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Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by bebrief(m): 2:40pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
michelin89: If you're a married woman (with kids) and your primary responsibility is not the upbringing of your children, then you've failed!!! michelin89: If each one of us can invest some of our time in addressing even the least of societal ills, then we'll be making the world a better place for generations yet unborn. Think about this. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Nobody: 2:42pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
Even in marriage, it's up to the couple to decide. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 2:51pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
You are prolly right. However where I come from, Families play a big role in marriage. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by bebrief(m): 2:53pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
michelin89: Your primary responsibility is your primary responsibility. Be it delegated to a housemaid, your husband or whoever; as a married woman you MUST know it's your primary responsibility. You must know this. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by lexandra(f): 3:10pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
ny |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Nwogeneugo: 4:00pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
i have heard of people talking about equality between the man and woman, that is not true, i am the head of my home. my wife is not a slave, and me being the head does not make me a dictator, but the buck stops on my table;- no argument about that. If a man or woman does not accept this basic fact in a marriage then no work done, it is all in futility. the world is evolving and if a couple feel easy with the wife bearing her father's name with the man's no sweat BUT it is not the woman's right and should be done only with mutual discussion and consent. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by londoner: 4:07pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
bebrief: Be brief, my Grandfather had four daughters and FIVE Sons. My own father had FIVE daughters, NO boys. If none of my sisters keep my fathers name, how will my fathers name survive? You answer me that. It was a particular fear of my father that his name will die out, I will hopefully prevent that from happening. My mother is not wrong for taking my fathers name, and I will also take my husbands name ALONGSIDE my fathers. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Nobody: 4:10pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
Why should I even be talking about a culture that isn't mine. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Knight1(m): 7:08pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
@londoner the name's still going to 'die out' since your ( and sis') children will bear their fathers' name. So taking the name for preservation?, hmmmmn, no point to it. @poster Name is a decision couple z gonna have to make. together!!! |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by londoner: 7:56pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
@Knight, the double barrelled name will be passed on to my children. If keeping your own fathers name is so important to you, why do you think nothing of another mans name simply dying out? What is wrong with a woman trying to do for her own father what you wish to do for your own? A hyphenated name still represents the names of both fathers, what can be more fair than that? |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by allycat: 9:29pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
All those men shouting submission are the same ones who expect their wives to shoulder responsibilities that used to be just for men in those days. If you want the woman to act like 'our mothers' then please act like your fathers. Make sure you can pay the rent without her contributions, pay school fees promptly and take care of feeding the family by yourself. Then you can come and play lord of the manor and rule over your wife and ask for submission like she is your servant. But if you want a partner to contribute to building your home, expect that she may have some desires that may be different from yours. Not every wman wants to retain her fathers name and not every man cares what his wife answers. Leave it to individual couples to decide and stop taking panadol for other peoples headaches. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 10:44pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
My last name is so unique man. I must bear it!!! With or without a hyphen. Why should women ditch their papa's name nau? It's just a name anyway. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Pharoh: 10:53pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
^^ Its our culture and tradition nau , I no go marry you again oo if you insist. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 10:56pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
Pharoh: Beats me to it. Bia Kellorah I no wan hia such 'westernism' from ya again. OK?! |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 11:04pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
LOL!!! Mehn, bone tradition I shall bear my last name. . . even if I have to die unmarried. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 11:11pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
kellorah: Hmm. . .*keeping that in mind, for emphasis* |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 11:12pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
LOL! Keep keeping it. I know I wont die unmarried sha, but yeah, I gasta keep my family name. It's not something you see everyday like John or Musa lol |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 11:21pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
kellorah: Isha Allah. Albeit nowadays uglier ladies get married quicker than |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Pharoh: 11:23pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
kellorah: Your brothers will keep the name but you have to bear my own unique name that i have not found anywhere in the world. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 11:27pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
^^Ol' Boi dat girl carry fire oo! You sure say u fit quench 'am. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 11:30pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
Pharoh:You haven't even found it and u want me to bear it?! I will help my bros in preserving the name. koolchicco:LMAO!! Mary K enhanced. . . . Yeah, some ugly chicks get married before fine ones. . personality+looks included in "fine", BTW. God will provide sha, when the time comes. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 11:31pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
koolchicco:LOL! GINI?! Which fire?! Hmm!! Thnx. But, where u been see me, or my pics? |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Pharoh: 11:40pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
koolchicco: Guy tell me if there is any missing info ooo kellorah: My bad i just googled it and it is not unique oo but anyway it is not so popular in the Nigerian setting sha Dear you are getting stubborn i said you bear mine and your brother will keep the other one Baby the time is already here staring you on the face so grab it nau |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 11:43pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
LOL!! Even if u kill a cow for me, I will not ditch my last name. I can pity for u small and add hyphen, and then urs. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 11:47pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
I'm so slow!! 4got my pic was in my profile. . . .ARGHH!! Not anymore sha. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 11:51pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
kellorah: Wat a merciless Sister I got here! Pharoh: Since u're already staring her on the face I bet will be able to figure it out better. At least proximity counts! |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 11:52pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
kellorah: 69 secs late, Sister! Already on my archives. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 11:54pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
Damn!! |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 11:58pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
Me smarter, that is. *clapping hands* In safe hands, No worries. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by kellorah: 11:59pm On Nov 20, 2009 |
LOL!! Nah, not really. . . . I just 4got. |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by koolchicco: 12:03am On Nov 21, 2009 |
A stitch in time I was taught in school, save[b]d[/b] my 9 Ndo, Kpele, Soz! |
Re: Why do Nigerian Women Bear Their Father's Name, After Marriage? by Pharoh: 12:21am On Nov 21, 2009 |
^^ Guy i did not stitch her face on time but you know the Bible says . . . . kellorah: All these while that we have been dating, haven't you realized that i am a very proud african man . I will not settle for less when it comes to my tradition and You see i have a very big farm , infact i have the largest farm in nairaland. I am very hardworking and rich. I will take care of you very well and provide for all your needs so what else do you want?. Just answer my name because i am not ready to accommodate another ikemba in my house |
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