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PaperLace:
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Why did you delete the comment? It cracked me up.

A bottle of old, ripe, sweet, expensive wine for you.

daygee12:


Dont tag it as African mindset, i had dis discussion with an italian colleague yesterday, he said he respects ladies dat can cook dat he can never marry a girl dat cant cook. He said he was upset wen he(italian) visited his friend and finds out dat his friend's girlfriend doesnt want to cook. this is not African mindset only indians and Arab countries respect ladies dat can cook.

You're correct to an extent, I am aware that Indian and Arab men also have such tendencies!

I'm quite surprised though that an Italian man expressed such

Mindfulness:


Why did you delete the comment? It cracked me up.

A bottle of old, ripe, sweet, expensive wine for you.

Lol.
I felt he wasn't deserving of it jare.

PaperLace:


Lol.
I felt he wasn't deserving of it jare.

Very kind! Get her a Swedish whiskey too.

RoadsAndGreen:
Lolz. funny you called me professor.

hey babe, don't listen to the advise of this girl's on nl oh. don't join their last war. ciao

Lol. won't entirely blame em. But yes sensei.

PaperLace:


I even unquoted after realising no need.
Use your head before quoting me next time mbok.

use my head? you really should think it through before you reply people. you grown you know?

TheArchangel:
Then why the LABOURING. why the fvcking emphasis on wife being a cook, maid etc.?
Is that how you manage your favour huh?
Cook
Clean
Wash
Sweep
Birth
Etc
Which kain FAVOUR be that huh

Those who want the admiration of their husband and children knows what it means to be married.Grammar will not change the Truth.Only a foolish man will go for a Liability when there is a better option.
A man who gets a virtuous woman is blessed.Read Proverbs 31 and find out the role of wife who deserves the praise of her husband and children.

A woman who can't cook for her husband/kids should be able to make enough money to complement that shortcoming of being a bad cook!

Same way, a man who doesn't want to assist his wife in the kitchen should be ready to foot all the family bills!
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A wife who can't cook and she is not bringing in enough money‎ to support her husband should better stay single na

babythug:


You're correct to an extent, I am aware that Indian and Arab men also have such tendencies!

I'm quite surprised though that an Italian man expressed such

It is the same in every single country do not be deceived but those in large urban areas eat more takeaway/mamaput/eatery etc

babythug:


You're correct to an extent, I am aware that Indian and Arab men also have such tendencies!

I'm quite surprised though that an Italian man expressed such

And why were you surprised?

Pidgin2:


And what do you bring to the table?

my sis your question ought to be "what should a woman look for in a min?" Remember my statement is to encourage guys on what to look for in a woman before marriage.
Now to the quoted question, 3 things also should be what a man should have to be good.
(1) he has to be good in bed- so as to reduce infidelity in marriage.
(2) he has to be humble and intelligent- humbleness and intelligence will make he see opportunity in things around him be it work, business, family and friends.
(3) hardworking- i guess you know where hardworking can led one to.

derecho:
Those who want the admiration of their husband and children knows what it means to be married.Grammar will not change the Truth.Only a foolish man will go for a Liability when there is a better option.
A man who gets a virtuous woman is blessed.Read Proverbs 31 and find out the role of wife who deserves the praise of her husband and children.

Yeah!!
Rather it is Virtuous maid.
Keep on living in the years of Proverbs 31 and dreaming of a virtuoso Dame that will pamper and be hailing you at the same time.

Empredboy:
my sis your question ought to be "what should a woman look for in a min?" Remember my statement is to encourage guys on what to look for in a woman before marriage.
Now to the quoted question, 3 things also should be what a man should have to be good.
(1) he has to be good in bed- so as to reduce infidelity in marriage.
(2) he has to be humble and intelligent- humbleness and intelligence will make he see opportunity in things around him be it work, business, family and friends.
(3) hardworking- i guess you know where hardworking can led one to.

I agree with no. 1. I do not agree with no. 2 and no. 3.
I would replace humble with self-confident and hardworking with enthusiastic and successful.

sisisioge:


I swear! I cook well and even go a step further to present well when I serve but would rather have someone else do the cooking. I don't like staying so long in the kitchen, would rather cook for the year and stock the freezer abeg or not even bother at all!Thank God, I'm not so fussy about food although I'm a foodie


To the topic, I agree. However, we are in Africa, a man would be doing himself a grave harm if he marries a bad cook. This is because he most likely isn't a good cook himself, it is expensive to eat out all the time and it is totally unafrican to hire a cook. Your example where the best chefs in the world are men can be easily traced to the western worlds where most families actually eat out. The few ones that cook are either very poor or above average comfortable.

It wouldn't be a bad idea where the man and woman both share the cooking. In fact, it will be really nice but we both know that's a dream with a generic 0.000001% probability of occurrence. In Nigeria, for a long long time more to come, mommy's personal space will include the kitchen!

So, being a bad cook is terrible but surely shouldn't be a criteria in deciding on a spouse. It is a skill easily learnt.

Cooking competitions in Africa are always won by men too!

Anyway, you're right about the realities in this part of the world. Not that cooking would feature much in my criteria for marrying someone. I mean, it's great if she's a great cook, but that is not one of my irreducible mininums. Shebi before I got married, I was eating?

