*WOMAN* Encourage Husband To Take A Second Wife? impossibility can never be possible, !

MrCrackles:

You're always shocked.

agathamari:

im glad to see a man finaly admit that infidelity and polygamy cause pain. i suppose it is a step in the right direction. though they have been scientificaly proven to bear physical pain better then men it is no reason to willingly submit the woman you "love" to emotional or psychological pain (many will say it constitues abuse albiet emotional)

Ofcourse, it will be painful to see a man u love doing that and more.
However, i think women needs to find a way to know what makes the man do what he does . . . .women wanna keep a man where he doesnt wanna be kept.

Fhemmmy:

Ofcourse, it will be painful to see a man u love doing that and more.
However, i think women needs to find a way to know what makes the man do what he does . . . .women wanna keep a man where he doesnt wanna be kept.

there is nothing a woman can do to make a man behave. women need to relise this. if he doesnt willingly stay faithful to you why bother? you should not have to "babysit" your man or bend over backward to make him feel like a god in order to get him to be faithful. soem men are pigs and the only thing the women who tolerate such behavior are doing is making a public fool out of themselves.

so what do u suggest to such women that tolerates them?

they should learn self respect. when you are in an abusive relationship (physical, sexual, emotional or psychological) it does no good to you or your children (who in many cases learn to continue/expect this behavior in thier marrages). i know society here looks down on women who are not married or have no children but you have to think of yourselves first and formost. nothing is worth sacraficing your helth and safty (your husband or wife as the case may be puts your life in danger everytime they have sex with someone other then you for not all std are preventable with condoms and condoms are not 100% effective) just to make your neighbors happy. millions of people world wide are happy in secondary relationships or even alone, i dont know of one (save those who are also guilty)who is happy in an abusive/adulterous relationship.

so in one word u advocating divorce or separation?
YES OR NO

i am advising that if you know your spouces ways before marriage you should never have gotten involved in the first place. if you are involved and are being abused/cheated on and he/she doesnt care then yes it is better to find someone who will love you rather then use you

agathamari:

i am advising that if you know your spouces ways before marriage you should never have gotten involved in the first place. if you are involved and are being abused/cheated on and he/she doesnt care then yes it is better to find someone who will love you rather then use you

find someone else and the other person cheats on you . . . . .what is next?

I do understand that some men, no matter what you do, they will cheat, and that is chronic, however, some are doing it to say something and no one seems to hear them, even though, they are screaming, there are so many men that are in their closet and yet the wives think they have a man that is by their side, there are more men dying within and playing with their toys and sometimes, the toy cld come in many shapes and sizes.
Have you ever watched the DVD by T,D Jakes called He-Motion? i will advice you to find it and watch and you will see what is happenng to many men.

Olorun ko ni je.

I can share anything else but my husband,

hotstuff06:

Olorun ko ni je.

I can share anything else but my husband,

u wont have to share him jare, cos u treating him well.

hotstuff06:

Olorun ko ni je.

I can share anything else but my husband,