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Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by oyinD1: 10:50pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
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Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
OP I don't even know where to start, even coming from a family where there's freedom in almost everything, I still had my own fair share of frustrations while growing up. It pains me when I hear of African parents that still have this archaic habit of pushing their wards into studying a particular course, even with all the glaring evidence over time that such practice has done more harm than good. Bro, I'd advice you confront your nightmare, talk to everyone in your family, mostly your parents. Make them understand the situation of things with you, why you can't study law, etc. Make them understand how rapidly things have changed and why they can't afford to still hold onto certain things that add no real value to life. Back it up with actions, let them know you're not who hey think you are, dare them to allow you register jamb in your preferred course of study this time, then sit down prepare and smash the exam. In summary find a way to get your family to give you a chance, then go ahead to prove them otherwise through hardwork. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by sanpipita(m): 10:54pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
FriedYam: You are just being yourself, forget the societal degrading that comes with it, you will be surprised alot people are just like you and equally bothered way people see them, At 18 your testosterone might be high hence you get frequent urges just try understand your body better and if porn and masturbation doesnt disturb your life focus especially your studies i see no problem there most geniuses and smart people actually get to have a high sex drive it doesnt make you bad, its part of your nature best you can do is to have control and you will have no problems. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by macaranta(m): 11:00pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Op that's the life of an 18 year old,it always feels like the world is against you at that stage of life. Don't worry you'll be fine. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Monjie(m): 11:01pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
RadicallyBlunt: What a great counsel, please follow it 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by lanicky(f): 11:03pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Emodeee: Lol.. seun sef fit book space... Space don scarce for nl. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by blackjah(m): 11:03pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
SnowJay92:I know it is one |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by bettercreature(m): 11:03pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Mumben:If you digest what the OP wrote above,you will realise he is badt guy and he need prayer I think he is what his parent thought he is The story is one sided but still this guy is not a good guy at home 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by chizidgreat(m): 11:05pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
FriedYam:Brother, pm me on whatsap |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by CACAWA(m): 11:09pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
FriedYam:get in touch |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Missmossy(f): 11:13pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Eyah quite sad, my parents use to judge my friends by appearances especially when i clocked 15 and became a prefect. Due to my intelligence they didn't want me mingling with those they considered unserious. So to an extent i can understand how they reacted to your friends. Getting admission before i was 16 brought a lot on its own.. Nevertheless their unwavering trust in me made it so easy. I won't say i was free like a bird because i had restrictions and when they saw the positive results my life yielded despite the many rules i hated they had no reasons not to let me pursue whatever goals i had in mind. With everything you have gone through, its going to very disheartening if you turn out to be the son they don't want to have, one they can't be proud of. So in the long run when you are successful which i know you would be you would forget those years of outright overprotection from your parents. And also that some parents aint like that doesn't make it right. Strive towards becoming a better person push aside everything that happened to you while you were little which is enough to turn you to a nuisance and look forward to your future which promises to be bright. Great people are those who had it really rough while beginning their distinct races of life. Also draw nearer to God only Him can show you how your future looks like and make it turn out to be a beautiful one. All the best FriedYam. 6 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 11:30pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
The thing is... They won't treat you like a child if you don't act like one... I'm not saying there won't be any restrictions, I'm saying it wouldn't be as tight as it is now. Eighteen and you can't leave house? For wat Na? You can't talk to babe? Mehn... Are you supposed to be gay?... You should talk to your parents. No I don't mean.. Have all that stupid emotional crap... I mean answer them. Example. My parents. My dad asked me to do something one day.. And I was going to do it. But then he added a threat. "If not he would flog me". .. At that point I was like... What? Flog me? Am I a child? Even if I was a child.. Did you give birth to an animal that you want to flog me? That shut him up. Then the other day, My mum saw a picture of me and some guys on my phone and she was screaming at me. And then I asked her if I she wanted me to be lesbian... Really. I mean, you have to stand up to your parents. I'm the same age as you and I don't see why they would be treating you that way. Your own is even good sef. You've written jamb thrice and the schools have been messin up. I've written jamb once. Just once. The school, Unical, hasn't even released list yet. And they keep on screaming at me. That all my mates are in uni. Last week I asked them if I look like the vc or something. Like its my fault the school hasn't released list yet My dear, stand up to your bullies. People will now be excusing their faults. Saying its because they love you. Love ke? They're killing you. And you have to treat their Bleep up. Don't take nonsense from anyone. Not even your parents. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Gerrard59(m): 11:39pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
