austinosita:


Always like your comment. Can I know you?

Thank you ......maybe but then sometimes trying to know someone might not be a good idea

FriedYam:
Good evening Nlers.
I'm a eighteen year old. From a family of five. The only son with extra strict parents. A lot has been happening right from my childhood down till now and my parents are of the view that I'm an apology.

I wasn't the brightest in school. I'm above average nd particularly led my class in my core subjects. I wrote my wassce in 2014. I cleared my papers except math nd literature. Agreed. I'm a dumbo at math but literature.... All students failed because a classmate was caught with a phone. Thus, I became the first in my family to fail o'level.

I registered for neco gce nd failed even more cos there was high expo there. My jamb score was 223 that yr for an imposed course, Law.

2015,i registered neco again at a school known for expo. However, before the expo was brought into the hall, I would have answered all my questions nd was only helped in maths. They called me a textbook in the school. I had B's all through but my father thinks it was expo that helped me. At 2015 , my jamb score was 257. U.I f'd me up. Law again.

This yr, jamb did the unthinkable. After popping coffee all night to study nd reading all day to the extent that i lost weight, i had 212. Y'all know how jamb was. Now I ddnt gain admission for law.... I'm being blamed now for jambs incompetence.

A who bunch of other things relating to education where i've been gravely misunderstood are untold.

But, that's just abt education.

Bro we have things in common. Failed English in 2014. All my friends gain admission even those with JAMB scores below mine. I tried neco/gce that year but had F9 parallel (All my life I have only heard about such thing). I was devastated and told my mum I don't want to go to school ever again, but she and my younger bro encouraged me coupled with few family friends. 2015 passed again with another JAMB score wasted because the neco/gce was a failure. 2016 came and I changed course but my own dad now see me as an unserious son who want to do Agric being the first son. He didn't even give me the money to obtain a college's form when I failed UI modality test, my mom and a family friend helped me out. I was almost raped around 7 years old by a neigbour but I escaped but the deed has been done. I became sensitive with anything sex but I haven't done it. You just have to keep your head high and try and build up on your talents too (they are helping out now. When I feel down I just grab a pen and start writing). You have to tell your dad straight what you want to do in your life and also tell them about how you feel. It can be frustrating walking the world alone, I have walk that line (still stubble into that way sometimes) but it is very bad. Try and look on the bright side of yourself and live!

You Are Not A Bad Son! You Are Simply Misunderstood!

Welcome to my world!

First! From My Experience! Your Parents are taking their frustrations out on you which is very bad!

Secondly! I Wish I Could Tell you! It would mean me asking you to rebel against your parents; but Igbos have a proverb that says[b]"When A Child Starts Looking Out For hImself, People Call Him An Outcast"[/b]

Thirdly, Buy A Good Earpiece! Carefully select your choice music, whenever you are about to lose your mind or your cool! Put it on! Music therapy is the Bomb.

Fourthly, Wake your parents up by 2am like I did (They won't hesitant to wake you up with slaps at that time if they wish). Be bold wake them up. Ask them to tell you to your face If THEY WISH YOU WERE NOT THEIR SON, BECAUSE YOU ARE SICK AND TIRED OF BEEN LABELLED, COMPARED WITH, AND UNAPPRECIATED! Boy! This Bravery bought me some years of peace and quietness at home.

My Mum Once made life horrible for me by always comparing to a certain young man, who was a son of her colleague at work, one day I couldn't stomach it any longer, I asked her to fixed a date for me with this Angel of a young man who she was frustrating my whole life with his tales, only for me to get to the venue of the meeting early enough to found out the Angel was FUCKING - The DEADLIEST CULTIST at ESUT [/b]at that time. I Screamed And Told her if I die she was the one that killed me. I Confronted the boy's mum in front of my Mum [b]"Who Is FUCKING! So, Your Good Son Is FUCKING - The DEADLIEST CULTIST In Enugu! My God! I Am Finished".

