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Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Brightology2(m): 9:46pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
adonbilivit: 1 Like
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Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Nobody: 9:46pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
I once told my lecturer friend "sir How are you" one time and the reaction was not funny at all... I felt because his my lecturer and we cool I could relate with him on a good platform. And he was like "you don't ask your elders "how are you " and that it's disrespectful. But the funny thing is that I say I say that to my dad and he responds well to me and even want to share things about himself. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Divay22(f): 9:47pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Hehehe..you can only say that when the Elder person is sick o, except they'll say you're disrespectful......... But i tell my family members thou,most especially my mum 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by AlwaysUltraPad: 9:47pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Origin:oh my God ! I just got an Nigerian interpretation for "my dear". Where's that dami krane's song(my dear) sef. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by adonbilivit: 9:48pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Zico5:wetin make you think say you get tribal marks pass me? |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by adodofemi(m): 9:49pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
xynerise:With Sir or Ma, it might sound a little bit normal but not the right thing to say to an elderly person especially in a Yoruba home. Nonetheless, shey alafia ni Sir/Ma sound better. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by ziga: 10:01pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
It is not by force to speak English. The people that created the language are not offended by the phrase "how are you" If it offends non-English speaking people, avoid communicating in that "disrespectful language" And let us stick to our highly respectful Epele saaah. On a side note, it is funny how Nigerians talk about respect, especially because President Buhari is around 70 and people who are not even half his age are so disrespectful when they talk about him. Or even our past Presidents. Hypocrisy in our culture 3 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by superflystan(m): 10:01pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
it's uncomplimentry considering the Africa culture of respect for elders |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Ugosample(m): 10:02pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Amongst Igbo people it is not considered disrepect tho... I ask my older relatives that ALL the time But cultures differ |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Coolgent(m): 10:07pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
presskid:Chai some culture . |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by lionson(m): 10:19pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
How can you be asking an elder how are you? I can see your brain need formatting. It is unafrican in every sense. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by OlujobaSamuel: 10:28pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
i remembered the first time my boss used "xup" for me on phone, he said he said "sam, xup na, aw va, aw ur side", i was like wtf, i no sabi wetin to talk cuz we been dey always formal, i had to drop call adjust my ears, check my sitting, before i called back, the thing just sound somehow as at then but we don dey roll wella for that kind parole now. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Abdstrakt(m): 10:28pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Rilwayne001:This is exactly how I say it, and there has never been a problem, at least not yet. Maybe one of this days I'll conveniently forget to put sir at the end and let me see what will happen. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Phemmy82: 10:29pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
In Yoruba land you can merely say "How are you sir or ma"...to elderly person,but anything aside that, the next you will hear is "Abi pabè ômô gbogbo" |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by abbeyty(m): 10:31pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
imagine a country where everyone blows grammar more than the queen still don't know what how are you means, they forgot that oyinbo language no get respect |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by krauss: 10:34pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
xynerise:Just stereotype. I have 'toddlers' and 'children' around who even call me by my name while talking to me. Once one is able to grow over these stereotypes, he or she will find it easy to let go certain things. We have been imbued with some of these things, and I always seek to independently rationalize which is best for me and presumably, the society. Some times, acting like a maverick makes a lot of sense. My uncle who stays in the UK once picked offence with this same thing when the would-be daughter-in law conversing with him on phone asked him, how are you? ifugo nu ka osi di. BTW, another one is, must you close your eyes while praying? |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by mechanics(m): 10:36pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Nothing is wrong o, atleast u respect them when saying it, its mostly done during greetings. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Dnockeror333(m): 10:41pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Why should I hear that from a minor/junior and not pick a greeting-querry with his teeth? It mean he or she had began picking trouble because of what he or she learnt about you. Common jawww, that junior brain need to be sent queitly to his place:- QUEITNESS! Do not even look in his direction any more! Even if an elderly person whom I greet retorted with "how are you..." These questions will beat my heart backward from such thoughtless soul:- -Was I sick or hungary that I greeted you? - And if I tell you my health, what would you do? - If you can do something then you may have put my confidence back to satiation, but come, who would do this everytime? Hence in ny thought, I'll bite my heart, I will promise my spirit to never greet that elder again. Only by mistake would I do it. It may mean that you are not important to them. You know? Foolishness came forward after thoughtlessness; When we do not think of what we do, or when we were not brought up in right way from infant craddles. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Dnockeror333(m): 10:52pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
[img][/img] SUMMARY OF POSTULATION: The thing is that every personality have their likes and dislikes. They know their good use toward elders and, bad use toward them. For a fecund agemate who stood by the mainroad with hand raised up to your old pal in greeting, without bowing nor anyother sign of honour, is nothing but a street discipline wise, an undiscipline child. Greeting is either dishonourable or honourable, respectful or disrespectful. Lets put everything according to The African Senility. THIS IS AFRICAN. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by richard870(m): 10:58pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
Thats where the 'SIR' AND 'MA' thing comes in Only applies to yorubas.Others dont really see no biggy in it, especially the 'indonesian' tribe in Nigeria |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by solidman59(m): 10:59pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
I don't see anything wrong in it. Ppl are different sha, but every reasonable person should be able to respond to that without feeling disrespected. It's a simple question and shows care so why? Truth is, na we hold ourselves. Simple stuff like these shouldn't even be an issue, it's just that in this part of the world, we kinda over define respect and so many other things |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by chiraqDemon(m): 11:00pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
They prefer if u ask How is everything But if u ask how r u na wahala |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by MurderX: 11:08pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
xynerise:Dont be deceived, it is not an african thing. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by tosyne2much(m): 11:15pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
tomieyRozay:Hahaha Well done ooo baba |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by dingbang(m): 11:20pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
I tell u say Nigeria don expire |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Sman37(m): 11:27pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
steppin:Good but u wont bab their sort of hair style, dirty dressing and worst of it africans bleaching the skin just to be like white just too embarrassing mtsweee!! |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Nobody: 11:29pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
English language is not ours, some sentences might sound funny when translated to Yoruba. it is so appalling that we are losing our heritage by coping anything western, Asians don't speak English , yet they are far ahead in technological and societal development. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by tosyne2much(m): 11:34pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
isarumah:Can you just imagine? Oga oooo |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by tosyne2much(m): 11:40pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
krauss:The truth of the matter is that we are so much respect personified in this part of the world yet we are the less enlightened and rural |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Lilcentt(f): 11:55pm On Jan 25, 2017 |
What is respect?
Respect is money and money is power
If you don't have money you can't hvae power and you don't deserve respect!!!
Make money!!! Or else I will call your grand papa nigga and your father boy |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by modsRbastard: 12:26am On Jan 26, 2017 |
boborosky: Na come on you still see... It is only in Nigeria that "my friend!" is neither used in a pleasant nor friendly way. I.e Me: my friend! Let this be the first and the last time you ever step Foot in my compound. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by modsRbastard: 12:46am On Jan 26, 2017 |
ziga: Bro... I wonder why all this... I don't know who, wants to drive what's left of our culture into extinction. I'm telling you...if you tell a typical elite yoruba man "how are you?", expect no lesser repose than "yi o bà yá ę" (your mom must be silly), sé o nbón si ni abi oun gó si?(are you getting wiser or more retardedd?) and sé wón kó ę ni, abi o duró gba ékó (weren't you trained/cultured or you didn't wait to be trained/cultured). OP just don't try that thing with any Yoruba elder, it's Well indulged across the Niger. 1 Like |
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