go get a good job because if u have one u wont be bother about birth bride

neo_welsh:

go get a good job because if u have one u wont be bother about birth bride

i have a job and i am bothered about bride price, u guys call it tradition, where were u when the women claim that house work which was in our tradition a woman's work is not a 50% 50% between husband and wives in the name of civilization. if the women can throw out things they don't like, why can't we men throw out things we don't like in the tradition?

Liedetect:


Please, let’s not go down the road of other uncivilised Africans who believe that to do away with everything traditional means that they are being civilised and modern and being modern means go follow, follow oyibo.

If we all go down the route of doing oyibo wedding, wearing oyibo cloth, eating oyibo food the world will be a less interesting place.

So let us keep our culture/traditions irrespective of what other primitive Africans who believe that abandoning their culture and aping oyibo means they have somehow become enlighten when in fact they have become slaves.

So many African countries abandoning of culture is what has given the world the common perception that Africans have nothing to offer apart from lions, wildebeest, HIV, starving people and rhythm/music. In fact even the music aspect is being taking away from Africa, for they have subverted it into world music. Whilst Asians, Arabs, Oriental’s etc are held up as people with great cultures, Africa apart from Nigeria offers nothing.


Let us keep our bride price, traditional wedding, foods, clothing, language polygamy and other traditional beliefs in fact the more enlighten one becomes the more one realise the importance of cultural relevance.

I am not advocating we abandon new things but only that in the process of doing so we should not abandon what is ours.



In Palestine, a suitor has to provide twenty five thousand pounds worth of gold to the women before her parents accept him and some of us here cry blood for a goat and want to abandon culture.

where dem take get that gold kin in this day and age? why don't u stop reading story books and look at the real world around. nonsense! ! !

My stupid sister paid her own bride price. Can you imagine?

Even here in Kenya, some parents demand a lot, as much as 1 million naira! This does not include other thjings. And the wedding cost will be borne by the bridegromm's family

Africas do not pay dowry. This is for Asians

Some customs are outr of date

Change must come, whether good or bad

lipuka:

Even here in Kenya, some parents demand a lot, as much as 1 million naira! This does not include other thjings. And the wedding cost will be borne by the bridegromm's family

one million naira! i am moving to kenya

If yopu have that kind of money, Lipukas have very many candidates. Come and choose. Only remember, you keep on paying for the rest of your life

Bride price makes divorce rates in Nigeria low.

mama-gee:

Bride price makes divorce rates in Nigeria low.

yeah right!

Culture can be outdated

I dont see why Bride price should be elimanated. it is part of the culture of the country, whether or not it is modern or western is besides the point. it is what set us apart from other countries, with customs and traditions that make nigeria the beautiful and cuturally rich country it is.

MissJulez:

I dont see why Bride price should be elimanated. it is part of the culture of the country, whether or not it is modern or western is besides the point. it is what set us apart from other countries, with customs and traditions that make nigeria the beautiful and cuturally rich country it is. i feel as though conforming to the western world and going about their way of things will not help modernise nigeria, rather make it a country which follows and copies as others do.
i feel men should continue paying bride price as it is a way of showing committment.

If we stop paying bride price, as it is not 'modern', we should COPY the westerners abi okay so we should we now start disrespecting our parents? going out at early hours of the morning and not returning home for days? getting pregnant at 14,15? - are these not all factors that the western world struggle with everyday

Tradition and Culture is what keeps the people and youth of nigeria grounded. Let us stick to our tradition, as it is OUR culture, there is no need for us to COPY others.

I am a NIGERIAN Girl my mother raised me in nigerian culture and treated me as though we were back home, yet i was born and raised in the UK, Culture is sooooo important to me because i see how useless some of the englsih children are over here in UK, lack of culture = lack of morals, which produces bad behaviour and lack of respect!

Abeg the men should continue to be paying bride price jare!

when i get married i will ensure that my family take bride price from my husband.

so u agree that u will kneel down to give ur hubby food and water, wash his clothes etc , right?

na2day?:

so u agree that u will kneel down to give your hubby food and water, wash his clothes etc , right?

mehn, see our lives as men. it seems these women keep speaking with both sides of their mouths. on the one hand they want their bride prices paid - else you are not a "real man", on the other they refuse to play their roles as wives.

westernization and modernization won't allow us hear word again.

H2O2:

mehn, see our lives as men. it seems these women keep speaking with both sides of their mouths. on the one hand they want their bride prices paid - else you are not a "real man", on the other they refuse to play their roles as wives.

westernization and modernization won't allow us hear word again.

no mind dem, dem think say we bi mugu, dem never start

x

MissJulez:

Na lie! Who told you I won't be a good wife? You are misunderstanding the point being made, Bride price is a matter of keeping tradtion n culture alive, I will serve my husband and treat him how he should be treated, that won't be a problem because he better be doing the same for me!

so traditionally and culture wise, u were told that ur husband will serve u too? i like to know what tribe that is

Tradition has many good and bad things. Some are best left out

lipuka:

Tradition has many good and bad things. Some are best left out

and that includes bride price

@na2day or whatever your name is! Where did u see me write that I have been taught husbands serve their wives I beg read something proper before you start makin rubbish accusations!

MissJulez:

@na2day or whatever your name is! Where did u see me write that I have been taught husbands serve their wives I beg read something proper before you start makin rubbish accusations!

maybe u shld read ur own post b4 replying to mine

MissJulez:

Na lie! Who told you I won't be a good wife? You are misunderstanding the point being made, Bride price is a matter of keeping tradtion n culture alive, I will serve my husband and treat him how he should be treated, that won't be a problem because he better be doing the same for me!

A fork should be stuck in some traditions, don't you agree?

@ topic
yes we should.
$50,000 should do.

na2day?:

so traditionally and culture wise, u were told that your husband will serve u too? i like to know what tribe that is

deluded babe.

H2O2:

deluded babe.

no mind am

Bride price is highly essential, just that is been abused by many families