Ladies, can you encourage your husband to take a second wife for any reason?

For what reason ma?

I am gonna love this thread.

I don't think there should be any reason why l should ask my husband to take a second wife. Apart from me, it is not godly at all, God hates this type of idea. You don't need to be a christian before you buy into my advise. Taking another wife is not godly. When God made them from the beginning, he made them male and female; one man and one woman. Not one man two or several women. Telling my wife to take another wife is looking for an early grave for my husband. All the health problems he doesn't develop or has before will be surfacing, because of having two wives instead of one. Also, l will not 'cos l want my children to have a colorful and brighter future and this vision cannot come to frution if another woman apart from me is there. You know what l mean. All of us are from polygamy house and we know what our mothers went through with our fathers. Please, do not and I will never.

@Poster, are you infertile?

Se question

for what Nne??

najayi:

I don't think there should be any reason why l should ask my husband to take a second wife. Apart from me, it is not godly at all, God hates this type of idea. You don't need to be a christian before you buy into my advise. Taking another wife is not godly. When God made them from the beginning, he made them male and female; one man and one woman. Not one man two or several women. Telling my wife to take another wife is looking for an early grave for my husband. All the health problems he doesn't develop or has before will be surfacing, because of having two wives instead of one. Also, l will not 'cos l want my children to have a colorful and brighter future and this vision cannot come to frution if another woman apart from me is there. You know what l mean. All of us are from polygamy house and we know what our mothers went through with our fathers. Please, do not and I will never.

How many wife does Solomon had?
Yet he was blessed.

Yes, he was, but what happened to him at the last years of his reign? Pls. try to read the whole books of Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, and Song of Solomon. Then you will hear the conclusion of the whole matter.

If a man can take care of more than one and love them both same, then, that will be his own cup of tea

He cannot love them both with same love, and that is where the problem lies. Looking at things from the beginning of creation, God made only one woman for one man, He has the ability and power to make two or more for the first man, but he made only one. God is telling us to stick to ONLY ONE WOMAN. From my own experience, people that has only one woman lives longer without much health like high blood pressure, hypertension, depression, etc., and their children climb to the top of the ladders, they might not really be rich,live in big houses, but they have peace of mind while those that two or several are not. Please think about this 'cos this is suppose to be a food for thought for those entering into marriage so they won't make a mistake our fathers have made.

najayi:

He cannot love them both with same love, and that is where the problem lies. Looking at things from the beginning of creation, God made only one woman for one man, He has the ability and power to make two or more for the first man, but he made only one. God is telling us to stick to ONLY ONE WOMAN. From my own experience, people that has only one woman lives longer without much health like high blood pressure, hypertension, depression, etc., and their children climb to the top of the ladders, they might not really be rich,live in big houses, but they have peace of mind while those that two or several are not. Please think about this 'cos this is suppose to be a food for thought for those entering into marriage so they won't make a mistake our fathers have made.

But there are some men that can love them both . . . .so wld it be ok, for such men?

You only see them outside, you didn't go to where they lay their heads to sleep, there are many things happening behind the scene. Do not copy anybody, but stand alone in God and let him lead you, ok? Look for someone that comes from a polygamy home, interview such one and you will be surprised of everything you'll be hearing from the fellow. You can only love one woman at a time with this type of love we are talking about. Think deep on this issue and l pray that God will give you the understanding in Jesus name, amen.

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C2H5OH:

@Poster, are you infertile?

Ohhh! you just killed me with laughter right there please dont do that, tltltl

C2H5OH:

@Poster, are you infertile?

mama-gee:

Lol hey don't be angry that's a valid question. Infertile women usually consider that route when faced with difficultie in their marriages.

C2H5OH:

Lol hey don't be angry that's a valid question.  Infertile women usually consider that route when faced with difficultie in their marriages.

How does this thread pertain to a real life event?

Am I psychic? How would you expect me to figure that out? If all threads on nairaland were based on hypothetical situations then your grudge would be understandable.

That's why you should respond to the question you're given.

I did. Do I get an A for Effort?

no self respecting woman would allow her husband to f*ck two or more women.

Most women will never encourage their husband to take a second wife for all reasons. even when they are infertile, they will rather accept adoption than encourage second wife.

Women just hate to share.

Fhemmmy:

Women just hate to share.

some cultures allow for multiple husbands. would you share your wife?

agathamari:

some cultures allow for multiple husbands. would you share your wife?

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Fhemmmy:

No comment

noone likes to share lovers/spouces and no reason they should

agathamari:

some cultures allow for multiple husbands. would you share your wife?

agathamari:

noone likes to share lovers/spouces and no reason they should

But sometimes, it is healthy for the marriage

Fhemmmy:

But sometimes, it is healthy for the marriage

sharing is good when it comes to food on the table and children and thier toys. in the bedroom it only leads to issues, hatered, mistrust, insecurities and jelocy

love how guys see nothing wrong with having multiple wives/gf and the wives should "tolerate" it but the idea of sharing her with another man makes thier skin crawl.  shows the double standard

Maybe it is cos women are built to deal with pain easier than men.

Fhemmmy:

Maybe it is cos women are built to deal with pain easier than men.

im glad to see a man finaly admit that infidelity and polygamy cause pain. i suppose it is a step in the right direction. though they have been scientificaly proven to bear physical pain better then men it is no reason to willingly submit the woman you "love" to emotional or psychological pain (many will say it constitues abuse albiet emotional)