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Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by BlackSeptember: 9:18pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by owji: 9:18pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Lizzyangel: My dear, issues like this is mostly spiritual to the detriment of you and your husband. Pray well for your husband. 2 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Nobody: 9:20pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
I think you should understand there dos and don't because since u said hubby can't rent an apartment till he builds his own house... But seriously, what kind of ancient tradition is that? 1 Like |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by owji: 9:20pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Lizzyangel: My dear, issues like this is mostly spiritual to the detriment of you and your husband. Pray well for your husband. |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Nobody: 9:21pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
All these annoying custom ish.....madam I guess you were aware of this custom b4 u agreed to marry him... Watz with d complain now?? 1 Like |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by whitemask(m): 9:21pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
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Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by ikp120(m): 9:21pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Abeg look for 50k house and rent. 3 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by zizz(f): 9:22pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Lizzyangel: It is practically impossible to do anything but pray,because frankly NOTHING you do will ever please them and if they are not godly people they will make your life a living hell,trust me, may God cause you to find favour and have a home of your own speedily. 2 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Pray(m): 9:23pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Enrol for an academic programme in a distance university and tell them u r moving to a hostel. Don't be deceived, other option is divorce. Thank me later after 2019 election. 3 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by afamaustin(m): 9:23pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
and who say u and ur husband cant rent apartment 2 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Abagworo(m): 9:26pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Marrying only son is not easy. Keep your home woman. 5 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Pray(m): 9:26pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
afamaustin:. The village traditional priest. 4 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by amokeme(f): 9:30pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
wow!.. must he build a house? how about renting? even if it is just one room, you guys should just try abeg. but how come this issue wasn't addressed before you got married? 2 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Elle277(f): 9:31pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
..and what is your husband doing about it? |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Nobody: 9:33pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
He who decides to swallow a whole coconut must make sure he has a trustworthy anus. 4 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by aameyah(f): 9:34pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Zico5: Na so. Always the woman to manage and manage. 4 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Gemc3(f): 9:35pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
angelTI: It happens. A Lot more than you think |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Harinholar(f): 9:36pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Just try to love every member of that family.... Tho am not in your shoes I don't knw how tough the war is....But love covers everything in life...d more u love dem the less dey offend you...And besides make your husband your best friend @diz moment,give time for discussion and above all PRAY about it and God wll help you..... 2 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by mark2sunny(m): 9:36pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Can't you guys relocate? You can control this spiritually Mind you it never has been pretty anywhere except you come from a rich home and they depend on you financially. Am a father and a husband. Marriage involves moving from parents to create your own home, else you are not completely married. Even your own parents would want to control your life. Pray until that yoke is broken. Satan uses things like this to make people perpetually unhappy. Let you and you husband reach an agreement. Though it becomes a bit difficult when your husband does not have a mind of his own and when he partly or fully depends on the resources of his parents. Am not too close to my parents because I run my home. If a man can't make decisions like this then it's gonna be a bit hard. Couples are supposed to live outside influences and distractions. And when you get used to this it's becomes a perpetual bondage. I rather sleep under the bridge to have a control over my home than enjoy choice wine and meals in a family house and watch my freedom and that of my wife and kids lost. But the power is in your hands and knees 13 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by linearity: 9:37pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
I doubt if this tradition is functional anywhere in this country. The tradition presupposes that, the first son must not live or settle down in any other city other than, where his parents have their house ie mostly where he grew up aka their village. In this 21st century, most people leave their village or where they grew up, once they starts their post-secondary education, after which they only pay occasion visit to the place. Rather find ways to cop, why not find ways to escaped the confinement. Can your husband or yourself find a job in another city? At least further enough to make daily commutes back to the house impractical? Look in to that, you guys can use that pretense to rent an apartment. |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Harinholar(f): 9:38pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Pray:Smile..As if u were there... |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Great504: 9:39pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
hahn:To eve add to that, doesn't she reads in the scripture ( except if you are not a Christian though), that for this reason shall a man leave his father and mother...just surprised at some so called family unpleasant customs. 1 Like |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Great504: 9:39pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
hahn:To even add to that, doesn't she reads in the scripture ( except if you are not a Christian though), that for this reason shall a man leave his father and mother...? Just surprised at some so called family unpleasant customs. 1 Like |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Great504: 9:39pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
hahn:To even add to that, doesn't she read in the scripture ( except if you are not a Christian though), that for this reason shall a man leave his father and mother...? Just surprised at some so call family unpleasant customs. 1 Like |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by bilulu(m): 9:42pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
most times you ladies re bossy. learn how to accommodate n no how to adapt cuz it shouldn't always b how u wants tins done. it can b from ur in-laws side though but try n always accommodate. speaking from experience |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Harinholar(f): 9:50pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Pray:Lolsss u no even tell dem make den Pray |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Harinholar(f): 9:53pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
bilulu:Remember it's Four years now ooo...Hummmm 1 Like |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by afamaustin(m): 9:55pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Pray:and u people accepted in this modern world.unless u guys dont hv money to rent one bedroom flat. befor l forget let thunder fire d village prist dat u people will nt rent house and e njoy ur beatiful marriage |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by KingGBsky(m): 9:55pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
searchng4love: Believe me you just wrote a whole lot of nonsense! Because one is married and living in the family house then he is not married? COME ON GET SENSE! 1 Like |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by princeonx: 9:57pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
Lizzyangel:My mom was living with me when I got married. When my wife moved in, it was ww3. Women pick on every single crap they can find. I bet your father inlaw is not the case! Men tend to live well with daughter inlaws and know how to overlook things but women? Having said that, my best advise is to move out with your husband. Get a place of your own even if it's face me I face you! Trust me you will be happier in a public house than a family house. You can sing with dry voice at 5am and no one will complain, you can walk around naked and no one will talk! You can chose not to cook and buy mama put rice and it's fine while in family house you must cook for everybody! I can go on till tomorrow but bottom line is you guys need to move out. Leave that only son bullsh!t and tradition nonsense! The gods that made those rules are not the ones going through hell with you now. 7 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by Nobody: 10:00pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
If you want to cope, accept your situation and work towards retaining their goodwill but remember that you will likely remain a house guest there except maybe you have your own separate quarters. Personally, I won't live with my in-laws permanently or for long. Its never ideal. Fences make good neighbours. 2 Likes |
Re: Living Under Same Roof With Inlaws……how Does It Look Like? by tosino0000(f): 10:00pm On Feb 06, 2017 |
iamGraced:am with u...this is the best advice. Take heed sis. May God help u 1 Like |
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