unlimitedgrace4:
v been married for almost 4yrs...we are blessed wt 2 preety girls..bt for d past 3 and halt tears my sexual life is not encouraging.i av.never been wet b4 sex,not for once talkless of orgasm...each time we make luv,most times i pretend to be enjoying it...to be fair to my hisband he has really tried...he romances me,show me luv,envourages me bt nothing meaningful is happening...no matter hw much he toyrches me i hardly get moved....i tot things wl change after child birth but i was wrong...just last week my hubby dropped d bombshel....he told me he had kept quiet 4 all dis years just becos he hope things wl changed...he told me he had not been enjoying his sexual life wt me...and asked me if i do enjoy it,he want to kno if hes d problem...i told him no dat i do not...he almost broke down in tears...av seeked medial help bt no result...am scared he mite start.an affair wt anoda lady soon....he told me he had resulted to porn in d last 3yrs,and dats y he always lock his videos,just bvos he dnt want to have extral marital affairs...he said if things dosent improve b4 our 4th yr anniversary,he wl be force to seek divorce...pls pple,help me...someone advice me to join nairaland,dat i culd find solution

madam I heard of a similar situation but if I can recollect very well this are some of the few( but not all) steps taking by those affected.
1. whenever u want to have fun with him make sure u are not burden by any other issue and be relaxed, perhaps if u take liquor u can take 1 or two bottles .
2. you can also watch porn with him if he doesn't mind or u can download urs and get aroused before he comes around...
3. try having quickie in un usual places( d more d risk d more the fun) try those maybe it can help ur situation.

Nma27:
Its best you don't pretend and hide things from your husband. I'm sure he would have asked for a way to better your lovemaking if u had confided in him instead of faking. Try and get a lubricant and a vibrator and incorporate with ur lovemaking, that should help... I guess.

thanks

with all this stupid comment? thank God they are increasing the price of data in Nigeria
I was feeling bad when I read the news. but now looking at this thread, the increase can't come any sooner.
something tells me that some members of NCC browse this forum and have decided on this increase based on the number of children online.

Nma27:
The Libidoral effects of sPanish fly amongst women and its disadvantages...#ShortThesis

Hmm.....

Try extramarital.....Maybe hes not sexually attractive to you....

unlimitedgrace4:
v been married for almost 4yrs...we are blessed wt 2 preety girls..bt for d past 3 and halt tears my sexual life is not encouraging.i av.never been wet b4 sex,not for once talkless of orgasm...each time we make luv,most times i pretend to be enjoying it...to be fair to my hisband he has really tried...he romances me,show me luv,envourages me bt nothing meaningful is happening...no matter hw much he toyrches me i hardly get moved....i tot things wl change after child birth but i was wrong...just last week my hubby dropped d bombshel....he told me he had kept quiet 4 all dis years just becos he hope things wl changed...he told me he had not been enjoying his sexual life wt me...and asked me if i do enjoy it,he want to kno if hes d problem...i told him no dat i do not...he almost broke down in tears...av seeked medial help bt no result...am scared he mite start.an affair wt anoda lady soon....he told me he had resulted to porn in d last 3yrs,and dats y he always lock his videos,just bvos he dnt want to have extral marital affairs...he said if things dosent improve b4 our 4th yr anniversary,he wl be force to seek divorce...pls pple,help me...someone advice me to join nairaland,dat i culd find solution

Hmmm u better seek help 2 protect ur home. were u circumcised?

unlimitedgrace4:
v been married for almost 4yrs...we are blessed wt 2 preety girls..bt for d past 3 and halt tears my sexual life is not encouraging.i av.never been wet b4 sex,not for once talkless of orgasm...each time we make luv,most times i pretend to be enjoying it...to be fair to my hisband he has really tried...he romances me,show me luv,envourages me bt nothing meaningful is happening...no matter hw much he toyrches me i hardly get moved....i tot things wl change after child birth but i was wrong...just last week my hubby dropped d bombshel....he told me he had kept quiet 4 all dis years just becos he hope things wl changed...he told me he had not been enjoying his sexual life wt me...and asked me if i do enjoy it,he want to kno if hes d problem...i told him no dat i do not...he almost broke down in tears...av seeked medial help bt no result...am scared he mite start.an affair wt anoda lady soon....he told me he had resulted to porn in d last 3yrs,and dats y he always lock his videos,just bvos he dnt want to have extral marital affairs...he said if things dosent improve b4 our 4th yr anniversary,he wl be force to seek divorce...pls pple,help me...someone advice me to join nairaland,dat i culd find solution

Hmmm u better seek help 2 protect ur home. were u circumcised? u can use lubricants now. Best of luck

AntiWailer:
Who advised you to join Nairaland for Solution ?