His Mum couldn't deny it. My mum turned pale. I told her if I get killed I wouldn't forgive her at all! Bros! That put an end to such rubbish!

http://www.bummyla.com

FriedYam:
thank you so much. I'll act on number 1 nd 2. Number three is impossible. Only school can get me out of the house. I respect my parents a lot tho. I have plans to go into agriculture in my third yr... Build an agro company nd start an empire from there... Before 23... Sadly, they think ion have any plans for tomorrow.

Thanks again

Mehn exactly what I want to do. But my dad thought it rubbish trying to study an agricultural course. I was brought up by my mum and her encouragement coupled with that of my elder sister and younger bro keep me moving. I have the dream of building an agriculture empire, publish my books and build a game too. Life isn't fair, it a bitch who want spanking.

Dude this is life for you, and you can either chicken out or face it like a man. Trust me you are not the only one who has gone through parental abuse (constructive criticism as they call it) and also contemplated suicide, trust me I almost went all the way through with it once.

If you get scolded, don't fight back if that's only going to get you beaten (arguing with your dad who is a karate guru won't just help), just let him talk and just reply with "I'm sorry sir" (trust me, it works) and as per your mum, mehn no one can love you like your mum, no matter how she acts right now she loves you, if you think i'm lying, next time you fall ill, check her reactions.

But one thing I would like you to do is focus on you, through it all it is still your life, whatever plans you have for the future, just let it be inside you until y are ready (meaning you have all you need to start) and I think the 1st thing and most important thing right now for you is to get admitted into a uni, that's where the change really starts from, at least it did for me...

FriedYam:
bros, na so life be with me now o.

Quickly realise that your parents will not allow you to do any other course apart from Law. That's unfortunate but the truth. You can always change course or direction once you are in the Uni as your parents will have more respect for you then and will start treating you like an adult especially if you don't come home too often once you are at Uni.


So, for now whilst you are under their roof, try to :-

1. Come back indoors early so your parents are not wondering where you are
2. Don't bring any friends home for now to avoid your parents embarassing them.
3. Keep your hands clean and do your best to avoid doing ANYTHING that will make your parents say "we always knew you were a bad child"
4. Get more active at your place of worship to give you a sense of calm
5. If you haven't done so yet, try to pass your maths o/level exam
6. Avoid booking your future exams at centre's where expo is rife
7. Buy all Jamb past questions and answers for your subjects from the past 15 years at least and go through them OVER and OVER AGAIN !!!
8. Go through number 7 dilligently over and over again
9. Set yourself a target of gaining Uni admission at the next Jamb exam
10. Avoid booking your Jamb exam at centre's where expo is rife (to avoid seizure of your result)
11.Repeat number 8 as many times as possible up until exam date
12. Sleep early so that you get at least 8 hours sleep daily to freshen your brain
13. Come to Nairaland and give your testimony Jamb results are released
14. Have Faith in your God given abilities and remember that "Winners Never Quit and Quitters Never Win".

FriedYam:
Good evening Nlers.
I'm a eighteen year old. From a family of five. The only son with extra strict parents. A lot has been happening right from my childhood down till now and my parents are of the view that I'm an apology.

I wasn't the brightest in school. I'm above average nd particularly led my class in my core subjects. I wrote my wassce in 2014. I cleared my papers except math nd literature. Agreed. I'm a dumbo at math but literature.... All students failed because a classmate was caught with a phone. Thus, I became the first in my family to fail o'level.

I registered for neco gce nd failed even more cos there was high expo there. My jamb score was 223 that yr for an imposed course, Law.

2015,i registered neco again at a school known for expo. However, before the expo was brought into the hall, I would have answered all my questions nd was only helped in maths. They called me a textbook in the school. I had B's all through but my father thinks it was expo that helped me. At 2015 , my jamb score was 257. U.I f'd me up. Law again.

This yr, jamb did the unthinkable. After popping coffee all night to study nd reading all day to the extent that i lost weight, i had 212. Y'all know how jamb was. Now I ddnt gain admission for law.... I'm being blamed now for jambs incompetence.

