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Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by DrogoG(m): 1:39am On Jan 26, 2017 |
xynerise: Only illiterates are offended by that. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by LastProphet: 1:59am On Jan 26, 2017 |
how are u without a sir is a pure sign of disrespect whether in Nigeria or on planet mars, it is silly to think u can say how are u to both ur mates and ur seniors in the same way. try it once in a while with ur employer and u will learn a valuable lesson |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by practicalclass: 3:18am On Jan 26, 2017 |
Me: Goodmorning Sir Elder: Hmm hmm, morning Me: How are you doing today Sir (with a respectful smile) Elder: I'm good. Elder: Good morning my child. How are you today? Me: I'm doing okay Sir. And how about you Sir? XXXXXXXXXXXXXX Elder: Goodmorning Me: Morning. How are you? XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX It has to do with how respectfully you say it and the body language. I presume saying 'How are you', you mean well. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by amahthelma(f): 6:21am On Jan 26, 2017 |
presentation matters a lot some say the word 'how are you' carelessly without addressing it with a sign of respect so to me it doesn't mean a thing when an elderly person is been asked that. cause I say it most times with an iota of respect and lots of smiles |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by successinlife: 6:24am On Jan 26, 2017 |
steppin: Lies,which African culture?say few African culture instead.In Sierra Leone,Senegal,Kenya and even by ur nose in some part of Nigeria elders/seniors including uncles and sometimes parents are called by name,i don't want to start e-wars,do your findings before saying 'african culture'. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Nobody: 6:26am On Jan 26, 2017 |
DrogoG:Seconded |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Artistree: 7:00am On Jan 26, 2017 |
adonbilivit:Adonbilivit!!! |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Rickf(m): 7:09am On Jan 26, 2017 |
I am so glad for this topic and for some of the reasonable responses received. If am to comment i would say, everything is wrong with that. We are africans not americans that refer to their elderly ones by their first names like Mike, Jude, Stella, Lizzy, Richie, etc. Rather we are thought to use titles Uncle Mike, Aunty Stella, Mummy Joy(for elderly mothers), Papa, and to answer Sir, and Ma. etc African have their culture. No matter how far civilization takes us, it will be so hard to civilized this aspect. Language has a very big effect. There are better ways to ask an elderly person 'how are you' or use the word 'dear' as many do on facebook comments, than throwing it so sharply. Its belittling to an elder. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Nobody: 7:17am On Jan 26, 2017 |
The tone determines....I ask, so I know how they are faring. I ask my parent in law's ...e me la gi? And they gladly respond. It opens up communication about them. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by ChinonsoDike2: 8:24am On Jan 26, 2017 |
Africans like these dumb platitudes. Surprisingly, these "morals" haven't brought any semblance of advancement. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by chyket(m): 8:25am On Jan 26, 2017 |
If you add Sir or Ma to the how are you,it will nil off whatever reservations the elderly person may have |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Kobicove(m): 8:59am On Jan 26, 2017 |
I think it's more polite to say "How are you doing" when speaking to an older person. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Airoflaw(m): 9:34am On Jan 26, 2017 |
Baawaa:adding SIR/MA will make it sound respectful..e.g How are you sir or bawo ni sir |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by fingistan(m): 11:05am On Jan 26, 2017 |
This is Nigeria |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by dayold: 1:02pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
lordm:you get sense guy! |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Nobody: 1:22pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
If you guys like, you should get scientific proof that it is wrong. For me, when I talk with my mom, I am always going to ask her a delibrate "How are you?" after greeting, cos I always want to know how she is doing. She shouldnt be the only one concerned about how I am doing. 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Timelezz: 1:27pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
modsRbastard: Typically correct. "How are you" is a condescending form of greeting or reference. The greeting of course is borrowed form England and its usage knows no class or strata but the application in Nigeria is different. That's what most of our "Akata" brothers who like to appear more western than westerners don't get. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by modsRbastard: 2:14pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
Timelezz: My brother!, it weakens me when I see people like the OP. Just look at the picture below, this one possibly never pass Elegushi shore oo
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Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by Timelezz: 2:28pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
modsRbastard:That one has tribal bigotry in full swing. Don't be surprised he's the type who eats Garri with fork when he doesn't know there are many delicacies Westerners eat with their hands. And these ignoramuses think they are progressive when in reality they are losing their identity and uniqueness. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by sparkleRed(f): 3:01pm On Jan 26, 2017 |
No its not a sign of disrespect! The wrong tone is d sign of disrespect nt the word "how are you" I ask elders dat very well. E.g ah sir it's bin long, how are you? Aunty how are you na, have missed u oo No right thinking person will take offence, they simply answer me well and ask me same back. |
Re: What Is Wrong With Asking Our Elders "How Are You?" ? by kiddkash(m): 12:01am On May 20, 2020 |
adonbilivit:yes do not copy western culture too much |
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