I dnt gerrit. U mean people can make you wet here ?


Ok tell hubby to get cold stone ice cream. Plaster ur tit with it and suck it all out gently, replaster it with another batch and suck everything slowly while putting 2 fingers on ur nippple if u have any.

Do some 69 with ice cream on both ends.

If you are not wet, na mountain of fire your solution dey not nairaland.


#My account was hacked.

Yes. I intentionally hacked ur account cos u dey always sit in front row 4 church thereby making people think you are holy.

B2Spirits:



Yes. I intentionally hacked ur account cos u dey always sit in front row 4 church thereby making people think you are holy.

Lol.

This might help, my wife had same issues though because she was circumcised.
1.You need to talk and be open about sex.
2.Get a lubricant, from experience Jaguar lubricant is the best. Does not go dry like others.
3. Your husband should learn to give you a head before penetration. With this you might no longer need a lubricant.
4. Most importantly, do away with that inhibition, about not enjoying sex. And that childhood notion that sex is bad etc. Free yourself.

unlimitedgrace4:
v been married for almost 4yrs...we are blessed wt 2 preety girls..bt for d past 3 and halt tears my sexual life is not encouraging.i av.never been wet b4 sex,not for once talkless of orgasm...each time we make luv,most times i pretend to be enjoying it...to be fair to my hisband he has really tried...he romances me,show me luv,envourages me bt nothing meaningful is happening...no matter hw much he toyrches me i hardly get moved....i tot things wl change after child birth but i was wrong...just last week my hubby dropped d bombshel....he told me he had kept quiet 4 all dis years just becos he hope things wl changed...he told me he had not been enjoying his sexual life wt me...and asked me if i do enjoy it,he want to kno if hes d problem...i told him no dat i do not...he almost broke down in tears...av seeked medial help bt no result...am scared he mite start.an affair wt anoda lady soon....he told me he had resulted to porn in d last 3yrs,and dats y he always lock his videos,just bvos he dnt want to have extral marital affairs...he said if things dosent improve b4 our 4th yr anniversary,he wl be force to seek divorce...pls pple,help me...someone advice me to join nairaland,dat i culd find solution

Take down this topic now and go to www.nairaland.com/family to get help from matured minds. You are posting in a section infested with teenagers and undergraduates. How do you hope to get the help you want?

Admin401:
with all this stupid comment? thank God they are increasing the price of data in Nigeria
I was feeling bad when I read the news. but now looking at this thread, the increase can't come any sooner.
something tells me that some members of NCC browse this forum and have decided on this increase based on the number of children online.

Actually, the problem is that this section is dominated by teenagers. If you find out their ages, you will understand better. That is why we have such comments. I didnt even see your commented before I posted mine. If you have such problem, please take it for family section for help.

Nma27:
how much for the spanish fly gold pls?

What do u want to do with Spanish gold fly. DT shit is dangerous

stupid post from stupid nigerian come le me make you wet bitchi

softMarket:
Pour water on yourself




maybe you wasted the whole juice in your juice pot when u were in High school,


ok now, how old are u?
If u re up to 45yrs,calm ur self down and forget sex

ur an excuse of a human being

Nma27:
how much for the spanish fly gold pls?

You have the same problem?

mizlovette:
ur an excuse of a human being

Are you serious?

Nma27:
how much for the spanish fly gold pls?

£24.99...that should be #14200..

Aunty e be like say that ur husband no sabi the art of pre-intimacy cos,if na me i swear u must wet n sok like dem pure u water

Melonny:
£24.99...that should be #14200..

wtf!!! Will it give me orgasms for d rest of my life??