A who bunch of other things relating to education where i've been gravely misunderstood are untold.

But, that's just abt education.

i didnt bother to read the rest of this "story" cuz i knw its anoda fake one like d ones u see in d papers
pls pls and pls its perfectly normal fr anyone at any age to masturbate.
not expulsing ur fluid can be taskin hence d reason females have periods
as wit anytin done in excess too much on it is bad

mosho2good:
Yes u are a bad son just go to sambisa forest to reset and tell the Boko Haram commander to rest ur memory

Receive sense!

@FriedYam.... i hope u sort ur life out, get a decent job, and find a nice gurl with an equally high libido as you...



got some humor 4 u

OP you sound like a genuine person, but in the end you have to live your life regardless, knowing that no one is perfect.

Look at Obama. Despite all his former and modern accomplishments, his half-brother still hates him. No man is in a position to judge you. We live among child rapists, rapists, thieves, adulterers, liars, cronies, murderers, and above all, those suffering from inescapable inferior complexes. Everyone criticizes Buhari but he is another example how you or anyone can be anything you'd like.

We all want to make our parents proud but you have to wonder what world have they shaped to help you thrive. You mentioned that you were abused at a young age which ultimately happened on their watch. Are parents doing their all to hold your government accountable or are they just passively blowing along with the wind of shoddy efforts? This is the society they'll pass on.

I see this all time OP; Blame the Youth when then it's the leadership that really should be blamed. Parents and Leaders: "Here's a shitty world that I couldnt fix, so I'll sit back and blame youth for being the victim of it"

OP, why are you a loner in your own home, you don't talk to your siblings? You are strange

I guess u summon the courage like u did here to sit them down and communicate with them, tell them ur goals, ambitions, efforts and weakness, tell them u understand their concerns 2wards making u a better adult, just try to make them understand, most problems with our typical African family /homes is lack of communication between parents and children, especially the adolescent that is always in crisis, I once passed 2ru these but hv overcome by God's grace, it really makes young people think unimportant and valueless, and also cause depression,anxiety and thought of suicide, The worst stage is when u re out of school and unable to secure admission either due to exam related stuff (like inability to pass o'level /jamb) and financial constraints.
may God help you to overcome.

tensazangetsu20:
I don't even know what's in this law that arts students wanna die for. Many lawyers in Nigeria are poor and suffering. Why not do something like logistics or economics.

not good in maths remember... econometrics

justscorchone:
I don't really see your problem?

Then you need the Grace of God. #kontinuuuuu

OP......now I understand why your username is "Friedyam" all you need is a little oil and salt and you are ready for Lunch for your parents. It is your duty to ensure they don't get that salt and oil by proving them wrong at every chance you get. And if you must count your pubic hair then Pls lock your door.....i repeat....LOCK YOUR DOOR. over and out.

FriedYam:
about friends.

I move with responsible friends as I'm quick to sieve out bad ones.

My friend have style. They dress nice, barb stylish cuts like low layers nd low cut.

My parents use hairstyle to judge my friends. If the haircut is high, the guy is a smoker, rapist, cultist and whatever, just name it. Even the ones with low cut don't escape. I grew up practically locked inside the house till now. I'm given no room to talk to anyone outside.

Dad saw a junior of mine from the school i finished from. The dude was only informing me of their upcoming inter-house sports at school nd was inviting me. I was called inside the house and welcomed with punches nd slaps from dad who was a former karate guru. Why? because the boy usually ddnt greet him. I was punched to stupour.

Now, they think I smoke weed..... They are even convinced that I do. I gave a barber money to help me mix stuffs that'll help hair that was thinning. The man mixed weed in it. I applied it nd it worked. Mum found out nd now I'm a chain smoker... She's told dad nd they both think i'm a smoker cos i sumtimes react angrilly due to the irritation from the fact that i'm still home when my friend are in school. The call it the effect of weed.