Mindfulness:


I agree with you, cooking skills are also appreciated abroad on the European soil. However, OP did not say that women should not know how to cook ,even though the title implies it, but rather that everyone should know how to cook and I agree. What's so difficult about it anyway?

Correct. The purpose of the thread is to encourage men (and everybody) to cook and not to use a woman's cooking skills as yardstick in judging her. I wonder why the purpose is misunderstood.

RoadsAndGreen:
do you agree that after paying your bride price, knee down in shoprite to propose, do a fine wedding I should still be cooking?

No, I've never been in support of that.

Except in cases where the woman is sick, then the husband can help, or he just choose to, if not I don't see any reason why the woman would be idle and the man would go inside the kitchen to cook.

If a woman who's up to 30 can't cook well, I wonder what else she's good at, who'll cook the good food for the family? Lol its just ridiculous.

PaperLace:

The OP isn't encouraging women not to cook, he is only saying it doesn't entirely make her a bad wife.

I tire o...

Laveda:


No, I've never been in support of that.

Except in cases where the woman is sick, then the husband can help, or he just choose to, if not I don't see any reason why the woman would be idle and the man would go inside the kitchen to cook.

If a woman who's up to 30 can't cook well, I wonder what else she's good at, who'll cool the good food for the family? Lol its just ridiculous.

you will marry a better husband than me in Jesus name Amen. tonight when am praying night prayer I'll remember to pray for you...
correct babe.

Mindfulness:


Very kind! Get her a Swedish whiskey too.

Thanks mamee
'I love whiskey but I hate alcohol'...hehehe

These guys keep threatening us with remarry.
Is it that important to them if we 'move on' with or without another man?!

They totally ignored the actual aim/purpose of the thread to start firing shots. Nawa o

RoadsAndGreen:
you will marry a better husband than me in Jesus name Amen. tonight when am praying night prayer I'll remember to pray for you...
correct babe.

hahahaha that's so thoughtful, thanks.

Hope you're okay?

Laveda:
hahahaha that's so thoughtful, thanks.

Hope you're okay?

i dey kamkpe. hope you too dey well?

PaperLace:

Thanks mamee
'I love whiskey but I hate alcohol'...hehehe

These guys keep threatening us with remarry.
Is it that important to them if we 'move on' with or without another man?!

They totally ignored the actual aim/purpose of the thread to start firing shots. Nawa o

One thing I learned on NL is that men desire need marriage more than women do.
Knowledge is power.

You do not have to drink it to get drunk, an expensive whiskey is enjoyed in small amounts. It can even kill a grizzly.

Cheers my sister!

DarkRebel101:


Correct. The purpose of the thread is to encourage men (and everybody) to cook and not to use a woman's cooking skills as yardstick in judging her. I wonder why the purpose is misunderstood.

Reading comprehension issues/ laziness.

RoadsAndGreen:
i dey kamkpe. hope you too dey well?

I am.

eezeribe:
What else is the function of a wife...
A man provides for everything in the home, some even pay salary to their wife, some wives even find it difficult to wash their husband's clothes.Some husbands even settle for dry cleaners or buy washing machine for their wife(which would also be of benefit to her).
Most husbands leave for work on empty stomach and come back late to meet cold food which has been grudgingly served by the wife or in most cases... The maid
Marriage is a woman's Asset and a Man's Liability
After paying so much as bride price and bearing the cost of the wedding which she made more expensive... At least the least he can get is a good food at home.No wonder the divorce rate keeps going up and Many single and Eligible people don't want marriage commitment.
If Not for Religion, person like me for dey marry and discard any misfit of a wife Annually.

WHAT DO HUSBANDS EVEN GAIN FROM WIVES

everyone is free to voice their opinion. I have just said my opinion like the Op has said his. If you are pained by my comment, Remember there are over 1000 ways to die...CHOOSE ONE

Are u a baby?? Why can't you wash the clothes you wear?? We might as well change ur undies for u too, hian! Stop spewing trash about men only providing for the family, that was eons ago.....these days, all hands are on deck, both the husband and wife work to take care of the family in most cases.
A woman should know how to cook as well as a man. oh and yeah, I just voiced my opinion too

So long as she can cook assorted in the bedroom department, Ekatte would be employed to cook (only in the kitchen and cooking pots)........

DarkRebel101:


No excuse can justify a man that doesn't know how to cook either. Both men and women should know how to cook.

is cooking primary assignment of a man in the family

A lady who cannot cook is a total turn off for me

Learn to do your own cooking or get a maid. Marriage itself is a large scam.

babythug:
I feel men in Nigeria and Africa as a whole are inhibited by their mindsets and culture as against being practical!

There have been many occasions where I could be caught up in traffic till late and hubby has returned home early but he won't start dinner or even feed himself because "his wife should do the cooking"

Where of course it's more practical for the men to cook they still won't! Funny thing is African men who live in the diaspora embrace this your school of thought far better than those residing in Africa!!!!

My sister that your last statement is totally false!!!!!!!!go and ask those living there except if the dude did not grow in Africa.......why do you think you still many african men still going back to their country to get married??