FriedYam, I suggest you see a clinical psychologist. Nothing more. That said, African parents need to change their mode of upbringing. It's archaic, because something "worked" then doesn't mean it will work now. Times have changed (not APC's type). 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by NevetsIbot(m): 11:41pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Masikay:hanhan.. Sister,Kilode na? You no get chill at all. Lol 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by azeecoboy(m): 11:43pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Masikay:yeepa,you too have join bad gang.. One day you will just beat ur parents if you continue like this 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by hillaboi(m): 11:46pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Wow brotherly.. I feel so touched by ur story. Pls watsap me tru 08182680637 or call 08132055394. Am into this ministry of restoring hope type! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 11:51pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Lol... ... I've learnt that if you keep quiet people will want to enter your nose. You just gotta stand up for yourself |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 11:52pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
RaphaellaDD: You're so on point! I couldn't have better advised the young lad. You have wisdom o, really. Na woman like you I need for this life, no jokes. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by LyfeJennings(m): 11:53pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Dear Op I ordinarily wouldn't comment but U remind me of myself. U can go through my diary. The only difference is U are way smarter than I was at your age. Stupidity was the only word that defines me in the dictionary. Fortunately, people like U would turn out very great in life but U gotta find a passion and stay focused. I am a fullish 31 year old e-diot, who has made all d mistakes in the world with a very bright future and a job who stays in his parents house but U know what, I'm hanging and believing in some form of luck; destiny or whatever. IT WILL HAPPEN U are very young Just keep living 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Utominawele: 12:00am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Bro I fill ur pain,trust me I relate to your experiences. I was once passing tru ur current circumstances.. My Advice is that you trust in The Lord and don't rely on what you and anyone else thinks of yourself... |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Lasskeey: 12:01am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam:........YOU NEED MORE IF THIS 1 Like
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Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Gkemz: 12:01am On Nov 15, 2016 |
You're not a failure because you failed but because you refuse to rise up from the dust. Keep your head straight. They might've said so many negative things about you. Don't accept what they said about you. Prove them wrong and if you have habits that can jeopardize your future, you really have to drop them. Above all, allow God to guide you in every area of your life because you cannot do it without him and also avoid bad company. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Utominawele: 12:03am On Nov 15, 2016 |
LyfeJennings: Bro dat luck should be turning to your redeemer.. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by marvelyole(m): 12:04am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam:@friedyam no worry, na only for a while starmmer go call him papa name. Apply God, follow the advice of the man that gave you those solid 3points advice. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by mengho(m): 12:13am On Nov 15, 2016 |
wow...what really loving & caring parents, No wonder u turn out defective but no worries try showing them d middle finger & make ur own choices. |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by EternalTruth: 12:14am On Nov 15, 2016 |
FriedYam:ui sabi fucck up people o. them rubbish me this year eh. FriedYam: This yr, jamb did the unthinkable. After popping coffee all night to study nd reading all day to the extent that i lost weight, i had 212. Y'all know how jamb was. Now I ddnt gain admission for law.... I'm being blamed now for jambs incompetence.same here. I share the same pains with you... jamb graded us with ridiculous scores. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by BobUg28(m): 12:31am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Uhmmm...Op, I won't say much. What you just said now is very peculiar to me and I can practically relate to it in some ways. I know how bad you must have been feeling all this while and how depressing it could be when people who are supposed to help you are the ones who turned their back against you. Naturally, your family (parents) supposed to be the people you can fall back to in times like this. But since reverse has now becomes the case, it's not the end of life. You only need to make up your mind and genuinely decide to make a change for good. First of all, I will suggest you seek for the help of a pastor who will help you talk to Mum and Dad explaining to them all you have just said here. Thank God they are relatively enlightened judging by their quest to secure a better professional career privilege for their children. Being open will help solve a lot of problems and I think that's where the basis of your problems lies. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 12:45am On Nov 15, 2016 |
It's unfortunate as Africans we do not nurture children who show an aptitude for other things other than medicine or law. Not every one is going to be a doctor or a lawyer. Art can be transferred to so many concepts. I hope you find your true calling and focus on what you can do well. Hopefully with time your parents will see that you are nothing but a good son. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 12:47am On Nov 15, 2016 |
mengho: Swr |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 12:50am On Nov 15, 2016 |
I just read page 0 and I'm really not impressed with the comments! Op, I can help you in my own weird way, if you're in lagos! Just saying.........my opinion tho! Not perfect! I can follow your dad up(just like a spy)! Get to know where he relaxes, where he hangs out, who his friends are, etc! Sit close him where he hangs out! Start from buying him a bottle! Gradually make him a friend. Then talk some sense into his head! Some of us were misled by our parents! We wanted to satisfy them, so we went for courses that would make them happy! We graduated with good grades but we are not happy today and dad is no more! When I suggested music school to him, he was like; are you crazy! We don't have musicians in our lineage! Do sciences!! I'm of age boy! I need to make ur dad my friend and talk some sense into his head! I truly feel ur pain, like a son! And I want to help, before they destroy ur future but I'm really confused on how to come in! God help you!! 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by Nobody: 12:52am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Raine80: Always like your comment. Can I know you? |
Re: Am I Really A Bad Son? by engrkaz(m): 1:01am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Typical challenges of a Nigerian adolescent male... I suffered same in the hands of my mom, I was only lucky to have secured an early admission slot.. Are u sure u were not describing my parents in ur writeup? And u know what? My mom delays every important decision till she hears from me now....we are that close. I know they want to raise a good independent man, don't get too frustrated and unlike me don't let their negative conclusions break u. U know what? I smoked cigarette cos mom had already concluded I was smoking weed. Be good to them and let them see u as a God fearing son. I sincerely feel ur pains bro. |
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