Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah
I will like to start by a simple advice: do unto others what you want others to do unto you.
Dear Muslim brothers, Wallahi there is nothing good or profitable from deceiving women. The 'playboy ' thing has never brought any good to any one, you just waste your life while others are building better lives.
If you are in need of a woman why not get married as advised by the Prophet? If you dont have the means Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has adviced that you fast. My point here is that if u have to decieve a woman to sleep with you it only points out that she is not willing. Why corrupt a woman who is trying to save herself from hell? do u think that Allah is not watching? are u sure that you will not have a daughter in the future? What happened to the spirit of brotherhood?...
Prophet Muhammad was reported to have said "those who deceive us are not among us " and he has mentioned the signs of a hypocrate to include those who lie and break promises.
Also, as Muslims we know that Allah does not forgive us for the wrong we have done to others. And we all are going to account for what we have done in the hereafter.
Dear brothers, once you corrupt a woman you should know that you have hurt her parents, her future husband and your future daughters. I pray Allah guides us all, please your corrections and contributions are needed.
Thanks for reading

Jazakillaah khayr for this....

but they shouldn't be in any relationship (or is it courtship they call it) in the first place, what happened to, seeing a woman, do background check, look at her face, then marry her? simply put "arranged marriage" which our generation hates to hear...


we've seen couples divorcing after years of "courtship" before marriage, likewise couples loving themselves more and more after their arranged marriage, so this thought of courtship before marriage gives room for studying each other properly so problems won't arise, this thought where is it coming from? none other than shaytaan.

although loving each other before marriage is not prohibited as far as you keep away from haram things, like being secluded alone in one "sharp corner" kissing and caressing, etc.

Wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

Jazakallahu Khiran sister

I just want to add a few points. In as much as some men intentionally go out there to deceive and play with other people's feelings, both the man and woman are responsible for their actions. Sure, there are certain things we can't control like emotions but we can control our actions. We are pretty much responsible for decisions we make. Whether people let emotions cloud over their actions is another thing.

Lastly, I think it would help if women are less naive and are more defensive, because these things don't happen over night. It's a sequence- one thing leads to something which leads to another thing. So I thinks it helps to have principles that prevent these things from happening. So for example not keeping male friends, not giving out your numbers, not being alone with a man etc.
At the end of the day Allah didn't just prohibit zina, he prohibited things that lead to it.

May Allah protect us

this fatwa from shaykh munajid's(hafidhahullaah) site, might be useful, this is the question;

Questioner: What is more stable in Islam, a love marriage or an arranged marriage?


Praise be to Allaah.

The issue of this marriage depends on the ruling on what came before it. If the love between the two parties did not transgress the limits set by Allaah or make them commit sin, then there is the hope that the marriage which results from this love will be more stable, because it came about as the result of the fact that each of them wanted to marry the other.

If a man feels some attraction towards a woman whom it is permissible for him to marry her, and vice versa, there is no answer to the problem except marriage. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage.” (Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 1847; classed as saheeh by al-Busayri and by Shaykh al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah , 624)

Al-Sindi said, as noted in Haamish Sunan Ibn Maajah :

The phrase “We do not think that there is anything better for those who love one another than marriage” may be understood to refer to two or to more than two. What this means is that if there is love between two people, that love cannot be increased or made to last longer by anything like marriage. If there is marriage as well as that love, that love will increase and grow stronger every day.”

But if that marriage comes about as a result of an illicit love relationship, such as when they meet and are alone together and kiss one another, and other haraam actions, then it will never be stable, because they committed actions that go against sharee’ah and because they have built their lives on things that will have the effect of reducing blessings and support from Allaah, for sin is a major factor in reducing blessings, even though some people think, because of the Shaytaan’s whispers, that falling in love and doing haraam deeds makes marriage stronger.

Moreover, these illicit relationships that take place before marriage will be a cause to make each party doubtful about the other. The husband will think that his wife may possibly have a similar relationship with someone else, and even if he thinks it unlikely, he will still be troubled by the fact that his wife did do something wrong with him. And the same thoughts may occur to the wife too, and she will think that her husband could possibly have an affair with another woman, and even if she thinks it unlikely, she will still be troubled by the fact that her husband did something wrong with her.

So each partner will live in a state of doubt and suspicion, which will ruin their relationship sooner or later.

The husband may condemn his wife for having agreed to have a relationship with him before marriage, which will be upsetting for her, and this will cause their relationship to deteriorate.
Hence we think that if a marriage is based upon an illicit premarital relationship, it will most likely be unstable and will not be successful.

With regard to arranged marriages where the family chooses the partner, they are not all good and not all bad. If the family makes a good choice and the woman is religious and beautiful, and the husband likes her and wants to marry her, then there is the hope that their marriage will be stable and successful. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) urged the one who wants to get married to look at the woman. It was narrated from al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah that he proposed marriage to a woman, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Go and look at her, because that is more likely to create love between you.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1087; classed as hasan by al-Nasaa’i, 3235)

But if the family make a bad choice, or they make a good choice but the husband does not agree with it, then this marriage is most likely doomed to failure and instability, because the marriage that is based on lack of interest usually is not stable.

And Allaah knows best.