Why am i telling nl? I don't know. I've got no one to talk to.
I'm amidst my fam but feel like an outcast.

Tis is just a tip of what I'm going tru

same bro, am just frustrated, they won't understand

Pidgin2:
OP, why are you a loner in your own home, you don't talk to your siblings? You are strange

shut up

if wat u just said is noting but d truth. may d good Lord set u free..

All those stuffs are happening because you're still at home, I can relate with that those two years I spent at home awaiting admission 2012 to 2014 got admission into the university in 2014. so dude just study hard this time around for Jamb pass well go to school and give your parents a break after spending like 5months in school they will so miss you and the bad blood that seem to exist between you will be over. And in regards to the choice of school you know schools In the west are highly competitive especially U.I why not try schools in the north I recommend University of Jos and Amadu bello university Zaria that way you can be far from home But University of Jos is a better option in case you decide to hid to my advice stay strong bro and always have it in mind your parents love you very much in their own way I mean why wont they you're their only son you know what that mean now to a Nigerian family though they have a funny way of expressing the love and please suicide is not an option...u can drop your contact if u need more advice.

FriedYam:
according to my father, any course other than law, med nd engineering is for lazy people.. Even art...nd that's my talent, I make wonders with pencil

I know the kind of dad you have. My uncle if far worse. The only thing that makes yours painful is that you're the only one bearing the pains while in my uncle's case, out of 7 children, he only terms just 3 as his recognized children while the other 4 to him, are useless, including his gentle wife.

Very terrible tho. If I had such a father, I'd lie to him about me gaining admission for a law degree while going in and studying heart's desire.

By the way, I experience far worse in my own case but it's a story for another day

TheSixthSense:
You need to be friends and talk with your siblings too. Talk to them about how you feel about your parents, maybe they will help you tell them and work things out. Don't end up being spiteful to your parents because they are the only ones that would ever love you for you. You may find that out if you ever get into serious trouble. 10/10 it's your parents/family that would stick with you NOT your friends. Better to have your parents as allies.

Actually I disagree wit u bros...some friends are sometimes more reliable than or as much as family...some friends gat ur back no matter wat....

FriedYam:
according to my father, any course other than law, med nd engineering is for lazy people.. Even art...nd that's my talent, I make wonders with pencil

..wait,,you r doing law for ur dad??,,you scored over 200 back to back to back in jamb nd no admission,u r 18 nd still a virgin,and unfuckinbelievable u r seen as a porn addict...ur life is too nollywood...but i think lack of consistent communication is why they are mistaking you...maybe u are solo or d quiet type.

RaphaellaDD:
My candid opinion:
1) Don't live your life for anyone. Regret is an evil witch!!! If art is your passion go for it. Your parents are probably not going to be around in the next 50 years and that's when you'll realize that they lived your life for you!!!

2) Get a grip of your emotions. Find what makes and keeps you happy and bury yourself in it when wahala starts. Depression is the younger sister to regret. People will always have their own opinions about you, if you let that dictate your happiness, you're doomed!!

3) Find something to get you out of the house and keep you busy. A job,whatever. Start earning your own money,start being independent in the little ways you can. It'll definitely make you feel better.

You fine.o and your advice is finer thumbs up

FriedYam:
according to my father, any course other than law, med nd engineering is for lazy people.. Even art...nd that's my talent, I make wonders with pencil

I will advice you if you kno you are not guilty of all their insinuations carry on with life. Find time to read your Bible and put your matter in Gods hands. All they are doing is because of love they have for you and cos they want you to be great in life.
Who knows by the time they see you with Bible one or two times theyld start to have a change of heart.
About your Art talent don't because of what your Dad says forget and drop it. It's going to help you in the future even if you are not a professional Artist. You'ld say one day that someone told you. Either here or over seas.
I'm a professional Artist. www.davidomotosho.50megs.com
Stay blessed and abstain from all shady acts life is going to change for good for you. Try to pleased God always and like magic You'ld have a better image with your parents.

