Exercising one's anger is as a result of impatience, sometimes one having run out of patience owing to some incessantly infuriating acts by someone else.

There are different kinda human beings based on temperament and ability to manage emotion, we have different elastic limits, some people take anything thrown at them, you have to sweat before you make them furious, you get angry because they don't get angry because of bad thing you've deliberately done to them. Some get angry reasonably and at reasonable time while some get angry too easily, you don't have to infuriate them before they get angry, that you become careful with the way you relate with them, believe me it doesn't have a thing to do with what one's gender is.

I usually hold on to a belief that a man should not lay hands on his wife, I've seen and heard men do it and I tag that act irresponsible, yes irresponsible, so I tell myself, myself a bachelor who hasn't had a wife before, whether a responsible one or not, loyal or not, submissive or not, never had one. I'm a strong believer of this religion but I always forget I've not practiced it yet, so it's pretty easy for me to judge. In the meantime, I ask myself if it is every man who beats his wife is not responsible, all of them? No, this can't be, things happen that good people go bad, something must be fishing, vague to outsiders, to us.

I've got to know some unacceptable things that women do that one should not just criticize men's reaction to, one thing that hurts honest men is when their wives are not honest to them. Infidelity, Stella, a lady from Warri was married to a Soldier man, who gave her all she wanted, but Stella would see guys outside secretly having sex with them because her husband wasn't always with her, the man got to know, he hurt and felt bad and divorced her, he could not beat her because he would lose his job if he did. Stella wept a lot but got over it, luckily for her, she found a new man who works in oil company. Stella boldly told him he didn't hit her well, out of concern, the man went to ask what he could do to it, someone recommended "Spike Viagra", a drug that aids man's efficiency, she started enjoying her husband, she became happy and so did the man. Unfortunately, the man started seeing the side effect of this drug, they told him to stop using it and he did, problem then began, she started lying to him that she wanted to travel to see her parents but spending those days in another man's place for sexual satisfaction, it really got the man sad when he caught her and ever since, he's started beating her, even in the presence of her child. My uncle's wife, she used to see a lawyer man, I'd seen her with the man many times but I didn't understand their relationship, she was caught the day someone saw her in Osogbo with the same lawyer man, he told my uncle about it, my uncle immediately called her and she lied she was in Ibadan, he didn't do anything, but he told my mum about it, mum told him to be patient but he ran outta patient when he caught her red handed, she received an incriminating message on my uncle's phone she forgot to delete, she first denied it but when they checked her phone, the number wasn't strange to her, the number was saved with a name, she could not explain who the man was and my uncle did what he hadn't done in his life, he beat a woman, I was surprised so much, this woman I'm talking about is his second wife, he never argues with the first wife let alone beating her. He could not take it, he had had a hunch about this but he just did not want to accuse her of what he did not catch her do but it wasn't easy for him to be silent.

What would I do if it were me? I don't know but maybe I would seek annulment, maybe I would file a divorce, honestly I can't stand it, sleeping in the same bed with her knowing another man also sleeps with her? To me, that's the only offense in a marriage that is unforgivable, especially when there is supposedly love bond between them.

When you run outta patience, you do the unbelievable, you go rogue, it's not you anymore, the good guy in you has now gone bad and brute, you do what you don't do. Some people then say you are irresponsible, they don't say your wife may have hurt your feelings.

The truth is not every man wants divorce for a woman's cheating, some think they need a mother for their children, but they make sure they make you pay for this deed, beating is the only thing that satisfies them. You see these days many women come out to say their husbands beat them but none will tell you what she does to have angered him.

I am not tryna judge any of them but just tryna correct the notion that all men who beat their wives are irresponsible because if you really understood what we call psychology, you wouldn't find it difficult to believe that when a human being loses it, he or she does anything to satisfy him or herself. If we have veterans who want to explain better, be my guest.

Hmmmm....oro lo so.
You really speak d truth.

Whizpeter:
Nigerian Girls/Ladies/Women would push you to the wall and still expect you to do nothing...

I'm not the type that beat women but sometimes, I don't blame those who do.. Not everybody can be patient all the time...

The most annoying of them all, is those that would start to beat you first and still expect you to do nothing just because they're the 'weaker sex'.

Women

My opinion shouldn't matter because I've never been married but I detest the habit of hitting your wife like a punch-bag. It doesn't make any sense when there are other ways to deal with her.

I happen to understand your point a lot and it has altered my notion of such cases. I'll need to contribute when I'll have something reasonable.



Thanks for the insight

Tajbol4splend:
Exercising one's anger is as a result of impatience, sometimes one having run out of patience owing to some incessantly infuriating acts by someone else.

There are different kinda human beings based on temperament and ability to manage emotion, we have different elastic limits, some people take anything thrown at them, you have to sweat before you make them furious, you get angry because they don't get angry because of bad thing you've deliberately done to them. Some get angry reasonably and at reasonable time while some get angry too easily, you don't have to infuriate them before they get angry, that you become careful with the way you relate with them, believe me it doesn't have a thing to do with what one's gender is.

