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Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by ephi123(f): 12:35pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Bollinger: Hmmm, I don't think I agree with you on the line above. Even people who are not married can sometimes give wise advice, wisdom is not bestowed automatically when a person gets married. The rest of your comment, I fully agree about knowing who you are marrying. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MarieSucre(f): 12:36pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
goingape1: I don't know where you get the data that most girls here are sleeping with married men. And how does that answer Op's question? And if the man contracts HIV from all the unprotected sex he is having and passes it on to his wife, do you still think all this rubbish you wrote above will be relevant? He will destroy his home and if care is not taken leave his two children orphans because he wanted to have some "few minutes of selfish pleasure". Keep encouraging nonsense. Kontinuuu 4 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by TheNonce: 12:37pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Amelian: For your chronic lack of ambition as displayed by the jargons written in this your post ....take it! 2 Likes
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Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MarieSucre(f): 12:37pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
SmartyPants: You were the talking about the "nature of men" nah. How they cannot stay for 6 months without sex if not... what will happen? |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 12:39pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
nubian999: The Hobbesian philosophical axiom says man is a wolf to man. I'd paraphrase that and say women are wolves to women. dominique: She's out sourcing for brownie points to place her on the whitelist of male Nairalanders -- who does that anyway? The more self-effacing her comments are, the more in her askewed judgement she thinks she comes across as appealing and likeable. 5 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by SmartyPants(m): 12:39pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
ephi123: yes, and thus it should follow that such a man would not need a convenient excuse to cheat, since according to you he is an inherent cheat and will cheat regardless? but the man in question has not been cheating on his wife all along which indicates that he is reacting to circumstance, as opposed to taking advantage of it. So he is an incidental cheat, not an inherent one, and his wife could manage his incidental weakness by eradicating any possibility of such incidence, simply by making herself available. but if you still argue that an inherent cheat does need an opportunity to cheat, then a lady married to an inherent cheat should take steps to deprive him of the convenience to cheat. Thus he may remain a cheat at heart, but he would not be able to exercise his nature. Either way, the woman has the power to control her husband, if a "convenient excuse" is the trigger for cheating. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 12:39pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
darecool: Thank you sir, honestly I wonder too.. A lot of universities in Nigeria she can study from.. But no, they prefer travelling abroad and doing all. Sorts all. In the name of getting higher degree. When am married, I wont use my home and husband play kalo Kalo.. Some women here may say am. Old fashioned or call. Me names, I don't fucvking care.. Leave me and my old fashion.. I like it that way. And my husband and kids will appreciate and value me for it. That's the way I was brought up. And the same values I will pass down to my children. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Caracta(f): 12:40pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: Or what if she got a scholarship to study abroad? 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Kosy79(f): 12:40pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:Well said. Don't mind that lady[b] DarkRebel101:Well said. Don't mind that lady[/b] DarkRebel101:Well said. Don't mind that lady 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Ucheosefoh(m): 12:45pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
We are here castigating the man, what if the wife is cheating over there too. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by RoadsAndGreen(m): 12:45pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
CecyAdrian:both of them are wrong. and please don't assume she's not also cheating over there. while I won't rule out the possibility of that being true it's better we leave that out. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Ucheosefoh(m): 12:45pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
We are here castigating the man, what if the wife is cheating over there too. so op mind your business |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MarieSucre(f): 12:45pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Bollinger: I understand but is everyone supposed to just cross their hands and look till the man contracts an incurable STI that he passes to his wife? Or should we intervene at their grave sides after they are both dead? Or maybe we should intervene when the children are shared among the family and friends? Pray tell when do you suggest an intervention? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 12:46pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Caracta: Spot on. These blokes seem to be approaching the matter with a tunnel vision without brooking for other case scenarios that might have warranted her schooling far away from home. Finally, someone whose brain is clicking on all cylinders. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by AreaFada2: 12:47pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
OP should mind his business. That is the reality of life. You may think you're doing good but you can incur enmity of two people easily if you meddle. People can be dangerous at times. The equation might even be balanced. Who knows if the wife is collecting her share over there too? We have seen many such before. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by TheAsegun(m): 12:47pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
1. Did the wife leave town for studies against her husband's wish? 2. Is there a close-by university that can offer her course? 3. Is there no way she can come spend some weekends with her husband? These are just few of the thoughts going through my mind.... |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by ElsonMorali: 12:48pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
