The answer to why men cheat- by Dele

Adultery has been around forever, and has always given us something to talk about. Most reality TV shows these days center on it, as do gossip mags. But we are close to cracking the big mystery: Why do some men cheat?

This one is about men, so guys i will be going into why women cheat pretty soon. And ladies, use this resource as an eductional tool giving you an insight into the inner workings of a mans mind.

All men know, at some level, that cheating is wrong and can never be justified. From the earliest age, we are taught the virtues of monogamy. “Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife,” bellows our Judeo-Christian consciousness. Yet we still do it. Ladies by he time you finish reading this, it will answer the most common question women ask after a betrayal: “If he loved me, why did he do it?”. That is simply because most men can separate Love and Sex. He might love you to death and still engage in clandestine and forbidden liaisons.

Blame it on the genes
In troubled relationships, cheating can be an easy alternative to the burden of a breakup or the agony of divorce. It’s a quick fix for the sake of the couple’s or the family’s integrity. Some of us have even gone so far as to enact the long-distance code: If you cheat in another postcode, it doesn’t count.

And with evolutionary psychologists telling us that we are wired to lay our seeds in as many women as possible to ensure our genetic survival, adultery is slowly becoming a defensible misdeed, which may explain why women are catching up to men in the game of infidelity.

Because of our insatiable appetite for sex, we men can sometimes only be as faithful as our options.

I have done some research and come up with the Top 10 reasons why men cheat!!!!

Let’s start the countdown…

10. THE WOMAN DOESN’T PUT OUT

Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfilment. With the need for more sex, some men will start “working late” more often.

Or it could just be that the sex has become boring. She doesn’t want to try new things in bed, or won’t perform MouthAction. Some men may cheat because they don’t want their girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their “good girl” image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like Robert de Niro said in Analyze This , “That’s the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!”, refering to why he wouldn’t let his wife give him a BJ.

9 .SHE CHEATED ON ME

So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they’ve had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that’s efficiency.

8.IT’S CHALLENGING AND EXCITING

If you consider the women you sleep with “sexual trophies,” chances are you have already cheated at least once in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of sticking to just one.

7. I CAN GET AWAY WITH IT

“What eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel,” goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.

6.IT BOOSTS HIS EGO

Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine wild oats. in some cases the man just needs to know if he ’s still got it. Men going through mid-life crisis may fall victim to this need for re-assurance especially when the woman at home is making them feel less of a man.
What’s a guy to do when his girlfriend’s-a-naggin’ and opportunity comes-a-knockin’?

5 .OPPORTUNISTS

It’s an uncontested fact that most men can’t say “no” to sex except for the few like me. Although guys aren’t constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it’s a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it’s a Hot hottie on the dance floor. A guy may see it as once-in-a-lifetime chance and turning it down will be criminal. Carpe diem , as they say.

4. MY GIRLFRIEND OR WIFE IS A NAG

Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache. Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin(as one man claimed).

3. WOMEN LET US

Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it’s their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men’s infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to cheat. Just ask Bill Clinton.

2.SHE HAS STOPPED MAKING AN EFFORT

Long-term relationships have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had. Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to her is not as stirring as it once was. Some women take things for granted and stop making an effort to look good and irresistable.

1. THE LOVE HAS GONE

Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you. Separating seems so painful, so radical that it’s almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.

Dele’s Final thought:

In the end, cheating is no joking matter. If you are cheating on your girlfriend or wife, it might be that you are unhappy in the relationship, or that you have issues that you should address. Look at the big picture and see your unfaithfulness as a symptom of a bigger problem.

Cheating might feel good as a quick escape from your problems, but it’s only an anaesthetic — not a long-term solution.

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the truth is that any man that is cheating on his wife it means that there is no love in that relationship attraction is missing ., many men enter in to marriage just for sex alone , attraction and compliment should be consider first before any thing. finally if any man finds him self in a relationship or marriage where there is no love and attraction that leads to cheating, the person should divorce and look for his soul mate that is the only way . happiness is paramount in life. greetings.