I usually hold on to a belief that a man should not lay hands on his wife, I've seen and heard men do it and I tag that act irresponsible, yes irresponsible, so I tell myself, myself a bachelor who hasn't had a wife before, whether a responsible one or not, loyal or not, submissive or not, never had one. I'm a strong believer of this religion but I always forget I've not practiced it yet, so it's pretty easy for me to judge. In the meantime, I ask myself if it is every man who beats his wife is not responsible, all of them? No, this can't be, things happen that good people go bad, something must be fishing, vague to outsiders, to us.

I've got to know some unacceptable things that women do that one should not just criticize men's reaction to, one thing that hurts honest men is when their wives are not honest to them. Infidelity, Stella, a lady from Warri was married to a Soldier man, who gave her all she wanted, but Stella would see guys outside secretly having sex with them because her husband wasn't always with her, the man got to know, he hurt and felt bad and divorced her, he could not beat her because he would lose his job if he did. Stella wept a lot but got over it, luckily for her, she found a new man who works in oil company. Stella boldly told him he didn't hit her well, out of concern, the man went to ask what he could do to it, someone recommended "Spike Viagra", a drug that aids man's efficiency, she started enjoying her husband, she became happy and so did the man. Unfortunately, the man started seeing the side effect of this drug, they told him to stop using it and he did, problem then began, she started lying to him that she wanted to travel to see her parents but spending those days in another man's place for sexual satisfaction, it really got the man sad when he caught her and ever since, he's started beating her, even in the presence of her child. My uncle's wife, she used to see a lawyer man, I'd seen her with the man many times but I didn't understand their relationship, she was caught the day someone saw her in Osogbo with the same lawyer man, he told my uncle about it, my uncle immediately called her and she lied she was in Ibadan, he didn't do anything, but he told my mum about it, mum told him to be patient but he ran outta patient when he caught her red handed, she received an incriminating message on my uncle's phone she forgot to delete, she first denied it but when they checked her phone, the number wasn't strange to her, the number was saved with a name, she could not explain who the man was and my uncle did what he hadn't done in his life, he beat a woman, I was surprised so much, this woman I'm talking about is his second wife, he never argues with the first wife let alone beating her. He could not take it, he had had a hunch about this but he just did not want to accuse her of what he did not catch her do but it wasn't easy for him to be silent.

What would I do if it were me? I don't know but maybe I would seek annulment, maybe I would file a divorce, honestly I can't stand it, sleeping in the same bed with her knowing another man also sleeps with her? To me, that's the only offense in a marriage that is unforgivable, especially when there is supposedly love bond between them.

When you run outta patience, you do the unbelievable, you go rogue, it's not you anymore, the good guy in you has now gone bad and brute, you do what you don't do. Some people then say you are irresponsible, they don't say your wife may have hurt your feelings.

The truth is not every man wants divorce for a woman's cheating, some think they need a mother for their children, but they make sure they make you pay for this deed, beating is the only thing that satisfies them. You see these days many women come out to say their husbands beat them but none will tell you what she does to have angered him.

I am not tryna judge any of them but just tryna correct the notion that all men who beat their wives are irresponsible because if you really understood what we call psychology, you wouldn't find it difficult to believe that when a human being loses it, he or she does anything to satisfy him or herself. If we have veterans who want to explain better, be my guest.

any man who beats his wife has little or no respect for her and never loved her,I will never beat my wife(NYM) ,BECAUSE I SEE HER AS MY EQUAL.

Greenbullet:
any man who beats his wife has little or no respect for her and never loved her,I will never beat my wife(NYM) ,BECAUSE I SEE HER AS MY EQUAL.

If your wife sleeps with another man, does she see you as her equal?

I believe beating women should be done wth the dick and not wth fist

Tajbol4splend:


If your wife sleeps with another man, does she see you as her equal?

I Dont need to beat her ,I have controlled my anger on MORE COMPLEX ISSUES,one thing in life you should know is that every problem has a solution. ,if she cheats well ,the solution is to quickly divorce her with evidence and marry another, no woman is worth dying for. and if your children ask you "where is mommy", you simply tell them your mommy is a cheating Bītch, and please Dont talk to her.

Low orientation

Will you beat up a soldier out of frustration?

Greenbullet:
I Dont need to beat her ,I have controlled my anger on MORE COMPLEX ISSUES,one thing in life you should know is that every problem has a solution. ,if she cheats well ,the solution is to quickly divorce her with evidence and marry another, no woman is worth dying for. and if your children ask you "where is mommy", you simply tell them your mommy is a cheating Bītch, and please Dont talk to her.

Well it's not right to tell that to kids, it has psychological effects on them.

Tajbol4splend:


Well it's not right to tell that to kids, it has psychological effects on them.

it will if you tell them when they are not ready tell them when they are 18,they will understand.

Op, on no grounds should you justify a man who beats women...indeed such men are irresponsible, they felt the urge to remind these women that they're men.

