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Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by enomakos(m): 1:39pm On Feb 19, 2010 |
it is human nature but very common with blacks |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by bebe4u(f): 4:59pm On Feb 19, 2010 |
will share my experience and lesson learnt. @shinatu, please note, there are two different people i am makin reference to, with different reactions to different situations. and i believe we have choice of what we want to give out of the lot we have. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by gidson12(m): 8:41pm On Feb 19, 2010 |
@ poster From ur story, the comment of ur aunties might not really mean dat they are jelous. U are 2 quick 2 conclud dat dey are jealous. I dont c any jealousy there |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by geogentle: 9:36pm On Feb 19, 2010 |
Maybe the question should have been why are people always jealous of one's success and then the answer would have been 'because it is in the human nature to be jealous. However we have a positive and negative jealousy. The negative one is the root of all evils while the positive tends to motivate one to work harder. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by pete(m): 3:13am On Feb 20, 2010 |
I see the subject is getting very interesting and safe too. Please lets keep it sweet. @cute4u, not sure if I got the ID right, but hey, its true what happen or is happening to you is very common. Just as another poster said, its better to talk less, play safe and reduce the amount of jealousy you stir. Personally, I was living between 40 and 42K per year, for a few years and most of my friends were happy with me, once I took professional exams, got qualified, stepped it up, it was bad belly all the way, stuff like promotions, you can't hide them and I do not agree that, you owe a mentor anything other than respect. When you get promoted more than he is, sure would be jealous, sure you would too. I would, maybe for a few hours, then I'll be happy for you. Its natural, lets avoid it and sometimes, understand the people who safely exhibit it. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by Nobody: 3:13pm On Feb 20, 2010 |
@ dominique, Do not assume everyone on here is Nigerian or even African, some expats may even frequent this forum. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by Theblessed(f): 5:44pm On Feb 20, 2010 |
Hmmmm! They say some mother's do have them. It's in every family and a family that says they don't have it, I can only say, lucky you but wait until you do! Jealousy is inborn in all of us. It all depends on how you handle yours - even our God Almighty is a jealous and avenging God (Nahum Chpt.1 v.2), remember that? Then, think of us mortal beings! I will advice, you help them the best you can but, hold on to your privacy cos' that's your power in controlling family dynamics. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by mojojojo(m): 8:51pm On Feb 20, 2010 |
enomakos:My friend Oyinbo are more jealous and envious than us. Most of us are deeply religious and believe that God that provides for everyone, Oyinbo do not have that belief hence are more prone to jealousy and envy. Having said that, envy and jealousy are not characteristic to any race or tribe. Fundamentally, we are all the same. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by BEDEIKE(m): 2:40pm On Feb 21, 2010 |
Its a very bad thing to be pissed at others peace.Anyway no babalawo fashioned against me will prosper, Period.
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Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by ibabalol: 12:56am On Feb 22, 2010 |
i have noticed that locally based Nigerians are jealous of the ones that have traveled out. The Nigerian police must not find out that you have american passport or you will be in soup. your every action is judged by anyone one around you. they say things like, " this is Nigeria" " they don go clean toilet for abroad finish come dey form for here" Young ladies think they can take advantage of you. When you speak with a foreign accent they accuse you of 'forming.' Friends and Relatives expect you to solve all their problems. When you import a used car, they try to devalue it by saying " moto wey oyinbo don use tire come turn am to scrap na im dem dey but take come do shakara. but given the opportunity, these same people would kill just to lay their hands on a visa. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by MrCrackles(m): 12:58am On Feb 22, 2010 |
Poster I dont know. . . . |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by pete(m): 3:48am On Feb 22, 2010 |
@Ibabalol, I'll hate to admit that, you're right and once again, that's the human nature right there. When I first left Nigeria, I had a college prof. who emailed and called just to show me how dissatisfied he was, that I left the "struggle". How I'm not true Nigerian. Two years later he was out of Nigeria and told me, he is never going back. The "this is Nigeria" thing? sure, once again its just human. Lets not run the risk of turning this topic to abroad guys Vs. home based folks. That topic is usually fiercely heated. But we just can't deny the fact that, there is iota of jealousy mixed with anger at the guys who are back home visiting. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by abbeygee(m): 6:57am On Feb 22, 2010 |
jealous, jealous and jealous, it has bcum habits in Nigeria esp. if u are frm a polygamous settings, Am talkin 4m experience,may God help us. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by ifytess(m): 5:19pm On Feb 23, 2010 |
UPS i always know that ,there must be a devil among them ,but one thing i know is that ,the will not stoop me from shining and any of them that will make a try (HOLY GHOST, FIRE will burn them . Amen |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by Nobody: 8:12am On Feb 25, 2010 |
All of the time. Indeed it is a sad reality but some people just dont have a clean heart, rather than acknowledge the blessings infront of them they are eager to peak at those of the next man or woman, misery needs company is the Honest to God truth. The best way to deal with these people is to pray for them, love them from a distance and avoid them and their ways. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by Nobody: 8:08pm On Feb 25, 2010 |
BEDE.IKE: BIG UPS! nice avatar btw. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by Nobody: 2:48pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
sophy09:lol at this |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by tpiaT: 2:49pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
enomakos: i wonder why. |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by Nobody: 2:50pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
janykute:for where |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by Nobody: 2:53pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
cultey:hmmm |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by Nobody: 2:57pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
willoughby:seriously,I love dis,na God go punish family members wey dey jealous about ur life,I think nigerian mentality is vry bad |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by KanwuliaJara: 8:26pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Naaaaaa I don't have such CHRISLAMIC relatives! Actually, I don't come from such "beggardly" tribe of ne'er-do-wells! My dear people too proud o! They dun givva PHOCK what you gat or do nat gat! No matter how wretched, WE DO NOT BEG for MONEY or HONEY! |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by nwakaibeya1: 12:54am On Jul 05, 2015 |
FAMILY wickedness,evil marine,occult wickednes has been the problem of humanbeigns since the creation of humanbeigns by God if you read bible carefully you will understand this truth and it is only LIGHT and JESUSCHRIST POWER that destroys them and put them on chain from heaven if only you have access to that unbelevable POWER ,THE POWER OF GO AND SIN NO MORE |
Re: Why Are Relatives Always Jealous Of One's Success? by tpiander: 1:23am On Jul 05, 2015 |
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