Why There Should Be Special Schools Built For Marriages To Include Both Married & Intending Couples: Marriage is an institution, but the question I often ask is that where are the mandated physical structures and orientational programs targeted at marriages, married and intending couples
To me, In an African social setting context, I see marriage as a war front where people are recruited or enlisted without any formal knowledge of martial art or strategy to maneuver the decoys, storms and rough part to victory. Sometimes I see African couples and marriages as a crusade whereby people are gullibly or gainly led to the slaughter without their knowledge.
Its like having a war to fight and you recruit under age children to war front and arming them with fire arms, guns, TNT, Avtomat Kalachinokov, RPG, Anti ballistic missile without even teaching them how to use it.

Marriage in Africa is meant to be a bed of happiness and peace but over the years the definition of love has waned due to the challenges and demands of civilization making us have a plastic and synthetic version of the word love and mutual commitment. The is the reason why over the years, a lot of marriages has become a death trap and a grave yard for alot of people and its the reason why its as if life is sniffed out of alot of men and women many years after marriage.

Alot of well window dressed marriages on the outside do suffers alot of undisclosed rots from the inside due to emotional pressures after probably 8 to 20yrs after down the struggle line. The molestation and domestic abuse, the intermittent rabbles, violence and mob acts as reported daily in the news and media has become an increasing concern.

Relationship once started on blossomed Rose flower often ending up in withered roses. It is so terrible that alot of lives has been lost due to the fact that a once Noble, reserved, Angelic, gentle and amiable spouse end up been a demon and a stranger in your bedroom that you wake up to see 1st thing every morning and the last thing at night culminating in bewitching nightmare. This ugly routine can be exhaustive such that alot of it die in the process and in the name of marriage. I write this because I have lost a close relative to this. Especially when the man has lost his job, the frustration, aggressions and sense of territorial and dominance worsen because most men often want to take a defence stance to salvage their seemingly lost place and sense of value in the family that could warrant suicidal, violent and mob act. This constitute to the bulk of extremist, societal unfit, miscreants, touts, nuisance, prostitutes, broken homes fall outs, juvenile deliquencies, foster homes, terrorist, con men, criminals, bastards and vagabonds and the lots of the socially and mentally unstable lots.

Its not enough to be educated in the regular four walls of conventional school, we need to have marriage and companionship inclined program in some specially designated institution to review and checkmate the pace and sanity of social and marital companionship for a more productive and safer partnership. The schools, Churches and mosques in Nigeria should integrate this in the routine program and we should have special schools dedicated for this purpose to review marital path from time to time.

That's the specialty of marriage counsellors and psychologists!