually beneficial manner. How do you know I've not timed the length of the journey in such a way as to get one in time for a Chelsea match or some other important plan.

The one about the turkey and jollof, no wahala. I will just put my hand on my head and say, "ah, Iya yii ti gba mi sha." . And I will console myself with the thought of the delicacy to come while stealing into the kitchen to pick at pieces of meat.

Timbuktou:


Lol. I know you're just being modest. I will overlook the humble self-destruction. My heart does not lie.

tearoses:


As she don enter your car, you will have to go everywhere o!
I don't pull long faces cos that wont work. There is a time and a place for that one.
by the time I dear and darling and sweetheart you & joor nawwwwwwwwww you and rub your cheek tire you will just go.

You say you are not romantic
romantic is not always about flowers and candle light dinners
when a woman knows that you are doing something that you wouldn't normally do, it carrys the same weight as romance
Those little little gestures & a great sense if humour do go a long way

Dyt:
Aproko
Eke
Advice him to take it from her na
Kilo kan e