MrsExplorer:


What do u want to do with Spanish gold fly. DT shit is dangerous

Yes Ma

Lot of stupid teenage comments here take this to family section.

Nma27:
Its best you don't pretend and hide things from your husband. I'm sure he would have asked for a way to better your lovemaking if u had confided in him instead of faking. Try and get a lubricant and a vibrator and incorporate with ur lovemaking, that should help... I guess.

Really? Did u even read what u posted? Shows u know nothing about sexuality! Vibrator n lubricator shey....y not fabricator too! Smh!

unlimitedgrace4:
v been married for almost 4yrs...we are blessed wt 2 preety girls..bt for d past 3 and halt tears my sexual life is not encouraging.i av.never been wet b4 sex,not for once talkless of orgasm...each time we make luv,most times i pretend to be enjoying it...to be fair to my hisband he has really tried...he romances me,show me luv,envourages me bt nothing meaningful is happening...no matter hw much he toyrches me i hardly get moved....i tot things wl change after child birth but i was wrong...just last week my hubby dropped d bombshel....he told me he had kept quiet 4 all dis years just becos he hope things wl changed...he told me he had not been enjoying his sexual life wt me...and asked me if i do enjoy it,he want to kno if hes d problem...i told him no dat i do not...he almost broke down in tears...av seeked medial help bt no result...am scared he mite start.an affair wt anoda lady soon....he told me he had resulted to porn in d last 3yrs,and dats y he always lock his videos,just bvos he dnt want to have extral marital affairs...he said if things dosent improve b4 our 4th yr anniversary,he wl be force to seek divorce...pls pple,help me...someone advice me to join nairaland,dat i culd find solution

Get Dates, Coconut, Ginger and Ayah. I don't know its name in English sha! blend them together and drink.. repeat morning and night and please be patient. u will surely get result

Nma27:
The Libidoral effects of sPanish fly amongst women and its disadvantages...#ShortThesis

I'm interested in the research

dreamwords:
That's y I keep saying, any guy that's banging my wife to be in the future should remain small juice for me na, please don't dry it all abeg, easy on her

lols, like 5liters of juice abi?

There are many problems here
1) Not enjoying sex
2) Issues with orgasms
3) husband not enjoying sex
4) vaginal dryness
5) worried about your husband straying
When intercourse moves from being a sharing of intimacy into the role of obligation it's time to actually talk frankly. Do you actually make time for him? You mentioned all that he does for you but what do you do for him? Do you do any pre-intimacy? Change positions? You also have to want your husband you know he has feelings too! It's taking a threat of divorce to get you to seek help? Do you love him? Or are you in love with the idea of being married?
Have you ever masturbated? If you have not learnt how to lower your inhibitions you will struggle to enjoy being intimate.

STFUareyouGod:
Stay in the rain

You sir, are so fücking smart.

unlimitedgrace4:
v been married for almost 4yrs...we are blessed wt 2 preety girls..bt for d past 3 and halt tears my sexual life is not encouraging.i av.never been wet b4 sex,not for once talkless of orgasm...each time we make luv,most times i pretend to be enjoying it...to be fair to my hisband he has really tried...he romances me,show me luv,envourages me bt nothing meaningful is happening...no matter hw much he toyrches me i hardly get moved....i tot things wl change after child birth but i was wrong...just last week my hubby dropped d bombshel....he told me he had kept quiet 4 all dis years just becos he hope things wl changed...he told me he had not been enjoying his sexual life wt me...and asked me if i do enjoy it,he want to kno if hes d problem...i told him no dat i do not...he almost broke down in tears...av seeked medial help bt no result...am scared he mite start.an affair wt anoda lady soon....he told me he had resulted to porn in d last 3yrs,and dats y he always lock his videos,just bvos he dnt want to have extral marital affairs...he said if things dosent improve b4 our 4th yr anniversary,he wl be force to seek divorce...pls pple,help me...someone advice me to join nairaland,dat i culd find solution

are u circumcised ?

Masikay:


You sir, are so fücking smart.

you ma, are quick and fast