I’m here to tell you a home truth: You do not have to be friends with your ex. Look, I get it, I really do: After a break up, it is so, so tempting to try to be friends with the person you were dating. You might feel this way for a lot of reasons. Regardless of whether you were the dump-er or the dump-ee, the idea of suddenly going from seeing someone all the time to not seeing him or her at all is simply unimaginable. Or maybe you were friends before you dated, so you feel like you should be able to go back to that. Or you think that, if you could just hang out once in a while, the break-up wouldn’t feel quite so

terrible. Or maybe your ex is going through a rough time, so you feel like you should be supportive. But, regardless of your motivation, sometimes being friends with an ex simply isn’t possible, and trying to force that relationship to happen can make the break up worse, creating more bitterness and anger and keeping you from truly moving on.

So here are 10 reasons not to be friends with your ex

1. Abusive
Of all the many reasons not to stay friends with an ex, Abusive has to come first, if your ex is either physically or emotionally abusive is good enough reason to stay away from sure person. Don’t hope that they would, even if they do, would you really want to take the risk?

2. Its torture
Your ex might not be the Abusive type but really if you guys stay as friends and hanging out, then s/he does something funny that made you smile, you suddenly want to kiss him/her, but cant. So tell me why put yourself through sure torture when you can just simply move on with your life.

3. Moving On
Moving on after a break up is somewhat difficult especially when youve invest alot in such relationship. So ordinarily the hope of you ex coming back makes you want to hold on to them in whatever form. However, moving on after a bad break up requires you not to be friends with your #ex so that you chase off potential dates. Truly severing contact is the kindest thing to do here.

4. Respect for your new partner
Nobody should dictate who you are friends with. If you're genuinely friends with your ex then it's fair enough to stay in contact, even if you have a new partner. But their feelings should always be respected. If a new partner is uncomfortable with you maintaining contact, it may be the best thing to stop.

5. You can’t undo the past.
There are some memories you must have obviously shared with your ex that would probably hurt you when you are with him/her, realizing that you might not get to share such memories again.
If you’ve seen each other naked, the desire to want to cosy up to your ex would arise especially of you the receiving partner.
There are too many nicknames, inside jokes and memories to start fresh, so you’re likely to fall into old dating patterns even when not romantically involved. It can be confusing for one or both of you. Note: Most platonic pals of opposite genders have not seen each other naked.

6. Friends with benefits
If two adults want this kind of arrangement, then that's up to them. However, it can be problematical with ex-partners. One may well agree to this situation in the hope that the other will realise they should be together, when the chances are that they're just looking for easy sex.

http://kleeqers.com/dating-love/articles/dating-love/reasons-not-to-become-friends-with-your-ex

Forget feelings or chemistry.Its not a bad thing to be friends with your Ex if u play ur card well as long as no string is attached.

I totally disagree with that, we found ourselves in a world where we share numerous friendship to one another irrespective of what we went through. Keeping friendship with your ex denotes no harms. I'm extremely perturbed on some unnecessary write-up this writers made to lead away humans out of the rightful path. You can keep (no string attach) friendship to your ex without losing your present partner, depending on how individual figure the harmless situation. Some ex-partners are worthy of holding a qualified friendship with while the vice versa goes for others. Let's not prejudice that because it's a proclivity gift from God.


#B.O.L

To me depend on circumstances surrounding the break-up. If its mutually is understandable but if its end in a disrespectful, insulting nd disgraceful manner believe nothing 'll gona make me be friend with an ex.

It all depend on the circumstances.

Duh...!

Why would you wanna remain friends with your ex unless they are in another country or continent?

There's a reason they are your ex.

There is no point being friends with an EX. infact, be wary of ex that still want to hang around after a breakup, they want nothing but SEX, nothing good comes out of such stvpid friendship.

Once it's over, it's over!

Jostapo:
I totally disagree with that, we found ourselves in a world where we share numerous friendship to one another irrespective of what we went through. Keeping friendship with your ex denotes no harms. I'm extremely perturbed on some unnecessary write-up this writers made to lead away humans out of the rightful path. You can keep (no string attach) friendship to your ex without losing your present partner, depending on how individual figure the harmless situation. Some ex-partners are worthy of holding a qualified friendship with while the vice versa goes for others. Let's not prejudice that because it's a proclivity gift from God.


#B.O.L

Actually, the Op points are very Valid.

It is very difficult to be in a "no string" attach kind of friendship with an EX, it is almost impossible!

Such friendship usually involve rumbling beneath the sheet which causes more harm than good especially if a new partner is in the equation. Exes should be cut off from all forms of communication to avoid stories that touch the heart.

I would say it depends on the ground of break-up - I still maintain a peace friendship with my ex without having the (negative negotiations) in between us. We chat as Normal friends will, such is improbable though. This can only be handle by few magnanimous beings not just randomly.


#B.O.L

Ermm,
Remaining frnds is simply just being courteous. Though I agree with you op