So theres this girl i really love now. I met her 2years ago and since then she has been perfectly awesome to me. I enjoy the time we spend and since i started dating her ive stopped jumping from one girl to another and cheating on my relationships and have now fully become focused on my dreams and aspirations because not only because of her constant advices but for some reason she just makes me a better person.
The thing is right now i may not be getting married until like atleast 3years time but the fact is that whether consciously or unconsciously, i already see myself with her.
Anyway,the thing with my girlfriend is that shes not like the most friendly person. Not like she hates peoples company its just that shes the silent type that mostly aspires to be among people shes really close to and funny thing, i also have this problem, if i may call it that. Even with my own family , i like keeping to myself and dont really talk much like the rest
Anyway my girlfriend met my family but my dad has been complaining about the fact that he doesnt like our union because of her character. That she doesnt care and all and he knows for a fact that she would be the kind of person to steal me away and not make me close to my family in the future. And to note, this ish started when he noticed that she calls him like few times a month even though he always wants to be hearing from her like maybe once or twice a week cuz in his own view - he claims that would show she has not only me in mind but the extended family in mind.
Ive spoken to her about it but shes not just the kind that does things like dat cuz from her view that is basically acting fake wich is not really her intentions as she just want everyone to know her realself.
This may not be a big problem for others and i dont have any intention of leaving her because considering our relationship i can dare boast that im a better person since i met her and that i am truly happy. Everyone on earth loves everything about her except my parents who think shes not the family kind that cares. And this bothers me a lot because I actually would have loved if they saw things my way. And im constantly wondering how it would be if we end up together and ny folks are still this way.

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On a serious Note. You dont have any issue here. I think you need to talk to your parents. In my opinion she should be the one worried about the attitude and expectations from your folks.
on Your part too. I suggest you start training your mind to live your life and start your own family. if not, i see a very strong family influence on your marriage in future. ARE YOU THE LAST ?Dont Ruin what you have.

She should be able to tweak somethings, it wouldn't hurt. Let them see her in a different way, by proving their assertion wrong.

Acting is part of our livies cos life is a stage. She has to bend some rules, she can't win all the time.



She should try to be more friendly.



You too, set boundaries, decide on your own

Bro, they are your parents .if they didnt give birth to you,there is no way she would ever see you to date. Somehow somehow,this parents have a way of detecting a problem even before it becomes a problem. Your dad probably wants her to be more open and not keep to her self. Since you can't leave her ,you should try to make her less conservative towards your parents .

She should start calling your dad every week o... There's nothing to it. Being all nice and good doesn't guarantee that she'll maintain that character after marriage. Op its your relationship, u know her best.

Hian...... Bro, when you finally gather the cheddar, and you're ready to marrey, story go change. Your case na small thing biko

those dat aff commented already said it all


let it not look as if i didn't comment

From the way I see it, you don't have a problem. Most likely, your dad doesn't get the fact that people have different temperaments. So explain things to your dad and tell him to be patient with her.
On your girlfriend's part, a little compromise is needed. You should probably visit home more with your girl and get her to call more often. For some people, forming a new relationship is hard for them. That's the group I feel your girlfriend belong to.
All the best! Hope it helps.

Emmy2009:
So theres this girl i really love now. I met her 2years ago and since then she has been perfectly awesome to me. I enjoy the time we spend and since i started dating her ive stopped jumping from one girl to another and cheating on my relationships and have now fully become focused on my dreams and aspirations because not only because of her constant advices but for some reason she just makes me a better person.
The thing is right now i may not be getting married until like atleast 3years time but the fact is that whether consciously or unconsciously, i already see myself with her.
Anyway,the thing with my girlfriend is that shes not like the most friendly person. Not like she hates peoples company its just that shes the silent type that mostly aspires to be among people shes really close to and funny thing, i also have this problem, if i may call it that. Even with my own family , i like keeping to myself and dont really talk much like the rest
Anyway my girlfriend met my family but my dad has been complaining about the fact that he doesnt like our union because of her character. That she doesnt care and all and he knows for a fact that she would be the kind of person to steal me away and not make me close to my family in the future. And to note, this ish started when he noticed that she calls him like few times a month even though he always wants to be hearing from her like maybe once or twice a week cuz in his own view - he claims that would show she has not only me in mind but the extended family in mind.
Ive spoken to her about it but shes not just the kind that does things like dat cuz from her view that is basically acting fake wich is not really her intentions as she just want everyone to know her realself.
This may not be a big problem for others and i dont have any intention of leaving her because considering our relationship i can dare boast that im a better person since i met her and that i am truly happy. Everyone on earth loves everything about her except my parents who think shes not the family kind that cares. And this bothers me a lot because I actually would have loved if they saw things my way. And im constantly wondering how it would be if we end up together and ny folks are still this way.

Please comment

She's an introvert....dating an introvert is one herculean task you 've got to deal with...you nor your parents can't change her...like she said, if she starts doing what your parents are asking her to do she might be faking her real personality....and from the way you are sounding, i think you are a typical introvert too...the earlier your parents and you know this the better for you cos ditching her at this point cos she doesn't call frequently ain't just enough good reason...introverts hardly call...they are too reserved people...it is worst if the both of you are introverts...so' deal with it.

kunlesufyan:
Bro, they are your parents .if they didnt give birth to you,there is no way she would ever see you to date. Somehow somehow,this parents have a way of detecting a problem even before it becomes a problem. Your dad probably wants her to be more open and not keep to her self. Since you can't leave her ,you should try to make her less conservative towards your parents .

keep kwayet, parents are also humans and they can make error of judgement

Lol.....your father wants her to call him everyday....abeg for what?

The lady is just like me.....no time for unnecessary talks
..at least she's a good lady as you have said,do you want a lousy lady?what else do you want sef?...the lady is okay,just tell your parents things they don't know about her,tell them she's the shy type,she's an introvert...explain to them...abi na your parents go help you run your family?

Paulpaulpaul:
Acting is part of our livies cos life is a stage. She has to bend some rules, she can't win all the time.



She should try to be more friendly.



You too, set boundaries, decide on your own

For how long? I know she comes out rude but trust me, that's how she is programmed. There is nothing you can do, you just have to let ur parents understand.

firstking01:
She's an introvert....dating an introvert is one herculean task you've got to deal with...you nor your parents can't change her...like she said, if she starts doing what your parents are asking her to do she might be faking her real personality....and from the way you are sounding, i think you are a typical introvert too...the earlier your parents and you know this the better for you cos ditching her at this point cos she doesn't call frequently ain't just enough good reason...introverts hardly call...they are too reserved people...it is worst if the both of you are introverts...so' deal with it.

At the embolden, all fallacy.