Zceesneh:
same bro, am just frustrated, they won't understand

we love and respect our parents, but sometimes you have to let go.

I meet people/parents like this all time; making judgements of people based on appearance. It's even worse for people who think they have some third spiritual eye into the world. They justify how they feel about a person based solely on what their spirit tells them which has to be one of the dumbest things I heard, a life proposition that many people still subscribe to without assessing their own (insecure) spirit first. Like this guy's parents and anyone like them. Do you think his parents are asking themselves whether they're good parents or not? They'd probably rather not while having the expectation of their own life with their children. Their child was already molested, I guess they blame him for that instead of themselves. Elders dont control anything about this world, but they expect youth to simply play along.

Perfecter4real:
All those stuffs are happening because you're still at home, I can relate with that those two years I spent at home awaiting admission 2012 to 2014 got admission into the university in 2014. so dude just study hard this time around for Jamb pass well go to school and give your parents a break after spending like 5months in school they will so miss you and the bad blood that seem to exist between you will be over. And in regards to the choice of school you know schools In the west are highly competitive especially U.I why not try schools in the north I recommend University of Jos and Amadu bello university Zaria that way you can be far from home But University of Jos is a better option in case you decide to hid to my advice stay strong bro and always have it in mind your parents love you very much in their own way I mean why wont they you're their only son you know what that mean now to a Nigerian family though they have a funny way of expressing the love and please suicide is not an option...u can drop your contact if u need more advice.

Follow this advice OP. Get out their house as soon as possible but stay productive. Make yourself proud even if no one else is.

Still love your parents at the end of the day.

Best thing is for you to sit down and think of what you can do for yourself if the "law" doesn't show up. Your parents are not mean, I think they are just scared you don't end up a broke man. Good luck

Okay, but I will place my bet on family any day and trust me. I could give numerous hypothetical situations that friend(s) would eventually abandon not because they don't care but because there is a limit to what they can do.

Dantee005:
Actually I disagree wit u bros...some friends are sometimes more reliable than or as much as family...some friends gat ur back no matter wat....

Raine80:

Thank you ......maybe but then sometimes trying to know someone might not be a good idea

Really! Why?

Really I don't know what some parents see in law that freaks them.
A Lawyer friend just died some months ago and a newly wedded for that matter. A cousin of mine who now is a magistrate believes so much in fetish things that every thing ppl bring to him for protection he takes. different concoctions and You'ld wonder what joy is in a work with no peace of mind untill you look for protection. He once told us how ppl come to court with different charms and incantations to affect the lawyers and judges.
Many belong to cults.
And yet many of these lawyers live in poverty.


Boy follow your mind and do the course your heart desires, stay out of trouble, spent more time with your Bible. join a group in Church and before yould know it you've got friends to talk and reason with and depression disappears.

When I was young I and my junior brother now in the US were beaten by dad several times for stealing his money that we never stole. When we talk about it now we laugh. We forgave dad because he was trying to make us good ppl but he misjudged us. We grew up in a notorious part of Ibadan in the 70s /80s . Many of our neighbourhood peers grew up to become robbers. It was not long when we realised why dad was mean.

It really hurts @ op. Family is supposed to make life easier, help you get through shits, make you feel whole but in this part of the world, reverse is usually the case, am going through some of the same shits and yes, the only solution is leaving,being independent and in our society, till you graduate from a higher institution, you are considered not an adult, am so sick of all this junk mentalities.
And NO, you are not a bad son, they can shove their opinions down their throat, respect them for that's what you owe them till you get your own roof and 'life'

Bro free uni ibadan cos it will be hard for them to give u admission if u don't have lots of A's in ur waec choose another federal uni apply, perhaps UNN.
Then again if u dont like law speak out and go for the course u want.
Then pls never u think.of suicide, remember that once u leave the house u are free.
God bless

Friedyam, please send me a PM. I might be able to offer some little help and advice. I have mentored several youths with cases similar to yours. May God be your strength.