I'm sorry but your friend is a goat. I agree totally with Amelian. What foolish woman would abandon her family and kids and go for one yeye Masters outside the country. Which kain rubbish be dis? When her marriage packs up let her replace her marriage certificate with her Masters certificate now. Nonsense. Reminds me of a woman I used to know, somewhat a family friend. Despite that the kids were all grown and some working, she got a visa to go work in one of these gulf countries. She got permission from her husband and she left. She'd come home once in a year or once in two years or so. The last time she came home, she was confronted with the sight of a very young girl carrying her husband's baby in her arms. Those attacking Amelian for speaking the truth, I'm not so sure you guys have a working brain. OP, just send an anonymous SMS to her that her husband has impregnated a girl who is expecting twins, put the name of the girl join, and watch her rush down with immediate alacrity. Then distance yourself from that family until they put their house in order o. 8 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by hazyfm1: 12:48pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: Sounds dumb to you, but not totally dumb to me What the heck is she doing abroad for 6 months?? Fvck Studies abroad!! What happened to schooling in Nigeria? Atleast she will remain 1st & Senior wife. Good luck to her. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by goingape1: 12:48pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
MarieSucre:is it your home he is destroying get this into your fragile skull! " his home" "his home" and not your home! why are you taking medicine for another's man problem! the simple answer to the op question is to mind his business and keep his home in other not poking nose on another's man home! for your first question, yes many nairaland women here are olushi and wife snatcher! from experience |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by RoadsAndGreen(m): 12:49pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
MarieSucre:because you women are able to abstain does that mean a man must be able to stay abstained? people have different needs and yes sex is food. it's even sweeter that jollof rice. like it or not. you pray against the devil but you must not give chance for temptations. if you like when/if you get married travel out for a year or two OK? Mrs I too know. 3 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by ephi123(f): 12:49pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
SmartyPants: That particular comment was not referring to this case but to your statement of a man who lacks self-control and integrity. And I maintain such a person will cheat regardless. Why should a woman be the one responsible for her husband's decision to cheat or not cheat. It is very unfair that a man who should be leader and head of the house will need his wife to exercise control over him not to cheat! Is he a puppet? Is she a super power? In any case we can see that does not even work, cos if it did, we would have many more faithful married men in Nigeria. Ultimately, it is the man's decision. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 12:49pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
ka0s: Amen and amen... Thank you May my mum's soul rest in perfect peace.. Love you mum 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by LastProphet: 12:50pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Benbisco: do u know what the wife is doing over there? so u are sure the wife is faithful? u boys don't know what marriage is yet. look my friend not everything in marriage can be discussed or said in public. u better keep ur mouth shut and slowly distance ursef from the guy |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by edbor(m): 12:50pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
I thought the OP asked for advice |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by adedayoa2(f): 12:51pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:well for me, I am building a career already and won't halt because I read this story. There are so many wives who also studied far away from home and their husbands didn't cheat. Even if it was this guy in question that went to study he'll definitely cheat on his wife. 4 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Caracta(f): 12:53pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
goingape1: Eeyah. Now I understand your condition. And how can a woman be wife snatcher again? That's a 'strong' one. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by goingape1: 12:55pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
RoadsAndGreen:thank you ohh! because she fit hold yansh no mean say men na the same! sex is one of the driving force in marriage. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 12:56pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Amelian: You really think being at home with your man will stop him from cheating on you? So there aren't women at home waiting for their husbands while he's in bed with a side chick A man that cheats will cheat on you whether you are home or aboard. Why are you not understanding the fact that it's not her fault he cheated but his fault. You are not old fashioned you're self hating. You would make an awful judge because you don't understand where the blame lays. Her PHD from a university abroad will give her a step up in the job market. When she decides to leave that man she won't need to go back to her father's house. 6 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by goingape1: 12:57pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Caracta:don't you know mistake ask your fellow olushi! don't ask me that |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MarieSucre(f): 12:58pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
RoadsAndGreen: I repeat men and women are not equal. Men are superior. Men are superior in discipline. If you cannot discipline yourself. Then speak for yourself alone. What is point of men being superior then if they are allowed to be weak in this way? 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by hazyfm1: 12:58pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: LIES LIES LIES Exactly what most ladies feed on daily They hate hearing the truth, till the truth becomes irrelevant, like the case study here |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Caracta(f): 12:59pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
goingape1: Take heart! This your experience must have reduced your brain to nothing. |
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