Whenever a man tries too hard to prove to his wife that he's a man means he stopped being a man long ago.

Like you haven't seen those ones who have turned their wives to punching bags for unreasonable reasons.

Must you beat her when she errs?, send her back to her parents if found cheating unbeaten, and her concious will prick her.

Benita27:
Op, on no grounds should you justify a man who beats women...indeed such men are irresponsible, they felt the urge to remind these women that they're men.

Whenever a man tries too hard to prove to his wife that he's a man means he stopped being a man long ago.

Like you haven't seen those ones who have turned their wives to punching bags for unreasonable reasons.

Must you beat her when she errs?, send her back to her parents if found cheating unbeaten, and her concious will prick her.

You probably didn't read the post or not understand it

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Tajbol4splend:


You probably didn't read the post or not understand it

My dear!, i did read it and i could deduce you were making excuses for men who beat their wives and how the women bring out the beast in such men.

I think on no grounds should a man beat his wife.

Benita27:
Op, on no grounds should you justify a man who beats women...indeed such men are irresponsible, they felt the urge to remind these women that they're men.

And how is that bad thing? Sometimes, some women need to be put in their place. You disrespect me while acting all crazy, bītch I hit you across the face on a bad day. No apologies, maybe I get to pet u later.
Don't just sit there judging married men, like Taj clearly stated in his excellent post, because you got no clue.
Mind you, some wives deliberately provoke their husbands into hitting them. Women can be crazy.

CorGier:


And how is that bad thing? Sometimes, some women need to be put in their place. You disrespect me while acting all crazy, bītch I hit you across the face on a bad day. No apologies, maybe I get to pet u later.
Don't just sit there judging married men, like Taj clearly stated in his excellent post, because you got no clue.
Mind you, some wives deliberately provoke their husbands into hitting them. Women can be crazy.

What's the ratio of men who hit women to those who wouldn't?, once a man hits his woman it clearly states he has psychological issues and may need rehab.

Mind you, not all women stand such obnoxious men, whether she provoked him deliberately or not, hitting shouldn't be an option...inculcate the habit of not laying a hand on your woman, apologising later doesn't stop the fact that you won't do it again.

Tajbol4splend:


If your wife sleeps with another man, does she see you as her equal?

Is this even the worse thing your wife could do to you? What if she steals the documents to your property, and sells every last thing and clears your account(s) ,I'm sure you'll kill her. There's no justification for hitting a lady, the way some men even beat women sef, and for no reason in most cases, is just wrong.

Benita27:
What's the ratio of men who hit women to those who wouldn't?, once a man hits his woman it clearly states he has psychological issues and may need rehab.

Mind you, not all women stand such obnoxious men, whether she provoked him deliberately or not, hitting shouldn't be an option...inculcate the habit of not laying a hand on your woman, apologising later doesn't stop the fact that you won't do it again.

Really? Hmmm.
Benie, all this wan you're saying is just not practical.
It takes two to tango, someplace, somewhere in the Bible even, there is a verse advising wives to desist from provoking their husbands. I'm no marriage counsellor, but I doubt any sane man would wake up one day and just go all Mike Tyson on his wife.

I know some women can be annoying, they apparently push their men to the wall and what not, but you shouldn't hit her. If she annoys you that much break up with her or divorce, if she cheats on you divorce her. She is not a cow, even some animals don't get the beating some men give their wives or girlfriends, it's just animalistic no matter what.

I always pray that I never end up with a man that would even slap me, Howmuch more beat me black and blue. I remember this one time I was dating this guy, he didn't even hit me, he just really shouted at me and threatened to slap me, needless to say that was the last time he saw me. Instead of me to become someone's punching bag, I'd rather be single for all time

Ladies out there going through this predicament, please summon up the courage and energy to walk away from that kind of hellish relationship, it's not love, no matter what he says. A man that truly loves you would never think of hitting you let alone do it.

CorGier:


Really? Hmmm.
Benie, all this wan you're saying is just not practical.
It takes two to tango, someplace, somewhere in the Bible even, there is a verse advising wives to desist from provoking their husbands. I'm no marriage counsellor, but I doubt any sane man would wake up one day and just go all Mike Tyson on his wife.

Is very practical, some men are doing very well in marriages, i believe it starts with the right mindset. We don't even know when we provoke the people we love, it just happens at times, and even if it's deliberate 'beating' shouldn't even cross a man's mind.

Benita27:
My dear!, i did read it and i could deduce you were making excuses for men who beat their wives and how the women bring out the beast in such men.

I think on no grounds should a man beat his wife.

Apparently I wasn't

ButterFrost212:

Is this even the worse thing your wife could do to you? What if she steals the documents to your property, and sells every last thing and clears your account(s) ,I'm sure you'll kill her. There's no justification for hitting a lady, the way some men even beat women sef, and for no reason in most cases, is just wrong.

You are a lady so it's always gonna be easy for you to say that

Thrash!!!.... On no ground should a Man beat up his wives.... I mean his Wives.... Better half.... No matter Wat!!!!