eph12:
So what killed that your friend is because her parents over protected her?

eph12:
So what killed that your friend is because her parents over protected her?

toyeem:
I will protect my daughters with all I've got. Things that we were not exposed to when growing up are everywhere now. Nudity is gradually becoming the norm, decency is being thrown away and some parents too are not helping matters. Let me give a quick example. A 5yrs old girl came to meet me on sun (I teach in Sunday school) that a boy is telling her to pull down her pant and sit on his laps, I was surprised because we were like 4teachers in that class, I told her to go and call the boy. When the boy came, I was shocked, he's a 6yrs old boy. I asked him some questions and found out that the boy have been seeing people around him do same. His parents, maid with security... I told the mother but she didn't see it as anything. She just said he's a boy now, dat it's the girl I should talk to. I felt really bad. These are the kind of boys our girls meet in school, playgrounds, parties etc.

toyeem:
I will protect my daughters with all I've got. Things that we were not exposed to when growing up are everywhere now. Nudity is gradually becoming the norm, decency is being thrown away and some parents too are not helping matters. Let me give a quick example. A 5yrs old girl came to meet me on sun (I teach in Sunday school) that a boy is telling her to pull down her pant and sit on his laps, I was surprised because we were like 4teachers in that class, I told her to go and call the boy. When the boy came, I was shocked, he's a 6yrs old boy. I asked him some questions and found out that the boy have been seeing people around him do same. His parents, maid with security... I told the mother but she didn't see it as anything. She just said he's a boy now, dat it's the girl I should talk to. I felt really bad. These are the kind of boys our girls meet in school, playgrounds, parties etc.

yetseyi:
It depends on how you see it.

I will protect my child for as long as I can, there are mistakes one will make that will change the course of that life for ever and the person wont be able to retrace his/her steps. I don't believe in this "make your mistakes and learn from them " statement I have seen that phrase twice today. I would rather ensure that my child doesn't make that mistake.

Its not even in this current situation of the country one won't protect his/her child, with what someone is reading on NL front page.


Most of the things we call over protectiveness now was normal some times ago.

Onegai:




What exactly did his mother want you to say to the girl, that it was her fault or what? Why is she encouraging her son in doing something so bad?? So because he is a boy, he's allowed to molest another person's child, it's fine and dandy?? Did you report her to the Head of the creche, at least keep the boy away until his mother learns sense before he asks another little girl and she agrees?

missjo:

This is the summary, I myself have had this exact thought.
What millennials now call overprotection was actually pretty standard way of upbringing in the 80s and early 90s.

yetseyi:
It depends on how you see it.

I will protect my child for as long as I can, there are mistakes one will make that will change the course of that life for ever and the person wont be able to retrace his/her steps. I don't believe in this "make your mistakes and learn from them " statement I have seen that phrase twice today. I would rather ensure that my child doesn't make that mistake.

Its not even in this current situation of the country one won't protect his/her child, with what someone is reading on NL front page.


Most of the things we call over protectiveness now was normal some times ago.

SirShymexx:




Lol, I can't believe the both of you failed to cite the elephant in the room, especially in today's world where female kids need more protection/guidance than ever. The social media age where everything is anti-virtuousness and being slutty is now a way of life and anyone against it, is slut-shaming. And also an age where women are exposed to more harm than ever.

You both know what the elephant in the room is.

missjo:

I can't say i don't know and I'd like to think we all do deep within us, which is why I'm all for this OVERPROTECTION. It's necessary as I don't think the girl child can be OVERprotected, literally.

Once I was 7 years old, mama told me don't let no male play with or touch you in your pookie ( my version of Lukas Graham's hit).

SirShymexx:




Lol, I can't believe the both of you failed to cite the elephant in the room, especially in today's world where female kids need more protection/guidance than ever. The social media age where everything is anti-virtuousness and being slutty is now a way of life and anyone against it, is slut-shaming. And also an age where women are exposed to more harm than ever.

You both know what the elephant in the room is.

missjo:

This is the summary, I myself have had this exact thought.
What millennials now call overprotection was actually pretty standard way of upbringing in the 80s and early 90s.

Mindfulness:
Overprotection made me crave, seek, find, love and appreciate freedom.
Rebellious it made me too.

Those girls who were given more freedom learned to be more responsible faster than I did.
It seemed like a contradiction at first.

Now I understand.

yetseyi:

You really want us to state the very obvious reason why the girl child seems to need more protection. Nobody (Sane people I mean) wants his/her daughter molested in any form.

Anti- virtuousness and being slutty sells and that's why its being promoted.

SirShymexx:


The real elephant in the room is feminism.

[/b] are folks who believe being protective of female children has something to do with patriarchy - and not their safety and well-being[b].

Mznaett:
The underline word here is OVER which is totally unacceptable...

When a lion that's been caged for years get its freedom or escape how does it react?

raumdeuter:


Can you really OVER protect what is dear to you?

If you have a piece of diamond now, that everyone is trying to steal from you will you just put it under your pillow?
Most likely you will hide in very well and anyone going towards that direction you will police sharply

With the way the world is and the way media and pop culture is promoting lax sexual behavior, Wont you over protect your own from the world?

Mindfulness:
So of what use is the diamond if you keep it hidden?

And why have children at all if the world is so messed up?

nowpresence:
You can protect your Child be it male or female. But when you OVER protect them, that is no longer protection but fear from the parents side that they don't trust theIr child that he/she will be responsible out there.
Over protection damage the child psychologically which in the long term might lead to low self-esteem because the child would Not trust themselves When they eventually go outside.

Parents should just let their children be. Instead of Being over protectivE they should teach them to take responsibility for their actions and learn from theIr mistakes. This will even make them to have a stronger personality.

raumdeuter:


You keep it hidden so with time, its value wont be dimished and will still be appreciated


The world is messed up as it is and you have your own children shelter them from the messed up world until they are old enough and strong enough to face it on their own

Yo dont release them to the world when they are vulnerable to preys